I am a 28 year old guy who likes relationships with a lot of kink and D/s in them. I am looking for someone local who likes rough play, is open to trying new things, and who wants a lasting, stable, and committed relationship.

I am a Dom and D/s is much more to me than a way to spice up my sex life but it is also not all that I want out of a relationship. I prefer spontaneous rough play/sex to carefully negotiated scenes although I do love the tools of BDSM (rope, cuffs, clamps, crops, etc). As I said above I enjoy D/s outside of the bedroom and I am looking for a relationship with a woman who does too. Exactly how much D/s has differed in each of the relationships I have had and tends to grow naturally from the dynamic that develops between us. I have had relationships that were very close to Master/slave and others that were much more Dom/sub and enjoyed them all.

Either way though I am looking for a relationship that is about a lot more than D/s or BDSM. I want everything a vanilla relationship has, dates, walks, hanging out with the friends, talking on the couch, *communication* and *commitment* so if you are no comfortable with being a part of my life, or me being a part of yours, we are not a good match.

As far as the person I am looking for it really comes down to chemistry and I have never been able to develop a checklist for that. Age, sex, wight, race, personality all matter in the sense that the chemistry needs to be there but I have no fantasy of the perfect woman I am trying to match.