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A little about me.
MstrPhoenix grew up all over the country and has traveled to Japan, Korea, and the Philippines. In his 40+ years, he’s been a Boy Scout, a Cross Country runner, a U.S. Marine assault climber, a Rodeo Cowboy, a Mountaineer, a Martial artist, and a Scuba diver. His interests in BDSM include rope bondage, canes, floggers, wrestling, gags, and henna/body paints, and is the leader of the Columbus rope bite group, just to name a few. He likes kink because he gets to fuck chicks when they’re tied up, while pulling their hair and spanking them. Is there any other reason to do it?
He also relishes the challenge of overcoming difficulties that would crush ordinary men.
"Folks: what we do isn’t rocket science, but neither is it gymboree. If you can’t negotiate safe sex, you really have no business negotiating sadomasochism. If you are disturbed by the consensual behavior of other adults because you find it triggers something in you, you shouldn’t go to places where you can see them act out their play. If you put your body in the hands of someone else and don’t take care of your needs, whether it’s by negotiation, communication, or any other adult responsibility, you need to accept the consequences. If you can’t manage your own life, you should not be trying to manage someone else’s. If you don’t own your own shit, you should not be trying to be owned by someone else."
Laura Antoniou
Rope bite website
http://www.ropebite.com/welcome/
yes that is a suspension I did.
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Well here I go again, Let's talk about want's.
I hear a lot of people saying I want this or that, both Dom's and sub's, I had an acquaintance ask me what I wanted recently and so I told him in a nut shell what I wanted and his response was that I was pretty vague, I thought I had been totally clear.
As we talked he pointed out some thing's and it suddenly became clear how vague I was being.
I have been working on an essay on What do I want?
So why don't we all write an essay and try to answer the question.
What do I really want?
Jeff
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Overcoming fear is key to self-knowledge. One must welcome fear,
confront it, and become familiar with it. Consistent confrontation with
the unknown familiarizes us with fear. Doing the same thing over and
over, increasing stress by steps one is certain to equal, and following
the same recipe as everyone else allows one to avoid the unknown, to
elude the conflict he or she so desperately needs. These battles, which
evolution requires and modern society rejects, may be orchestrated in
the dungeon, in the gym, on the field of play, or all of the
above and more. The location doesn’t matter and the activity is
irrelevant because the conflict is within. Internal struggles are not
won at another’s expense. Who loses when we defeat ourselves? Some
people live the answer every single day.
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If you did
not grow up with a father figure in your home, you certainly have
witnessed the depiction of a typical, nuclear family. And you longed
for that life, didn't you? Here Dad protects and provides the security
and enforcement of family rules. Break the rules, and typically, he
would administer punishment or give mom the ok to do so. In healthy
father-daughter relationships Dad is the first love. He can fix
everything and anything. He is playful and does neat stuff like, throw
you high up into the air and always catches you. He makes sure you are
clothed, watered, fed, and sheltered. He demands respect toward Mom. He
is clearly the source from which little girls derive their sense of
security. His responsibilities to his child are immense and he strives,
to the best of his ability, to meet every need. But something happens
as she matures...she finds another love.
We have lost
the significance of a father walking his daughter down a church aisle
toward a nervous groom. There is a statement being made on these
important wedding days that has become totally oblivious under the
hustle and bustle of perfecting the perfect 'performance' for the
audience. We don't hear much anymore of the fact that Daddy is "giving
her away". Painfully, even some Daddies have forgotten what they are
doing.
Even the old
tradition of tying an old shoe (along with the cans) to the bumper of
car of the newlyweds was a symbol that the father was passing the
responsibility to the groom. The old shoe was the symbol of the rubber
sole in which was to be used for disciplinary reasons.
When a father
places his daughter's hand into the hand of another man, after all the
years of protecting and providing for her, he is saying something
astounding. He is letting that young man know that she is now his
responsibility. He is passing on his precious possession that he has
worked so hard to protect and love, to another. And good Daddies let
the young man know that he WILL perform an even better job. Daddy has
to let go and for some it is a most difficult day. All the provisions,
all the responsibilities that Dad had are being passed on to the groom.
The groom has now accepted the hand of a woman who is used to a certain
level of security and manly leadership. She expects the same worry free
environment that Daddy always gave her. The groom is now responsible
for this woman, just like daddy. But...there is one major difference.
There is a sexual intimacy between this bride and groom that slams shut
all doors of accusation towards a Daddy complex. Women don't want
sexual intimacy with their fathers, however they do want the provision
and security they are used to receiving from their fathers to flow
through their husbands. No way does this very realistic expectation
(that should have been discussed before marriage) label a woman as an
insecure psychotic, looking for a daddy to love.
To the husband who says to his wife: "I will NOT be your father!" No,
you're not expected to be. She doesn't want you to be her father
either. She is asking for leadership. She is simply looking for
strength in you to help her. Perhaps she is having some difficult
times, or just needs you to protect her.
Many women
denied the leadership of a father growing up seems to have this need as
well. Instinctively or biologically (whichever your slant) women,
honest with their emotions and not afraid of their feminity, admit to
seeking strength in leadership from their man. Without the benefit of a
male parent, there remains a strong drive for security from the
opposite sex.
Sometimes we would like to think that we have evolved to a level where
we are modern and don't need all this "macho-business". We would like
to think that the days of the cave man dragging the woman by the hair
to his cave is gone. We are more independent, more self-sufficient, and
more capable of taking care of ourselves. However, our instincts will
always be with us. The same instinct that controls us to clean
everything in sight when the delivery date is near is the same instinct
that wants to be protected and secure. If any of you have noticed that
when you are pregnant your husband becomes more protective? He isn't
simply doing this to be nice; it is just as much of an instinct for
him.
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The temporary transformation one experiences by becoming what he or she
is doing carries over into other aspects of one's life. Because I
presume awareness and competence I often fail to point out that, going
through the motions, without presence, intensity or commitment does not
produce positive psychological effects. To be transformed by effort,
one must dig deep, surpass one's expectations or self-imposed
limitations, risk failure, blow up, and, as cycling guru Keith
Bontrager aptly described, “get the full dose.”
Bontrager also states, “the perspective that you acquire on facing
hardship makes you stronger and tougher in a lot of ways that are
unrelated” to the specific sport or endeavor, though only “if you get
the full dose.” When dose and duration are great enough you will be
transformed. How much, and how long? Olympic gold-medalist Brad Lewis
wrote, “A man goes through many changes in 2000 meters. Some of them
not very pretty. Some make you hate yourself.” Brad's incredible
intensity allowed him to plumb his soul in less than seven minutes.
Others substitute duration for intensity, spending hours or days on
honest self-inquiry. Some dedicate themselves to a lifelong process.
For those interested in finding answers, the journey lasts as long as
is needed, constantly attended by the risk that the answer may not be
the one desired.
Just a few observation's on life.
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these are all recent picture's hope these are better than the other one's
Jeff
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ok new photo's have been posted.
Jeff
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Age: 22 |
United Kingdom |
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