I would like to explain for anyone interested what I desire in an M/s relationship. If you are interested in becoming my Dom, or just enjoy hearing other perspectives on the Lifestyle, this will hopefully be a good read for you. In this writing, Dom refers to any Dominant, while Master refers to my ideal partner (in other words, lifetime mate or husband).

I believe a Dom and sub enrich each other's lives through mutual servitude: the Dom by guiding and/or controlling the sub so the sub is well developed and fulfilled, and the sub by serving and supporting her Dom so he may also be fulfilled.

My number one priority is myself. A Dom cannot be an effective Dom if he is sleep deprived or over-stressed. A sub cannot serve properly if she is depressed or suffering. Self-preservation is always our priority. A sub should not put her Dom's desires first if it threatens her wellbeing, physically or mentally. Likewise, a Dom should be smart enough not to demand too much of His sub and to be aware of her limits. Enough said. My next priority is my partner.  Before any other worldly possessions or desires comes my Master. Of course, I desire to also be the number one priority of my Master. I want to be his favorite possession. With that established, further explanation of what I expect in a relationship should be straightforward.

How do you treat your valuable possessions? With the utmost care, of course. In a relationship this can be summarized as with respect. I expect my Master to be honest and open with me in all things, as I will be with him, because this is the best way to avoid unnecessary suffering. Spanking, biting, and other kinky fun aside, you should never want to cause lasting harm to your partner. The importance of good communication is thus especially apparent in M/s relationships. It is difficult to avoid breaking limits or hurting feelings, if you are unaware of them. After establishing what is off limits, the next important step is discussing goals.

This finally brings us back to the beginning of our discussion: mutual servitude. If we are both each other's number one priority, we should be happiest seeing the other safe, happy, and fulfilled. The best way we can contribute to this, is by helping our partner reach his or her full potential.

Of course I have many goals in life, so I will try to stick to an M/s discussion. My Master should help guide me to become a desirable pet. He should protect me and support me in my endeavors, such as modeling or performing. He should also provide the discipline I sorely need at times. It’s difficult to say the degree of control I’m willing to give up, that’s something I’m still discovering for myself. At the moment, total control is not something I’m willing to give yet. My Master should be my best friend and mentor; he should be flexible and empathetic when dealing with me. But again, strict and strong enough to know to do what’s best for me.

In return, I will serve him and do all I can to ensure I help satisfy his desires. Of course this is not limited to sex. I want my Master to be mentally and emotionally satisfied as well.

I have heard it said that a Dom that shows he cares for his subs is too soft, and is not a proper Dom. This is ridiculous. Caring for anyone is not soft. Allowing yourself to care and become invested in a person is both dangerous and powerful. It is dangerous because you risk suffering the pain of your feelings and efforts being rejected and unappreciated. It is powerful because it allows you to leave a meaningful and lasting impact on another's life, and gives them the opportunity to do the same to you. Thus I believe showing you care does not make you weak or soft, it requires strength and courage. Besides, a Dom can be a caring gentleman and still know how to use a firm hand and take what he wants.

To summarize, what I am looking for is a Master that will cherish me above all else. A man that truly appreciates my value and potential. Just as I expect him to always be striving to be his best possible self, I will work to grow and improve myself and serve him faithfully.