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| I'm looking to build friendships first. It's not that I don't like sex - I love it... with the right person. But too often people want to jump right into the "dominate me" game and it just doesn't seem to work out because there isn't emotional glue to hold everything together.
I view this not as a lifestyle but as a relationship, just like any other relationship. It starts with friends and having interests in common.
I have kinks and fetishes, like anyone else. I also have preferences for certain body styles and ethnicity, but they are preferences, not requirements.
I'm looking to get to know someone over time and they, me. I'm well-read, but not formally educated. I like good food and fine whiskies, but I'm not a heavy drinker. (Hell, when the stuff costs $75/bottle, you do NOT guzzle it, you savor!) I have a quirky sense of humor and I watch anime as well as good movies. I like going to plays and symphonies as much as blue-grass festivals and renaissance faires.
I'm a writer that is currently living vicariously through my fictional characters (I have 10 related novels in the works as well as three other non-related ones). I like history, science fiction and I'm exceptionally curious about what makes people tick.
I'm a grandfather of two lovely granddaughters and I'm much younger than my years as I've been known to hang out with my son more than anyone, I like going to an occasional party but I'm not a party animal and I don't hang out in bars all weekend. My only real requirements are that you like animals and children and are not a smoker, drug-addict, alcoholic or a religious zealot. I am solitary and spiritual in my beliefs and I don't push my views on others.
I'm liberal on some issues, conservative on others. Unlike many who only profess to have one, I DO have an open mind. My opinions are just that - opinions. They are base upon what I've read and experienced. Your truth may not be the same as mine, but I'm willing to listen to what you have to say and the reasoning behind it, even if it conflicts with mine. Doesn't mean I will change my mind, but I will listen.
I am straight, but not narrow. I don't mind if you're a bi female or poly. I identify with poly, but after being married for 22 years and now divorced for 14 and trying to find poly partners to bond with, I'm finding I don't enter friendships or relationships as easily as I once did so, once I get to know you, it may be monogamous - for a while or forever, depending on the depth of the relationship.
I believe in a trinity of cornerstones for a good relationship: Honesty, communication and trust.
I'm very big on the honesty and trust. With me, what you see is what you get. The main thing that will erode my trust is a lack of honesty. Don't tell me you "have no limits." Everyone does. If you say you don't, I WILL set them. Don't send me pictures of yourself from 10 or 20 years ago. The pictures you see of me will always be current and I expect the same.
Communicate with me. I may be a Dominant, but I'm not perfect. Tell me when I'm doing something wrong, but do it tactfully and in a manner that will encourage me to change as well. Anyone who considers themselves "brutally honest" and then cries about having a lack of friends and lovers should look at that word, "brutally." Honesty does not have to be brutal, just truthful and sincere. If you can't be honest in a tactful manner that will encourage change, you should expect the resentment and dismissal.
I do tend to like my ladies shorter (I've mainly dated women between 4' 10" / 110 lbs to 5' 6" / 150 lbs) but I don't mind taller women either. Your height won't necessarily intimidate me. I don't mind curves, either.
But, it's your mind that will intrigue me the most. Find a way to make me like you, intellectually, and you will keep me.
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