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 SDFemDom4cuck

 Femdom Dominatrix

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 5' 3"

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 Hetero

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 05/23/05

 

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Evidently it is not quite clear enough. I am not here to make friends. I am here for a specific reason and I suggest reading my ENTIRE profile. I will no longer waste time responding to those who cannot comprehend what my profile says. Sonnet 57 best describes what I seek. Submission isn't a choice one makes; it simply is who you are. If you're confused, unsure of your ability to live this life, or looking for some kink on the side I won't be interested. If you understand and accept who and what you are then I might be interested. D/s does not define my life but it is an important part of it. If you are unable to hold an intelligent conversation that does not revolve around kink or D/s I'm going to become bored very quickly. If you are unable to do anything but comment on my looks or send inane one line intros then I am not interested. Intelligence, humor, honesty, and sincerity are far more important to me than your continuous attempts to obtain material to jerk off to. If you are married, engaged, or otherwise involved in a vanilla relationship and simply seeking to have a dirty little secret on the side stop reading now and move along to someone else. I am a strict disciplinarian, a firm believer in FLR, long term/permanent chastity, orgasm denial, corporal punishment/behavior modification, ball busting, and cuckolding. If you don't understand any of those terms I'm not going to explain them to you. Google is your friend; use it. I know exactly what I want and refuse to settle for less. I do not respond to inane one sentence messages. Introductions riddled with spelling and grammar errors will also be deleted without response.I f you start with nothing but hello, hi, or a comment about my looks I am not going to respond to you. If you introduce yourself but can't discuss anything beyond kink, ask me sexually explicit questions, or request to go offline immediately prior to my requesting it I will roast your balls quicker than marshmallows over a bonfire. I am not here for your sexual entertainment or fantasy. Writing an intelligent introduction about why you feel you would be a great potential is the guarenteed way of getting a response. Evidently what I am seeking isn't clear enough. I am seeking a Female Led Relationship leading to a Cuckold Marriage. No more than 10 years younger/older than my age.

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Journal Entries:
11/20/2016 7:21:35 PM
Heading out of town for the Thanksgiving holiday. Not much of a signal in the cornfield so sending an early Happy Thanksgiving now! Will catch up on messages when I return!

11/8/2016 10:16:34 PM
I truly fear for my country given the way this election seems to be leaning. Truly terrified. May have to open up my search overseas!

11/1/2016 8:17:28 PM
Cuckolding is a dynamic that covers a wide spectrum. Each Cuckoldresses is different from every other. There is no set or preconceived ideologies aside from what the two people involved agree to enjoy together. Even that evolves over the course of the relationship from what it may have been at the beginning. That being said I can only speak of what has worked for me; your mileage may vary... In the end it is a relationship like any other with the addition of kink. The foundation is still one of compatibility, communication, trust, and love. While it is great to start with knowing there is a basis of shared kink interest there still needs to be compatibility on multiple levels. Because if all there is to a relationship is a shared kink then you are going to be pretty miserable in those hours that dont involve kink. Real life is a very real part of a 24/7 relationship that many people forget about. Work deadlines are reality, family issues are reality, illness is a reality. It is not just her in leather wielding a whip 24/7 fantasy. Both sides need to be with someone they enjoy spending time with on both a vanilla and a kink level. For me, I look at a potential and ask myself if they are someone I would want as my best friend? Would I want to spend the rest of my life with this person on a vanilla level? If the answer to both of them is yes then there is a good possible potential. No one is kinky 24/7 365. There is a balance of kink and vanilla that two people discover in life together that is as individual as the two people involved. Best of luck in finding what works best for you!

10/3/2016 1:14:44 AM
I just love being on call overnight! Sarcasm at its finest. Seriously, I love my co-workers and I am happy to cover for someone during a major life event but this schedule may just be the end of Me. Why can I remember the days when I went out dancing until dawn and was still in my office by 8am bright eyed and cum filled?? Sigh... Just another 8 weeks of these overnight/double shifts to go! Yay Me!

9/21/2016 2:16:28 AM
Nothing like a shattered phone on an on call night! Normally I would at least try to sleep and the phone would wake Me if needed. I shattered my first phone ever today and it keeps losing more functioning as the night goes on. So instead of getting even a few hours sleep I am awake, monitoring an IM for the off chance an emergency occurs. Yay!!! On a positive note.... My insomnia means I am accustomed to going without sleep for a day or two on a regular basis. I spent most of the evening perusing My original stomping grounds in the forums over on the message Board side. Returning after my previous year+ away makes me wonder what in the world has been going on over there! Kind of sad to see. It used to be a lively place filled with helpful information and helpful people.

9/11/2016 1:16:13 PM
This needs repeating! ..."Someone asked about what i consider to be a cuckold's duties. The most important duties i would consider are surrender, devotion, loyalty, respect, openness, and obedience. Those duties tie intricately together. Cuckolding, to me, is ultimately an act of love and obedience to one's Goddess. No submissive in their right mind fantasizes day and night about being cuckolded. This to me, would show that such a man is more dedicated to his own fantasies and pleasure than his Goddess. It is my duty to make sure my Goddess, is pleased, cared for, and satisfied on all levels; emotionally, domestically, financially, as well as sexually. Ultimately my duties are those that You assign to me, to know my place, to surrender, to be loyal, devoted and loving, respectful and caring, and willing to do anything and everything to make sure You are pleased on all levels." Well said and the correct mindset!

9/10/2016 12:50:28 PM
Definitely some wisdom that might be of use. The measure of a man's character is not in his ability to apologize and ask for forgiveness. The true measure of a man's character is in his ability to avoid engaging in acts that require apologizing to begin with.

9/4/2015 11:26:05 PM
There seems to be an ongoing theme to the mail I am receiving lately. They all seem to center on whether or not a sub/cuck enjoys what I do to them. I think I need to set up a custom reply that goes something like this... Dear X: you truly do not understand the first thing about submission do you? Frankly I could not give a rat's posterior region regarding what you do or don't enjoy when it comes to what I do to a sub/cuck. I really don't. Submission, at it's marrow, is about selflessness, sacrifice, and servitude. If you happen to enjoy something I do to you, good for you. Congratulations, that is a bonus for you!! Consider yourself lucky! But the core of submission, of giving up control to another human being, is about doing even the things you abhor the most, alongside the things you love, in order to please the one that Owns you. If all you are looking for is someone who will indulge all those fantasies in your head that make that little dangly bit between your legs stand up, please do Me a favor and go see a Pro Domme. She will spread your every fantasy out like a buffet in Vegas and serve each and every one to you on a Platinum Platter of selfish indulgence. For a price. But that isn't submission, not even close. Not by a mile. Best of luck. Ms Jo

8/29/2015 12:38:07 AM
I admit I'm pretty extreme. I believe in long term/permanent chastity. I don't believe iin allowing a sub/cuck to masturbate or orgasm. After explaining this to someone I was asked why not, if they earn that reward through service then why shouldn't they be allowed that as a reward? My answer to that will follow, and I have subscribed to this belief for over 25 years: Because if his goal in serving is to earn orgasm then he truly isn't serving Me at all. he is only serving himself...serving Me in order to obtain what he wants. i.e masturbation and orgasm. It could be any Domme providing his fetish. In My opinion service and submission are based on doing the things that one abhors the most, not just what one enjoys, in order to please the one that owns them. Service, and knowing I am pleased/happy with his service should be the greatest and only reward desired.

8/23/2015 6:15:25 PM
I love how someone will write and I will respond in kind but they will swear I didn't and get nasty about it. Try checking your bulk mail! Chances are it has gone there due to the parameters you have set. So next time before you call Me a hypocritical bitch then block Me only to apologize later after finding My messages in your bulk mail....check there first. I don't think I'll be considering someone that reacts to rejection with a diatribe of what a hypocritical c*nt I am.

8/16/2015 7:05:13 PM
I am utterly baffled by a long time phenomenon. Be warned this is a looong vent! I have amazing conversations with males claiming to be cucks. They swear they are ready to live the life I describe. Conversations that cover a variety of vanilla topics, great chemistry for a period of time and then suddenly...POOF! They disappear only to resurface weeks, months, even years later saying they were overwhelmed and scared, that they weren't ready to live the life of a cuck in reality. What is wrong with human beings today? What has happened to being honest and open from the begining? If someone says they are serious and ready then why shouldn't I believe that they are as serious as I am about living this life? If you aren't serious just say that! If you are in a vanilla relationship/marriage say so! There are plenty of other Dominant Women that are also married and looking for someone part time. But stop wasting My time claiming to be serious and then disappear or give me some bullshit excuse of why you can't move forward. I'm an adult! Have an adult conversation and be honest ffs! Not ready? Great...NEXT! No longer interested...fine, NEXT! Met someone else that is a better match...Congratulations! NEXT! How difficult is it to be honest? To have respect for another human being? It isn't even about D/s. I'm talking about basic common courtesy and good manners. If I am talking with someone and come to the conclusion that we aren't a good match I have the good manners to say that and wish them luck rather than leave them hanging or continuing to waste their time. Are good manners and common courtesy a dying vestige of today's tech driven world? Perhaps I expect too much put of My fellow human beings. I'm just baffled at how one builds a relationship, whether vanilla, D/s, or Cuckold that isn't based on honest open communication from day 1. Absolutely and utterly baffled by it. Do gentlemen no longer exist? Is chivalry dead? Are good manners, common courtesy, and respect for our fellow human beings a thing of the past? Time to take a break from CS for awhile. Maybe a long while. Friends can still contact Me but I think My search is on hold for awhile.

4/12/2015 12:30:13 PM
I was recently asked if I thought cucks were born or led into cuckolding. The old Nature vs Nurture. I feel that some males are born cuckolds and many do not accept or realize it until they are brought into it. Although I think they certainly have that little voice in the back of their brain that tells them they really aren't a man. It takes the right Cuckoldress that confirms out loud all those little things that voice has been whispering for years. So I definitely believe cuckolds are born that way. They know what they are. They simply need the right Cuckoldress to help them embrace and accept their proper place within the relationship.

2/22/2015 11:55:58 PM
Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings in the heavens from which the love of our lost loved ones pours out to shine down upon us and tell us of their happiness. Inuit Proverb

12/28/2014 12:42:45 AM
Next to a couple of Sonnets I would have to say that Rousseau probably describes the perfect cuck mindset in memory. May have to read Confessions again. It has been far too many years. "To fall at the feet of an imperious mistress, obey her mandates, or implore pardon, were for me the most exquisite enjoyments..." -Jean-Jacques Rousseau-Confessions 1782

12/17/2014 11:03:17 PM
Some very interesting conversations recently have unexpectedly (and delightfully) renewed My faith that someone truly gets My thoughts and beliefs regarding FLR, cuckolding, and chastity. Looks like I wont be resuming My search after the New Year after all! What a lucky cuck!! ;^)

11/20/2014 12:17:05 AM
"I was filled with such a dangerous delicious intoxication that I could have walked straight off the steps into the air, climbing on the strength of my own drunkenness into the stars. And the intoxication, as I knew even then, was the recklessness of infinite possibility." Doris Lessing The Golden Notebook " Existence is this, I thought, a start of joy, a stab of pain, an intense pleasure, veins that pulse under the skin, there is no other truth to tell.” Elena Ferrante Days of Abandonment "Reason is no match for desire: when desire is purely and powerfully felt, it becomes a kind of reason of its own.” Eleanor Catton The Luminaries

9/27/2014 1:02:30 PM
Ahhh yes Nothing like a good book of poetry to pass the time while cooking. Some Browning next, and the on to Frost. She dealt her pretty words like Blades - How glittering they shone - And every One unbared a Nerve Or wantoned with a Bone - 

9/27/2014 12:07:26 PM
The last three weeks have been perhaps the most stress filled and exhausting weeks since My move. However I'm sitting here smiling non stop the past two days. Balance is a beautiful thing. It's good to be The Queen!

8/16/2014 5:27:22 PM
After returning from out of town and trying to catch up on email I am noticing a bit of a baffling and irritating phenomenom. Evidently being a Dominant Female and Cuckoldress on a kink site seems to mean that gives sub males the right to ask the most invasive, personal, and intimate questions regarding My sex life. Really??? Would you approach a woman in a vanilla setting and suddenly start asking questions about her sexual preferences and activities without even knowing her? Yet here it seems perfectly acceptable and correct behavior. I find Myself truly wondering what happened to being a gentleman. To chivalry, etiquette, and treating a Lady like a Lady. As submissive one should probably consider and realize that you only get one opportunity to make a first impression. Your entire future is based on that opening introduction. Why not make it impressive and interesting?? Why does a Woman even need to remind a supposed submissive of something like this? The single benefit is that it separates the wheat from the chaff quite quickly.

8/13/2014 4:05:48 AM
A flock of sheep that leisurely pass by One after one; the sound of rain, and bees Murmuring; the fall of rivers, winds and seas, Smooth fields, white sheets of water, and pure sky - I've thought of all by turns, and still I lie Sleepless...

8/5/2014 2:16:32 AM
O sleep, O gentle sleep, Nature's soft nurse, how have I frightened thee? That thou no more will weigh my eyelids down, And steep my senses in forgetfulness?

7/4/2014 4:59:01 PM
I recently commiserated with someone regarding the lack of quality people to be found in general and I realized that the advice I gave might come in handy to a frustrated sub/cuck during their search. Take the time during your search to improve yourself and your skills in order to bring more to the table. Far too many sub/cucks are so enamored and focused on the sexual/erotic side of D/s that they forget there is a reality based vanilla side to the relationship the seek as well. They forget, or ignore, that submission and service exist outside of the bedroom. Use some of your time to improve those service skills. Take a cooking class and perfect a few classic dishes and then practice them until you have them down right. Maybe a class in Massage to be able to go beyond a basic back rub. Learn how to do basic home repairs and landscaping. Focus towards true service in a future relationship. Use the time you have now during your search to make yourself indespensible when you do finally find the relationship you are looking for. Even while looking you should always be focused on how best you can serve your future Owner and be the best you can be.

7/1/2014 1:50:56 PM
Someone brought up this journal post from almost 2 years ago today. It is as true now as it was then.... Something to ponder...Whether I'm involved or alone I will always be happy. That is based on the fact that I accepted who I am and embraced my "truth" a long time ago. I refuse to live a lie; to change in order to fit a mold based on society's ideology of what love or relationships are supposed to be. I cannot be a sheeple. I would rather stand alone outside the fence and be me with no regrets than to be a part of the herd in order to be accepted by playing someone I'm not. I know exactly who I am. Do you?

6/29/2014 7:51:07 PM
What an interesting weekend. The best part was hearing an old voice from the past. An absolute delight catching up. ;^)

12/12/2013 11:17:23 PM

What an amazing article regarding worshiping women. Not in the way you would expect...

 

 

By Arjuna Ardagh

A few days ago, after a particularly exquisite evening with my wife Chameli, I put this post up on Facebook before going to bed:

"I have had many, many great teachers in my life. A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep in the bedroom. My marriage has become the guru, the salvation, the muse, the crack through which the divine shines through."

When I woke up the next morning, there were the usual offerings of people who liked the post as well as comments. One man had the vulnerability and courage to post this on facebook:

"Thank you Arjuna for this sharing, I feel like [I'm] in front of a choice which is between feeling envious of what you have and I don't, or instead to decide that 'I want that too,' and, as you show, it is possible..."

I was touched.

Over the next days, I got several more messages like this from men: vulnerable men, honest men, rare and courageous men. They came in as private messages on Facebook or through our website, and they all said basically the same thing:

"I read your Facebook post. I want what you have. Show me how to get it."

So, friends, here it is. The short guide on how to worship a woman, and why it's the wisest thing that a man can do. First of all, lets pop a few very understandable doubts that you might have. I'm familiar with all of them.

1. "I'm wounded and damaged in my relationships to the feminine."
So am I, dear brother, so am I. My parents divorced in a messy way when I was four. I grew up alone with my mother. She did her very best to provide for me, but she was unhappy and insecure. By the time I started to have relationships with women myself in my early teens, I discovered that I had a mountain of resentments, fears, and separation in my relation to the feminine. The conscious practice of worship can become a part of healing the wounds.

2. "Arjuna, you're lucky. You've got an incredible partner. I'm together with a woman who's not like Chameli."

I really don't have the ultimate answer to that doubt or question. It certainly could seem to be the case that I've been lucky in finding a great woman, but here's how it happened for me. I've had a lot of less lucky connections in my life. I've experienced my share of the manipulative side of the feminine: the victim, the rageful, the vengeful. And I have seen the ugly side of the masculine psyche in myself. A few weeks prior to meeting Chameli, my wife, something deep and profound shifted in me, which I believe can shift for anyone in the same way.

3. "I don't have a partner at all, and I sometimes doubt if I'll ever meet anybody."
Being with a partner where worship is not flowing, or not being with a partner at all, are basically two aspects of the same situation: you've had an intuition or a glimpse of the possibilities of a deeper love, and you want more of it. The solutions are the same.

4. "I feel my heart is closed down. I live in my head a lot, and I wouldn't even know what worship was if it broke into my house at 2 o'clock in the morning and held me at gunpoint."
That's where the whole thing starts for all of us, when we realize that we don't yet know how to love. And that's that the big question that you have to consider: "Is that okay with me?" Never mind how much money you make, or how many friends you have on Facebook, no matter how nice a house you live in, or no matter how big a car you drive, no matter how impressive your partner's bust size, or how much you meditate and become spiritual... have you loved for real, in a total and undefended way? If not, and here's where you have to be honest with yourself, is that OK with you? Is it OK to die one day without the heart's gift having been fully given?

Eight or nine years ago, I came to that question in myself, exactly that, and I discovered that the answer was, if I was was raw and vulnerable and uncomplicated, that it was actually not OK. If I died one day without having fully loved, it would not have truly been a life well lived.

Many many years ago, I went to Bali for a vacation, on my own. I met up with some other young travelers there and we hired a Jeep to take us on a tour of the island. We drove up right to the highest point of the island, where Tourists don't usually go. Our guide took us to one of the most sacred temples. It was surrounded by a big brick wall with an ornate entrance. After removing our shoes and wrapping scarves around our heads, we stepped together through this entrance. Inside, there was a short courtyard and then another brick wall with another entrance. After more preparations of lighting incense and giving offerings, we stepped through the second entrance. We were allowed to go through the opening in one more wall, but that was it. All together there were ten walls around the deity in the middle. Hindus could go beyond the fourth wall. Devotees of that particular deity could go beyond the fifth wall, and so it went on. The only people allowed to approach the deity directly were those who had given their lives completely and totally to its worship. Everyone else could come a little closer, a little closer, to the innermost beauty, but not all the way to the center.

I'm not a big believer of the worship of statues, but there's a beautiful symbolism to what I saw there, because a woman's heart is just like that. At the essence of every woman's heart is the divine feminine. It contains everything that has ever been beautiful, or lovely, or inspiring, in any woman, anywhere, at any time. The very essence of every woman's heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of inspiration, the peak of sexual desirability, the peak of soothing, healing love. The peak of everything. But it's protected, for good reason, by a series of concentric walls. To move inwardly from one wall to the next requires that you intensify your capacity to devotion, and as you do so, you are rewarded with Grace. This is not something you can negotiate verbally with a woman. She doesn't even know consciously how to open those gates herself. They are opened magically and invisibly by the keys of worship.

If you stand on the outside of the outermost wall, all you have available to you, like many other unfortunate men, is pornography. For $1.99 a minute, you can see her breasts, maybe her vagina, and you can stimulate yourself in a sad longing for deeper love.

Step through another gate, and she will show you her outer gift-wrapping. She'll look at you with a certain twinkle in her eye. She'll answer your questions coyly. She'll give you just the faintest hint that there is more available.

Step through another gate with your commitment, with your attention, with the small seedlings of devotion, and she'll open her heart to you more. She'll share with you her insecurities, the way that she's been hurt, her deepest longings. Some men will back away at this point. They realize that the price they must pay to go deeper is more than they are willing to give. They start to feel a responsibility. But for those few who step though another gate, they come to discover her loyalty, her willingness to stick with you no matter what, her willingness to raise your children, stick up for you in conversation, and, if you are lucky, even pick up your dirty socks now and then. And so it goes on. You've got the gist by now.

Somewhere around the second wall from the center, she casts the veils of her personality aside, and shows you that she is both a human being and also a portal into something much greater than that. She shows you a wrath that is not hers, but all women's. She shows you a patience that is also universal. She shows you her wisdom. At this point you start to experience the archetypes of women, who have been portrayed as goddesses and mythological figures in every tradition.

Then, at the very center, in the innermost temple itself, all the layers of your devotion are flooded with reward all at once. You discover the very essence of the feminine, and in a strange way that is not exactly romantic, but profoundly sacred all the same, you realize that you could have got here with any woman if you had just been willing to pass through all the layers of initiation. Any woman is every woman, and every woman is any woman at the same time. When you love a woman completely, at the very essence of her being, this is the one divine feminine flame. It is what has made every woman in history beautiful. It's the flame behind the Mona Lisa, and Dante's Beatrice, and yes, also Penelope Cruz and Heidi Klum. You discover the magic ingredient which has lead every man to fall in love with a woman.

When you learn how to pay attention to the essence of the feminine in this way, you fall to the floor in full body prostration, tears soaking your cheeks and clothes, and you wonder how you could have ever taken Her, in all of Her forms, for granted even for a second.

So just a couple small questions remain. First, do you get what I'm talking about? Does it jive for you? Does it make sense? And second, if yes, how are you going to get from where you are now to being able to the full capacity of your heart to love for real? I'd be glad to share more about this if we get to know each other better, but here's how you get started.

First, do what I did, and create an altar in your room dedicated to Divine Feminine. Put only symbols of the feminine on it. I have a painting called "Beatrix" by Dante Gabriel Rossetti. I have a statue of Quan Kin. Populate your altar with anything that reminds you of the feminine, and spend a few minutes of the day in worship. Yes, worship. Adoration. Devotion. Offer up rose petals. Offer poems. Offer everything, and beg Her to reveal Her innermost essence to you. This will work miracles whether you're single and waiting to meet the right woman or whether you're already in relationship and long to meet your woman in a deeper way.

The second way to get started: make a practice, a discipline, of telling your woman, or any woman, ten times a day something which you adore about her. "I love the smell of your shampoo." "I love the way you laugh." "The color of your eyes is so beautiful." Of course, you need to keep it appropriate. You can go as far out on a limb as you like if you're in relationship with a woman, but with anyone else remember the gates. Keep you communication appropriate to the gate number that you find yourself at. Appreciation the curve of a woman's breast, for example, if she happens to be the cashier at the supermarket, would equate more to harassment than worship.


10/4/2013 7:52:57 PM

Even though My profile clearly states I'm not looking I still get several messages a day from those wanting to apply to be a sub/cuck. It never fails to surprise Me when I make comment on spelling errors in introductory emails I receive back responses that range from snarly to down right rude.

 

Here's the thing...I'm pointing out those errors for a reason and, believe it or not, it isn't to be a bitch. Its to HELP you. Somehow it is never seen through their eyes as being a kindness.

 

Would you apply for a position at a company with a resume riddled with typographical and grammatical errors? I would hope not. Yet to apply for the position of sub I continually get one sentence notes that have half the words misspelled.

 

Personally, I see it like this: If someone can't put the effort into something as simple as writing a proper sentence to introduce themselves; then how lazy are they going to be when it comes to actual service? Come on people. you write a two word note and one of those words is misspelled? Even if I were looking...I would bypass that note and the person that wrote it as far too lackadaisical for Me. 


5/8/2013 2:50:37 PM

Seriously people! If you cannot read the entire profile and follow the directions within don't continue to write complaining that I won't respond when it tells you that is EXACTLY what will happen!

 

Is there anyone on CM between 40-60 with a shred of intelligence that can actually follow directions, is attractive, SINGLE and understands what an FLR cuckold marriage is about? FFS!


5/6/2013 11:11:33 AM

While I'm truly flattered by the number of 20 and 30 somethings contacting Me its just not possible to see that as a reality.

 

I appreciate the interest but its just not going to happen.


5/5/2013 8:57:09 PM

Arrived in the Pittsburgh area. Its gorgeous! The people are amazing. I love it here already!

 

 


4/30/2013 9:47:23 AM
Holy Schnikey 28 hrs and counting until I leave for Pittsburgh. My brain may explode prior to that. On a happy note I've had the biggest smile on my face for the last 3 days. Everything in life is falling into place. It is so damn good to be THE QUEEN!

4/5/2013 9:50:57 PM
It is official. I am moving to the Pittsburgh PA area. Not anywhere I ever expected to move to but the Universe takes us where we need to go. Looking forward to a new position/opportunity and the adventure of discovering a new city.

3/20/2013 6:21:05 PM
Huge decison to be made. Possible move east in the near future. Decisions. Decisions. Luckily I have always believed change is positive.

10/17/2012 5:17:45 PM
Its amazing how removing negative toxic people from my life allows the positive ones in. Loving life and can't remember the last time I was this happy. Its so very good to be The Queen! ;^)

10/14/2012 9:46:52 PM
Ladies If your're involved with a "sub" in DC please contact me and we can compare notes.

9/15/2012 1:57:25 PM
I don't respond to inane one line messages. If you desire an actual response I would suggest actually reading my profile. Starting a dialogue by saying something interesting is more likely to get a response than mundane one liners. Seriously, are there any intelligent people on CM anymore?

8/22/2012 12:26:38 AM
If you can't do any better than a one line intro riddled with grammatical and typographical errors I'm not going to reply; so don't waste my time.

8/12/2012 2:32:08 PM
If you're not within 10 years of age to me either younger or older I won't be interested.

8/3/2012 2:44:00 PM
Something to ponder...Whether I'm involved or alone I will always be happy. That is based on the fact that I accepted who I am and embraced my "truth" a long time ago. I refuse to live a lie; to change in order to fit a mold based on society's ideology of what love or relationships are supposed to be. I cannot be a sheeple. I would rather stand alone outside the fence and be me with no regrets than to be a part of the herd in order to be accepted by playing someone I'm not. I know exactly who I am. Do you?

6/12/2012 12:09:09 PM
To blog or not to blog...that is the question.

5/25/2011 12:25:23 PM
Fear of what could be is what keeps us stagnant. Everything worrth having is on the other side of fear. Everything is possible!

4/25/2011 10:51:39 AM
Acta non verba..... Ad meliora!

3/24/2011 10:58:07 AM
I would rather die regretting the things I've done in life than spend my final hours regretting the things I had the opportunity to do but didnt.

3/23/2011 11:53:17 AM
Back from Cali. Evidently I brought rain and snow with me. PS LAX you suck...and not in a good way. Never again!

3/16/2011 11:49:25 PM
Off to the West coast for a week. Happy St Patrick's Day!

11/25/2010 2:49:17 PM
Let's be Thankful for our men and women in uniform serving far from home. They are our sons & daughters, our family and friends. They sacrifice far more than holidays away from those that love them on a daily basis. We should be thankful for th every day, but most especially today. Thank you.

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