Pleasing a woman in just the way she likes is one of the most enjoyable things in life, and it's better the more you get to know the other person, although I like meeting new people and playing with them. I'm looking for friends, people to play with, special friends to get to know really well and, ultimately, a lover.

In the rest of my life, I'm a take-charge guy, but a "How can I please you, Ma'am?" guy in relationships. The only surprises a woman should get are the pleasant kind that comfort or, maybe, excite, but are only given when we're close enough that I can make a good guess you'll like it.

I've never met a woman who doesn't like an attentive man, one that opens doors for her, does chores for her, gives her great foot rubs or massages, and I've never met a domme who didn't value obedience and alertness.

Play (but not role play) is something I love, either alone together or in a group; I enjoy just about every kind of play that I've tried, although some things bore me. Anything I haven't done before is something I want to try out. I'm more service-oriented than masochistic, more relationship-oriented than play-oriented. I have zero interest in pro-dommes or any kind of financial bondage, because it gets in the way of real intimacy, whatever the level of the relationship. When I'm in a relationship, it's not about what I want, though, it's about what makes you happy. I can't be happy otherwise.

Movies (everything but horror and really gross comedy), museums, theaters and books are where my interests lie. I like to try new foods, see new places -- even get lost a little in new places and find my way out. I like to socialize with others in BDSM, and I'd like to get to know people away from the madding crowd (even if we're just in some other madding crowd).