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My likes & dislikes (an ever-evolving list)
I don’t like overly bratty submissives/bottoms. The exception is in a scene with a specific start and end. Unless it is clear from the onset that being bratty mandates discipline, you'll find you get more by following directions and following through on the things you're asked to do. I like to/need to establish clear guidelines for punishment or effective forms of discipline.
Otherwise, I find it rude and disrespectful and ultimately a turn-off when a self-proclaimed sub or bottom runs her mouth or refuses to comply with the simplest of requests.
Your obedience/follow-through is sexy and makes our time together productive and worthwhile. Banter and humor is very different from disrespect and provocation. Mutual respect for each other’s values and wishes is important. Resist the urge to top from the bottom!
I am not into resorting to using extreme physical pain as punishment (If pain is your source of pleasure and pathway to catharsis, that's a whole different story). I’d much rather require you to take a “time out” or go stand in a corner or take away something you enjoy (coffee, your smart phone, your laptop) than resorting to physical punishment.
I like directing. I enjoy telling other kinksters and other kinky couples what to do next and having them comply. If I know what you and/or your partner secretly fantasize about I like facilitating and guiding you through the stages and steps to make those fantasies come true. I like enabling others.
I like watching and being watched. I like it when you and I are the center of attention. I want you to look and feel beautiful, to dress in clothing and accessories that make you feel beautiful whenever we go out.
I like it when you walk with confidence, by my side and don’t shy away from the attention or adoration of others. That said, I like giving you creative things to do to help you show/prove your submissiveness and get into your space.
I enjoy all things sensual. I enjoy finding new ways to make your skin get all covered in goose bumps (and that does not necessarily mean resorting to tickling you).
I am very much into giving and receiving touch. I believe that touch is healing and beautiful. I find it erotic and addictive. It’s my drug of choice.
As a touch addict, I want you to make the effort (at the appropriate times) to reciprocate. As much as I enjoy giving touch, I also enjoy receiving it from you. I crave touch and like it when you run your fingers through my hair or gently scratch my back or massage me or just glide your hands across my body.
I don’t like being pinched or forcefully tickled or anything that negates the sensuality of the moment. I DO like when you bite my shoulder or back, but not so hard that it goes beyond sweet pain.
Unless I tell you not to say anything, I like verbal feedback – Real moans, whimpers, sighs, comments, etc. Authentic moans turn me on and give me insight into where the session should go next.
Your subtle or not-so-subtle sighs are music to my ears. If you make me work too hard without getting the benefit of some type of verbal or non-verbal feedback I lose incentive to continue.
I enjoy eye contact where appropriate. That said, I do like the effect that blindfolds have on you too and the way they help you to focus on just you and I.
I like using my hands more than I do instruments. Although I prefer to get you off with my voice, my directions, my hands, my fingers, my mouth, my words, and on occasion ... my c*ck, I still bring a toy bag full of helpful tools.
Toys are nice when they serve a purpose. There’s a definite plus to having access to certain toys, implements and magic wands. They add to the scene, they prevent fatigue; they add an element of surprise and heightened satisfaction.
So, if you find floggers, paddles and SAP gloves useful as ways to get you into the head space you long for then I am happy to oblige.
I like it when you get wet. I enjoy making your body respond in ways you may have thought were impossible. I take pleasure in your wetness, your quivers, your trust that together we'll take a journey that potentially leads to primal joy and ecstasy.
At times, I'll want you to orgasm repeatedly. I know this might be an unfair expectation, but watching you get to that point validates my efforts and makes the energy investment even more worthwhile.
I enjoy seeing you on a cross or in chains, or bent over my lap. Just like blindfolding you, these situations seem to help you get the mental outcome you’re seeking, and I think your body is beautiful. I think restraints of all types are sexy but love it when you just keep your hands and legs where I ask you to.
I am not into blood, cutting, or anything that mutilates any part of the body. I also have no desire to deliberately cover or be covered with urine or sh*t.
I love spontaneity and communing with people who are passionate about exploring the edges of life. Don't expect the same thing twice. Don't over plan or over think the moment. Passionate people make life interesting. It is best not to get too attached to anyone too quickly as drama and going in with too many expectation is an energy-suck.
Aftercare is beautiful. However long or short a time you need to float is cool with me. Your mouth is sexy, I love when you use it to please me.
Finally, bad or limp kissing is a turn off. I appreciate playmates who excel at kissing or who are at least highly teachable on the nuances of kissing passionately.
And, if I f*ck your brains out during or after our session (per discussed negotiations beforehand), enjoy it. Make all the noise you want. I give you permission to let go.
Thanks for reading!!
I am one this site in an effort to meet like-minded people. I would like to make friends with other likable, knowledgeable, capable Doms -- be they male or female -- to interact with my beautifully sub wife.
Likewise, I would like to meet grounded, drama-free, willing submissive females, switches and bottoms who want an occasional playmate & like to explore. Common sense dictates that we start as friends and see where it leads!
Thanks for reading!
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