My focus in BDSM is on power exchange and using that power to nurture and please a submissive everything else I do (bondage, impact play, etc.) is in service to this end. In addition to playing with subs I also enjoy engage in fun power exchanges with a good switch, as well as going toe-to-toe with a Domme.
In any case, Im here to have fun and find others to have fun with - arent we all?
My philosophies as a dom are
Verbal or physical force is usually not necessary to assertmaintain control Subs should be asked what they want (and occasionally given it) Being gentle can make a sub feel safe and able to trust, which can be leveraged for more fun activities later. Being a Dom does not mean that I want to be the only active person during play or in the relationship. Similarly, being a Dom does not mean that I want to be the only functioning adult in a relationship. Respecting a subs limits does not mean that I wont push them, either in scenes or in conversation. Part of my role as a Dom is to get a submissive to places or situations they may not be fully comfortable getting to, but that I think the sub will enjoy.
I enjoy teaching as much as I like to maintain the lead in the bedroom, and I do particularly well with women for whom sex has been painfulanxiety-inducing in the past. Im also looking to learn new ways to express being dominant - learning how to safely use rope is high on my to-do list.
1/31/2014 10:28:48 PM
I'm studying in a coffee shop in Old Town. Why don't I have someone to distract me?