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I am a divorced white male, looking to explore that side of me that had been kept hidden. I have explored quite a bit, but all self-taught - exploring with partners that were not nearly as eager as me. I want to rip the doors off the library of sin, study and learn at the altar of exploration and let my inner freak run free... Will you help me? Guide me? Lead the way?
I love kissing, love foreplay, consider giving oral one of my best skills - as the saying goes if you love what you do, it is not work. I also love the deliberate act of creating tension and anticipation, I am a horrible tease, but I always follow through. I fully embrace the lost art of seduction; temptation and making someone want something so bad they beg for it. I love to give and believe that I am happiest sexually when my partner is satisfied. I get pleasure from being responsible for giving them what they want. That does not mean I do not want in return, so don't get any ideas... Does this sound like something you’d like to share and explore with me?
I am educated, intelligent, passionate, affectionate, have a wicked – dark, sometimes evil sense of humor, witty, creative, open, honest, willing to explore, do not judge, do not want to be judged, love the little things in life. Open to purely sexual relationships and involved, intimate, personal relationships with and without sex. I am very open to finding a mentor or multiple mentors here online and in person. Looking forward to building something with you…
Please read to learn more about me and my journey.
My Ideal Person: My ideal PERSON would possess the following "physical" traits -
Red Hair- I have a HUGE fetish for natural redheads, especially those that embrace and don't hide their freckles and those with green eyes. This is in no way a requirement, just something that I have always wanted and never gotten. All other hair colors, eye colors and complexions welcome. I only actually list this because it’s become something of a fetish for me. Anyone that dyes their hair or is willing to dye their hair does get bonus points!
Curves - I typically prefer women with curves, a womanly figure -hourglass shaped. I love hips and breasts. Women should look like women, not teenage boys with boobs. I am not excluding different sizes and shapes, but I prefer women with curves.
Lips and Eyes - these are my two favorite physical characteristics on a woman, no requirements, just sharing what I am going to be looking for or asking to see first, yes over and above your breasts, ass, etc… I actually love the idea of seeing a little, but leaving more to the imagination. For example – I would much rather see a picture of you in a tight, thin, light colored t-shirt or tank top than see a bare breast pic. That’s just my preference; the allure of what might be. I love the art of seduction and the mystery of discovery.
Okay, now after a week on the site and I feel like I might have dissociative identity disorder! This is completely tongue in cheek, as I am currently "blooming" in my openness to the opportunities I have discovered here. To be clear, I want to taste nearly everything, to explore and locate my boundaries, then come back and push on them again to make sure they didn't get stuck on a pebble (as opposed to being firmly up against a steel-reinforced concrete wall).
Spoiler Alert - I am using this venue to expose myself, my interests and desires so that I can find like-minded individuals that seek to share the experiences I seek. I can be verbose and detailed to the point of absurdity and I define the terms below so it’s clear that is how I UNDERSTAND them to be, correct me by showing me, not telling me please!
So here is a list of my interests in order of preference, with the top being the most desired:
Sub/Dom/Switch - I want to try both roles, but really need to experience the sub role as I am a dominant type by natural design and need to learn to let go and follow. I think I would actually like to find a TRUE Dom to teach me to be a good Sub and a different person to be my Sub. I do not require that these roles be simultaneous, but do not object to that either. I would actually prermitting. And finally, my current thought is to take those experiences and find a Switch partner for a long term relationship. I am open to the fact that what I will learn during this process might not be where I end up down the road... Thus it is the journey, not the destination that will help me become who I am to be. Current life experience - my natural ability to be in control and take control of others, not to harm or manipulate, but to help, guide and direct, often to take them to the place they want to go, but do not know how to ask for it. I’m also good at turning the tables on those that are always in control in their real lives and past relationships and really need to be dominated for release.
BDSM - the rest not covered above. I have a heavy interest in both sides of the BD section here. I have always loved the idea of restraining and being restrained, blindfolds and other types of sensory deprivation are included here for my purposes. I am interested in the idea of that level of trust, escape and letting go and the opposite in that level of trust, control and power that comes with someone giving to you so completely - I think the BD roles I described are very different at heart than, but may have overlap , the Sub/Dom roles above. Current life experience - being tied up, blindfolded and played with and then reversing roles, kids play really, I want MORE.
I don't think I have an interest in SM activities, but through recent chatting, I've been assured by multiple people that it’s about "HOW" it done, and that my definitions are not necessarily accurate or complete. Again here the part that I am interested in most is the trust/control part involved with SM activities. My current life experience - candle wax is good, getting slapped on the ass is not - please enlighten me. This one in particular is the wall I want to run into the most, push against it until I am sure I have turned every stone. I need someone that really wants to share their passion in this area to fully take another under your wing and expose them to all the delight and fascination, the passion and pleasure you receive from this type of lifestyle/activity.
Role-Playing (RP) - We all know what this is, I'm in for both the light-hearted costume evening and the hard-core lifestyle - day to day living in a role. Areas of interest - Anything standard (nurse, doctor, dentist, librarian, cop, etc...), fantasy (witch, vampire, supernatural), more extreme. Current life experience - very little as I have been in too many vanilla relationships.
Everything else falls into two remaining categories -
Things I don't know about/have not given enough thought to make a decision, so I am open and waiting for someone to teach me/show me… And those I have no interest in - scat/children/etc...
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