what are your needs and wants? do you want to feel helpless? do you want to feel captured? these are the idea from a vinilla. a sub/slave knows what they are looking for is freedom. the freedom to be your true self. the true self that no one in your vinilla life knows. thats were trust comes in. not trust that you will be harmed (another vinilla idea) because the body will mend. no its trust of the sub/slaves freedom. mainly because most cant live the life. most are part timers because they can't unplug from the vinilla world.

when a person has a new grasp on their true self a single word comes to.the surface. Need. once you figure out that your mind or body or soul or all three drive you express your need. so once you kneel, open your mouth,bend over or strip for the first time with the knowlage that it is to satisfy another.  for the first time your being used as you were ment to be as a sub/slave feeding your need

Sir

wow

why does it take so long to come to terms with your true self??  I understand that you have friends, family, co-workers and people that you meet that you try to hide your true self from.  The question that I have is this...are you on that list as well?

I read about how your smart, have a job, have a life and yet you profess that you don't want to become a "door mat".  That your not into being punished, humiliation, or just sex and yet you state that you "want" a Dom. 

If I may:

-punishment only hurts for a time and the surrender you give to the pain will help you give control to another.

-humiliation only last until your next climax once that happens the humiliation fades

-as to your only function is being used for sex-as we are men and if its quantity we are looking for you will soon be left for the next standing up woman

My advice is to learn, be open minded, understand yourself and don't lie to yourself

SCVTrainer

we meet for coffie

youve told me your a slave looking for a Dom

I express that i want your pantiesand for you to go to the uni-sex bathroom and take them off, leaving the door un-locked. as i enter you smile, your looking at our reflection. i put my hand into your hair pulling your head back.  i kiss yourlips as irun.my other hand across your back.side. i pull up your skirt, running my nails on your legs as i move upwards. you shutter

So here are my questions for you, and I expect answers: 

1.  Is the main reason you fantasize about BDSM control and if not, what is it that attracts you to BDSM?

2. What factors in your personal life make you desire being controlled?

3. What fantasies do you have about being controlled?

4. What are you looking for when being controlled: balance, sexual fantasies, stress management, natural state of sexuality?

5. What other comments do you have about control?

Please share your opinions and thoughts with me.

learning every day...in the vinilla world

a guy walks by a car, says "nice car" the owner says thank you with pride

a guy walks by a woman with a nice butt and says "nice body" the woman (not an owner) answers with distain "its not ment for your comments"

now lets change to the BDSM world

a guy walks by a sub/slave/bottom and says "nice" the owner says with pride thanks

a guy walks by an un-owned sub/slave/bottom and says "your brave" the un-owned says "Im not ment for your comments you don't own me"

I know who you are…the question I ask myself “is she worth it?”….

I know who you are….you are  in your little box…your safe closet..Working on whatever is the latest drama issue you have Dominating you…

I know who you are…should I care withers or not you know who you are?...should I wonder where you came from or who you where with before you got here…

I know who you are…should I wait for you…will you be able to figure it out before its time to start the struggle all over again…

I know who you are….should I have concern when you think you’re in charge…..watching you flail about fighting off the Dominates that are trying to throw you a life line

I know who you are….should I walk on by and not give you a second thought….allowing you to live as something you’re not because that’s what everyone expects you to be

I know who you are….when you’re asked “are you a top or a bottom”…with preprogrammed response you say you’re a top…is that an imprinting from family and friends and work

I know who you are…should you perpetrate your projections….are you listening to yourself….are you of the mind set slavery equals death of a life

I know who you are…should I step in and help you…will it take force or will it take you stopping yourself


I know who you are…..You can be happy and loved.  



I have never written anything like this..would like to know what you think.  
Chris

I have two points I want to cover in this entry

Firstly,  I have to voice a caution to everyone (also as a reminder to myself)…on the profiles that I choose..I read every word of that  profile..I file, categorize, empathize, humorist and sometimes I fill in the blanks with these chosen profiles….some of them connect very succinctly with my own mind set…almost like a twin finishes the other’s sentences…because of this flaw…sometimes I respond with an email that in my mind was well thought out (and yes sometimes humorously) and made complete sense…only to have my email to be responded to like a restraining order…I have asked friends (both in vanilla and bdsm) if I come across as a weirdo…my vanilla’s say no..Not at all..My bdsm friends say that because I currently am not living in a bdsm relationship that I might be compensating…mmmmm..(Doctor McCoy comes to mind “dam it Jim I’m only a Doctor”)…so to all those very erect subbies that I crossed paths with and seemed weirdo’ish with…I’m just out of practice..And I am looking forward to changing my mind set to a broader interpretation setting….

Secondly, I have a problem with spelling…it is not a light thing…it’s a very big problem…it was/is an area while in school, caused many long hours indoors while my contemporizes were outside playing…I admit that I’m often at odds with the passion I feel and think only to be ran over by a little thing like spelling…I go to great lengths to spell check…cross check word usage and meanings…I also understand that 90% of the time people are going to know of you through your writings…so I fully understand the impact of spelling…this web site does not come with a spell checker…and for whatever reason … my programs that I write in will not let me paste my corrected passages to CM…I am looking to find a fix for this..So bare with my butchering of the English language a little while longer.

Chris

Spelling is an art…I’m not an artist ;-)