?have a long list of fetishes and turn-ons. You can read most of them below (please feel free to let me know which ones turn YOU on!) but my favorites are: rope bondage, spanking, and orgasm control.
Philosophy
I feel BDSM centers around three main principles: Control, Pain, and Humiliation. (There may be more but I haven't taken the time to identify them. Feel free to message me for a discussion if you have a different opinion.) Most fetishes fall under those three principles and sometimes more than one.
I believe submission is a gift. A Master has no slave if the slave does not wish to give their servitude (unless it's taken by force which isn't a relationship.) Likewise, the Dominant chooses the submissive to control and command. The submissive servers their Master. In turn, the Dominant cares for and nurtures their submissive. As a Dominant, I'm not fooling myself into thinking I'm so badass my subs will obey me simply because. There's honor in being given control over another person and it's a gigantic responsibility I see many Dominants (and submissives!) take too lightly.
D/s is a ying-yang of give and take, pull and push. Both parties involved are equal with different roles. One is satisfied from control and the other from being controlled; a symbiosis. They need each other to survive.
I love the mental aspect of BDSM as much as I love the physical aspect. The most important sex organ we have is our brain. When I control your mind, I will have the rest of you.
I prefer "funishments" over punishments -but I will still punish you.
Quotes"I will never harm you, but I will hurt you."?--I'm not sure who said it, but I'm sure it's been said many times.
*" '...the fact is,' said the other voice, 'that if you do tie her up, or whip her a little, and if she begins to like it-- then that's no good either. We've got to move beyond the pleasure stage. We must make the tears flow.' " -- Pauline R?e,* The Story of O
9/3/2012 7:57:53 PM
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