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I'm here to chat on the forums, I welcome any cmail relevant to the intellectual conversations there. (Or the not so intellectual but still humorous!)
Not looking for a relationship or wank material.
Will not respond to e-mails that do not offer interesting and leading questions or remarks.
*** 'Interesting' is relative and entirely subjective to my mood!
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On power exchange and relationships:
I find a man who is my equal, and then I hand him the keys. Yet he knows I have a spare set, and if he doesn't take care of the car I'll most certainly take it away.
I'm a good driver, but most days I really like being Miss Daisy, I find it relaxing, comfortable, and most certainly not a position of shame or inferiority. |
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Why is it I am motivated to write at the least convenient of times?! Woe to the irony of my muse who torments me by leaving just as I reach my pen and paper. |
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"She had been kidding herself all along. She could never flee her past, because she had brought it with her."
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If you truely care about, and love someone, is it inspite of their flaws, or including their flaws? If you love everything about them, including their flaws, does that then compromise you for finding flaws acceptable, have you then lowered your expectations to accomodate the flaws your loved one has? Or, do you deny to love anyone who does not fit your specific definition and list of criteria?
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"Acceptance before Understanding"
A phrase someone mentioned to me, which seems completely backwards. Understanding must come before one can accept.
Would I accept someone I didn't understand? No.
Would I accept circumstances I didn't understand? No.
Does this make me untrusting? Sure. Trust is built, not given away heedlessly.
Accepting a task or order given without understanding, means you have a great enough understanding of the one giving the order, to follow it.
So Understanding, for a reasonable person, will come before acceptance. That is the way of trust. |
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Push, shove, push, shove! Why is it everyone thinks it's better to push than to simply let things happen in time? I'm tired of being pushed, I'm tired of shoving back in defense. I'm just plain tired.
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A man spies a donkey grazing along happily beside the road. He notices a head harness on the donkey and realizes it is domesticated, so thinks surely it would welcome his presence. The donkey of course recognizes this man, for it has worked for many men, and eyes him warily as he approaches.
The man comes up to the donkey slowly, and offers a hand. When the donkey seems interested and investigates the hand, the man begins to scratch and pet the donkey. The beast is nervous at first, wary of this strange man trying to pet it and sooth it. Sidling about it tries to half heartedly evade the petting but easily submits to the gentling touch.
Speaking softly, lulling the beast, the man decides this donkey is strong and would do well in harness pulling a cart. He thinks it would benefit both himself, and the donkey if he took it back to his home. He could take care of the donkey, and it in return could provide service for him. Surely the donkey would love such an arrangement, and would want for nothing, because it would be fulfilling it's purpose, and no longer be alone.
When it seems the donkey is comfortable with his petting and tries to resume its grazing, the man takes hold of the head harness and begins to pull, trying to lead the donkey back home with him. The donkey takes a step then halts as the pulling increases when it refuses to budge another inch.
The man stops and talks to the donkey, trying to explain that it is being foolish and should come along. There is no reason to fear, no reason to be wary, that if it would only come along he would take good care of it. The donkey replies with a mournful look and silence. When it gives no vocal reply the man gives it some more encouragement, petting it and talking softly. Then once more he seizes the head harness and pulls hard trying to force the beast to follow.
The man reasons he is big and strong, and wiser than the donkey he knows what is best for it, and tries to exert his force to pull the animal along. He manages to pull the donkey one, two, three steps before it begins braying loudly, straining with every muscle in it's body to fight him. A few well placed kicks and head tossing and the donkey breaks free of the man's hold, leaving a broken harness in his grasp.
"Stupid mule!" the man shouts at the beast, but it ignores him, shying away and stopping some few yards away to return to it's grazing again, when it's sure the man won't pursue it. As it grazes and the man sits and fumes, a little boy comes strolling up the road.
Stopping to look between the donkey and the man, he asks the man if the donkey is his beast, as he notices the harness hanging from his hand.
"Definitely not, that stubborn beast is useless!" The man throws down the broken harness and points at the beast. "I spent a quarter of an hour coaxing and soothing it, and it still would not come with me! I was nice and gentle and understanding, but it still would not follow me!"
The boy considers this and nods "Oh yes donkey's can be stubborn." But he doesn't look so convinced. Ignoring the broken harness the boy approaches the donkey, but doesn't bother being slow or unthreatening. He walks around the beasts flanks and gives it a sharp slap to let it know he's there. The donkey of course reacts with nervousness but immediately pays attention to the boy, losing interest in the grazing.
The boy moves around the animal giving it hard pats and tugs at an ear, looking for reactions from the animal which is very obviously headshy. After a sound thump to the snout when the donkey tries to bite him he comes to a conclusion.
"I shall take this donkey home since it does not belong to you." The man watching him laughs in disbelief. He was nice to the donkey and it wouldn't even move for him, the boy had been rough with the animal and it now had no harness, how did he expect to get it to go anywhere? Folding his arms the man leaned back to watch, thinking himself very smug and superior in knowing the boy would fail.
The boy however bent and began picking up the grass, or rather, the clover the donkey had been eating. When he had filled the front of his shirt with a mound of clover her offered the donkey a handful. The donkey warily examines the handful of clover, and then decides to eat it. When the boy moves back, the donkey stretched to reach, and eventually stepped forward. After a few slow steps backwards, feeding the donkey at each step, the boy turned and began to walk away from the donkey. It followed him without thought and every so often he gave it more clover and a rough pat.
The man left standing behind them in confusion ended up getting no donkey.
The boy who never once had to pull the donkey along, gained himself a hard working animal.
The donkey, gained a warm home and all the clover it wanted, and never once had to be pulled along by a harness. |
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It's so depressing to think people aren't genuine in their desire to meet or establish friendship. What have they to gain from deception? Are they simply too afraid to actually move forward into the real world and away from the protection of their PC's? I feel pity for these people who have not the courage to actually explore and meet, it seems such a silly insecurity. |
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| Age: 28 |
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