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| This profile consists of red flags for girls meeting a potential guy Dom. Maybe not so important for casual encounters but very important for more involved D/s relationships (and Vanilla).
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If you like RedFlag Dom why don't you send a friends request. Should you wish to contact RedFlagDom directly be aware that it may be channeled by various entities at different stages.
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RED FLAG 1- A man who has no friends.
This guy is incapable of intimacy and his interest in BDSM may simply be a way to enable him to fulfil his sexual needs without intimacy. A D/s relationship with a guy like this will be at your expense. Very likely you will be damaged and he will isolate you from friends and family. When you meet a new guy confirm that he has friends including school friends (ability to maintain a relationship over the longer term), recent friends (ability to make new friends) and that he has a social life. A crippled personality like a guy with no friends is bad enough in a vanilla sense, but is a serious danger to you when D/s comes into the mix. DO NOT HESITATE - AVOID OR LEAVE THIS ONE!
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RED FLAG 2 - The compulsive lier
This one is really important too. Early on you may catch him out in a lie. Challenge this and watch. He may deflect, turn it around on you, or become agitated. All to often we sit back and let things go early in meeting with a new guy. By the time you are besotted with someone it is too late to see the lies as you heart will be looking past them. Lies are a big problem in a BDSM as there is enormous trust given by the submissive and consequently danger of betrayal of that trust. A compulsive lier is incapable of reciprocating the gift of submission with the respect it deserves and he is equally incapable of true leadership (although lying is a very effective way of creating the allusion of leadership). The importance of honesty in a BDSM relationship is worth a whole book of words and it is not possible to do it justice here.
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RED FLAG 3 - Money
Someone who cannot manage personal finances is not in control of himself. It is very easy to manage the illusion of wealth with credit cards and debt. Ask questions! Does he own that expensive car. Does he have several credit cards all going at once? Does he spend without discipline? Be warned the power exchange inherent in D/s relationships can easily put you at risk if you have not chosen well.
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RED FLAG 4 - Communication
Lack of communication in a D/s is really dangerous stuff. If your guy is not in tune with himself and does not communicate with you it is likely to end up in unwanted situations.
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RED FLAG 5 - Disorganisation
Beware someone who is not in control of his life relative to yourself. The disorganised one is probably a nice guy and he will certainly provide you endless opportunity for service. However as good as that sounds he is incapable of teaching or challenging you. For a successful D/s relationship he will need to find someone even more disorganised than himself.
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RED FLAG 6 - Personality disorders
D/s can we believe provide real structure to a submissive with mental issues (also much danger and opportunity for abuse). But in a Dom mental disorders diagnosed or undiagnosed are a bit problematic! Look up the diagnostic criteria for personality disorders (e.g. antisocial, bipolar, narcissistic, borderline, schizoid). They make great red flags and include some of the above!
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| Age: 26 |
| Jonesboro,
Arkansas |
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