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1.Honesty.This is very important to me. Without honesty, there can be no trust. Without trust D/s is nothing. On a safety note, I will always be truthful in my desires, experience, fears and limits. I have seen many Dommes tell "little" lies thinking it will make them more desirable. It usually ends up with two people getting hurt. I believe if I have a questions about what my Domme desires or expects, I'll be honest and speak up. There is nothing wrong with asking questions respectfully, and is much preferable to looking ignorant. I know all Dommes are different. I don't assume because one wants me to wear stockings that another will enjoy them. I'll wear what my Mistress expects me to wear, how she expects me to act, what she prefers to be called, etc.
2. Submissiveness. While I enjoy the being submissive, I do prefer to surrender my will to her. I like to be polite, compliant, and to show the respect that she has have earned with me. There is nothing that turns a Domme off more than a submissive trying to top from the bottom, or manipulate the scene. A polite, respectful "Mistress, if it pleases you, I would enjoy being spanked." is going to make that happen much sooner than intentional misbehavior.
3. Intelligence. I make intelligent choices about who I submit to, and how deep my submission goes. If it is a relationship situation, I want to get to know my Mistress as a friend before I consider submitting. If it is scene-play, with safety rules should be discussed. Out of role, intelligence goes a long way I will always think, and share my thoughts with my Mistress. I like to take time to find out what she is interested in, and get to know more on the subject. Keep up on current events and trends and be able to discuss them. Perhaps take up some of the same hobbies as she does. I feel these are good relationship skills...be it vanilla or D/s.
4. Service. I like to find out what makes my Mistress happy, and do what I can to best provide. It is my job to make my Mistress happy. If I will be serving her�food, they of course I need to know what she likes to eat, and how she likes it served. I come from a long line of restaurant owners, so food is always a pleasure serving. I like to find out what her turn-on and turn-offs are. If it is my responsibility to set things up for the scene, find out what she requires, and have everything handy. I don't like to be sloppy in my service, and won't make my Mistress have to tell me a preference more than once. If I have to told more than twice that my Mistress likes her coffee with cream and sugar, it would give her the impression that I am not thinking, or that I just don't care. This is not at all pleasing. I like to put some thought and creativity into my service. I will listen when she tells me fantasies and dreams, and try to fulfill those desires. I believe in being observant. If I have the chance, I study her surroundings for clues on the type of things she enjoys. Does she have candles sitting out?. What kind of toiletries does she use?, and have them ready for her in case of a visit. What does she like to drink?, and make sure I keep it on hand.
5. Communication. Contrary to what some believe, Dominants are not psychics. It is frustrating for them to have to try and figure out everything that pushes my buttons. I would much rather tell them the fantasies I have so she can store the info to use when she choose, than have to guess. I don't believe that my Mistress likes to play with a sub that constantly say "Whatever pleases you, Mistress". If she is not enjoying it, chances are I won't be enjoying it, either.
6. Self Respect. I value myself. There is no thrill in dominating a doormat, or someone that thinks so little of themselves they will submit to anyone at anytime.
I believe this in life and live it to the fullest.
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