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Greetings fellow CollarMe.com-ers!
After more than half a year on the site, I find it necessary to update my profile to reflect how I have changed. (And to give a “tip of my hat” to the nice folks who have fostered that change; you know who you are!)
The biggest change is that I’m dropping my designation as a “switch.” I admit that my male ego has had an attachment to the dominant part of that term. With traditional society, it is considered so much more masculine and acceptable for a man to want to beat than for a man to want to be beaten. But I have come to realize just how much I am NOT a dom. Now if a lady desires it, I will enthusiastically perform play activities which would be considered dom or top. However, that is more from my wish to please and satisfy than any urge to dominate. My philosophy is: If it’s something that pleases a woman and gets her hot and horny, it’s something I’d consider doing! Happily.
So, I am embracing the label “submissive” as the most appropriate one. For now. We’ll see where I am six months hence.
I am on CollarMe because I am searching. I want something. Oh boy, do I want something! As my ultimate goal, I am looking for a long-term, intimate relationship. For me, it’s very much a quality of life issue. It’s so comforting to sleep in a bed warmed by another person. It’s joyous to hug, kiss and express loving affection with someone I deeply care about…and to have someone central to my life who genuinely cares about me. It’s fantastic to have the enduring stability to dispense with the use of [expletive deleted] condoms! A life isn’t full without someone to share it with and I’m just not satisfied leading a partially full life. Yes, it is definitely a quality of life matter.
Now, I am not sure exactly what form such an intimate relationship might take. Life has taught me to be flexible. Life has also taught me not to be too Gollum-obsessive (“my precious, my precious!”) in the quest. I want what I want -- and strongly, too; this is powerful stuff -- but I am not prepared to lie, cheat, or steal to get it. I don’t want anyone to get hurt (in a non-good way, that is) in the process. Yeah, I suffer a bit from nice guy syndrome. But that’s okay; I am fond of a little bit of suffering. (Grin.)
Besides someone to bond with, I am also seeking friends. The value of friendship should never be discounted. Friends keep you sane and, call me crazy, I think that having some degree of sanity is a positive thing. I especially appreciate friends who are aware of my sexual “inclinations.” After all, how well does someone really know me if they don’t know that I’m kinky? And I especially, especially appreciate play friends! Thank goodness for that outlet while I am unattached!
By the way, if you haven’t played with me before, I am developing quite a reputation as a real laugh to play with. (A bit of an inside joke.)
As this is a fetish site (delightfully so!), I do want to state for the official record that kinkiness is not the totality of my being. I do enjoy and appreciate “vanilla”…just not as a steady diet. Some of my other interests include but are not limited to: movies, sci-fi, card/board games, television (I admit it!), canoeing, hiking, animals (though not in a sexual way), the outdoors, science, liberal politics, atheism (yes, I’m going to hell), cooking, Frisbee, humor, writing, dining out, theatre outings, museum trips, and some other things that just don’t immediately come to mind. Oh, and I like some stupid stuff too like miniature golf. Of course, one of the neat things about meeting new people is being exposed to new interests and new passions. Go ahead; expose me to something new. I enjoy exposure. (Smile!)
In any case, that's my story. The short version, anyway. If you'd like to know more, you know where to find me!
-Portlandman
“If you’re not enjoying life, you’re not doing it right.” -Anonymous
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