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doctorwhorable
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I am HSV Positive.
This is an unfortunate truth, but it is true. Those who contact me, need to keep this in mind and accept that I am not here to be your online cyber slut.
Not that I can't do that or haven't been that, but I am not here looking for that. I am not interested in submissive men. Switch men with a strong Dominant streak are certainly interesting.
I am not interested in 24/7TPE. Think what you like about that, but I am an independent woman in a lot of ways. However, I like to submit - I find it arousing and pleasurable and a needed refuge from my "vanilla" life of control and leadership. I am a classic submissive, though again trending perhaps toward the masculine stereotype. Meaning: When not in the bedroom, when not in scene, when not involved in things that are for me primarily a psycho-sexual activity I am considerably more dominant.
I have had the accusation of "Poser," and "dabbler" also thrown at me. Those are judgments coming from people whose flavor of kink is a "lifestyle" to them, not a "kink." At least in my opinion.
My Myers-Briggs is INFJ Introvert(22%) iNtuitive(62%) Feeling(38%) Judging(1%)
If that's not your cup of tea? I am sorry. There are plenty of the other sorts of girls here, I am not one of them.
If you're still interested read away, perhaps what follows will intrigue you.
Education: 3 years college, was working toward a degree in U.S. History with two minors. Public History and Cultural Anthropology.
Employment: I am a blue collar girl. I work in the aerospace industry and am a back up team lead on a highly technical and busy line that produces various composite materials used in manufacturing planes, space ships and military grade hardware.
Health: As stated earlier I have tested positive for antibodies for both Herpes 1 and 2. The first (cold sores on my lips) I've had since I was a child, the second, was a gift from my ex-husband. I was not informed he was positive until after I got pregnant with our first child. I've never suffered horrible outbreaks or any of the flu like symptoms, but the test is + so the assumption is I am too.
I have Fibromyalgia, though it doesn't slow me down at work. I do take a couple medications for it and beginning some new physical therapy treatments for it as well.
Family: Both of my parents are still living and are close enough to see frequently, but not so close as to be a bother. I have two adult sons from my marriage, one lives at home with me, the other a tech school graduate lives on his own.
Politics: Though I am a member of the far left and do believe in racial/gender/sexual preference equality, I am not a social justice warrior with a hidden agenda of man hating.
I am a staunch socialist with anarchist leanings. DIY is hot, no matter what you do with it - sex toys, housing, musical instruments, clothing - you name it. I love it. I am not interested in dating conservatives or fundamentalists of any religion.
Religion: I am a non-practicing neo-pagan. I miss the community and a partner who was also interested might be a good match. I may find myself more drawn to return to practice. Keep your god and your politics out of my body and my life.
Hobbies: I am a foodie: I love to cook and eat. I like culinary travel, watching cooking shows, and experimenting with new cuisines.
I am a reader and a writer. I write poetry and have done public readings of my poetry. I have had erotic short fiction published. I love to write it and I love to text role play in various contexts.
I am a gamer. I used to play WoW a good deal, though I haven't now in some time. I play Skyrim now and a few old school games.
I love movies, theater and am addicted to Hulu and Netflix.
I love music. I like music everything from Baroque to Punk Rock. I came of age in the Mid 80's and as such have a love of synth and techno and trance and ambient music. About the only sort of music I don't love is modern country music with a few exceptions.
I get along very well with fringe folks, outsiders, other post punkers of my same age and younger people. I am a staunch socialist with anarchist leanings. DIY is hot, no matter what you do with it - sex toys, housing, musical instruments, clothing - you name it. I love it.
What I am looking for in a partner (if you're still reading and still interested) is simple.
I am looking for a man between the ages of say 25 and 55 who nods his head to at least 75% of what I just wrote. Someone who's secure enough in themselves to let me continue to write my smut with my friends - and knows enough to take advantage of the heat it creates in me for his own ends.
I want a man who has a full time job or a business of his own, who can and will support himself or over the long haul be contributive financially and with responsibilities for a life we build together. I don't want kids. I can't have them anymore anyway, and I have raised two lovely men already with my first husband. I am not looking to start a family over at 48.
I am not up for relocation. Meaning anyone who is interested is going to have to be semi-local. My parents and I own the house I live in and until it is suitably ready for resale (a better market and a few more changes to it) I am not going to be able to leave.
My man doesn't need to be a buff sort, but if I can't get my legs around your waist in a heated clutch of flesh on flesh, you're probably out of my interest range in physique. I do like tall men, though there is nothing saying another person of 5'9 who meets all the criteria above will be spurned. I am not stupid or that shallow.
I am not physically perfect either. I need to spend some money on some dental work that got ignored while in my 15 year marriage to a compulsive spender.
But I clean up well, as my pictures can attest, but I am not high maintenance. I like jeans and tshirts, hippy skirts, rummage sales and thrift stores. I enjoy camping and some hiking and would be interested in someone who actually wanted to help me get in shape. About my only spendy vice is I like good food, good wine and good beer when the occasion calls for it.
I have been in poly relationships before - sometimes its good, sometimes its not. I think committed with room for play would be the best arrangement and I am totally accepting of Bi-sexual males with a female preference who are looking for a femme without judgement or competition issues.
I think a healthy happy relationship should be open to exploration wherever it leads.
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Seriously,
A couple of things for you pseudo Dominants to consider:
I don't want to see your dick. If and when that changes, trust me, you'll be the first to know.
Don't ask stupid questions that could be answered by reading my profile. You're an adult, you can read.
Just because I am a submissive, don't expect me to get gooey, squee and go nuts about your attention. I am not that kind of submissive and I doubt, if you're actually a Dominant and you're at all mentally, spiritually, and socially adept - you want one of those.
I am for a real Dominant, one who doesn't shrink at the idea of a woman who can and will hold her own when necessary. |
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To everyone who's sent me notes in the last couple of weeks...
I am terribly sorry I've not replied. Things as usual are crazy at work, and so I haven't had time to do much but log in, read things and then I have to run.
But there is an end in sight.
Work is supposed to calm down this coming week and I have a long weekend. So, I should be able to send out some replies and hopefully let those of you who have read my profile and commented that I do appreciate the feedback.
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Thank god for the few people here who have read my profile and been kind enough to drop me a note - telling me how delightful my honesty is and how admirable my profile is for its openess.
It goes a long way to making up for the other posts, made by those who don't, and who once I tell them go silent.
I am curious, in a group of people who pride themselves on their inclusivity, and who say "Safe, Sane and Consensual" why it seems so reasonable to just dismiss some one who's been nothing but open and honest.
I realize that Herpes is one of those dirty little things that tends to interrupt pleasure, that frightens people who don't educate themselves, that forces all of us to actually practice safe sex, not just check doctor's records and then engage in unprotected play... but if its Safe, Sane and Consensual - then were is the Sane - if you don't educate yourself, where is the Safe, if you take doctor's clean sheets as an excuse to not use condoms?
With my disclosure, I am making sure that who ever I might play with is consenting - that was not a choice I was given when I contracted this.
I feel, worn and a bit disapointed by the volume of inquiries about my profile I get, or people who want to engage me in chat saying they read it who then just blow me off the moment I bring it up.
There are so many pleas on this site for something Real, if you want something real, then when you get it why can you excuse being so ... callous. As if when I got herpes, I did it to piss you off, or worse yet, once I contracted it I suddenly became less of a person.
*Shakes her head.*
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| Age: 18 |
| Waynesburg,
Pennsylvania |
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