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Greetings!!! I am a Dominant BBW who is exploring my sadistic streak. I am currently looking for a sub to explore with me. I am married and my marriage is a polyamorous one. I don't expect my sub to interact with my Hubby(he's straight), but he will be around and will be respected as my life partner. I am looking for a sub that wants to earn their right to be possessed and cherished by me! I am not an expert, or a novice, so any amount of experience is welcome. I am looking for something real time and understand starting on the internet but I don't want an only online relationship! I want to touch and tease, spank and fuck my sub myself, in person! With that said I will only consider men and women living close to me! I am looking to explore my Sadism here is a list of things I want to gain more experience with/try out. * CBT - specifically binding and impact play * Canes and crops- leaving marks that last a good long while * Forced chasity/sexual gratification restrictions * Anal play- fisting and plug training for my sub * Gags * more servitude from my sub by setting daily tasks and rules to live by I absolutely love to play with floggers, paddles, and my strap-on! Shibari and bondage are two things I am exploring more currently. I love the decoration of shibari and I like having a "victim" that has to stay put! Ideally the sub I am looking for * lives within an hour or two of me * doesn't have sever jealousy issues(poly) * Has a sense of humor * can support themselves * is a masochist * available on a regular basis * willing to live by some agreed upon rules So that is a little about me and what I am looking for and what I want to do! If you think you can fulfill most if not all of this list feel free to message me with a little about yourself and a photo. I can understand not putting a picture out there but if you want to chat be willing to share your face. Check ya later, SJR
7/5/2013 11:43:36 AM
Oh how life twist and turns us in unexpected directions! So since I last posted I have had several changes in my life and lifestyle. I have separated from my former girlfriend/sub. I can't say it was an easy transition but we are working on it. We are friends but I have no clue how its going to pan out long term. Then I have meet and fallen in love with my current girlie/Koshka(cat). She is in a triad with my husband and I. She also lives with us...so life is much more complicated, but wonderful all the same. Then I also have finally got together and played with a lovely guy I met her on CM. We went out and talked for 6+ months before we finally both could get together. We tried some new things, laughed and had a great time. Not everything worked out purrfect nut that gives us things to work on.
7/5/2013 11:42:35 AM
Oh how life twist and turns us in unexpected directions! So since I last posted I have had several changes in my life and lifestyle. I have separated from my former girlfriend/sub. I can't say it was an easy transition but we are working on it. We are friends but I have no clue how its going to pan out long term. Then I have meet and fallen in love with my current girlie/Koshka(cat). She is in a triad with my husband and I. She also lives with us...so life is much more complicated, but wonderful all the same. Then I also have finally got together and played with a lovely guy I met her on CM. We went out and talked for 6+ months before we finally both could get together. We tried some new things, laughed and had a great time. Not everything worked out purrfect nut that gives us things to work on.
1/19/2013 8:40:03 PM
Sigh, last night was one of those nights!! So last night would have been a perfect night to have some kinky, sadistic fun! I have been so busy lately I have been neglecting my own sexuality. Trust me when I say that makes for one bitchy lady! Last night even after both jobs I was wide awake! Not a usual occurrence! So I guess I'll have to work in a little more time for my sexual needs. I don't enjoy being a bitch about everyday things. So time to find a balance. Wish me luck!
12/18/2012 2:55:13 AM
Hello Fellow CM members, Sigh as Christmas is fast approaching I wanted to send my greetings out to all of you. I also wanted to put my Christmas list out there for Santa. There really isn't much on it. Dear Santa, I have been very Sadistic this year. But seeing how I am Sadist and I always get consent I see this as having been a delightfully good girl this year. Yes, yes sometimes they screamed stop, no, and cried but they loved it. I promise you they did. So to continue with my good girl ways I have a few items I would like you to bring me. (Please not under the family tree, my son doesn't need to see all this) I would love to have a spider gag and anal toys(sized large and extra large) of any variety. I would also like a lovely submissive who is into full domestic service and sexual service. If they need a home they must be female, but if its a gift that can travel back and forth male is fine. Thanks for reading my letter and if you need help keeping those elves in line give me a call. I'm great with a switch and whip. Of course you already know that with your little elf on a shelf watching my families every move. Hope he reported a few god ideas for you and Mrs. Clause to try out. Love and Spanks, PolySJR
9/14/2012 4:32:39 PM

*****Interesting Reading******

 So, while searching different websites in the Mistress and sub groups I came across a heading " Courting your Domme?" I just had to read this because I am one of those Female Tops that likes to be treated like a Lady and the word "courting" caught me attention.

In this discussion the OP goes on to talk about how much she finds the little things heart melting and that its the subs attention to making her feel special even in the vanilla world that ultimately makes her decide to play/own a sub.

I have to say that is very true for me. I want to know that someone put some thought into being out with me. I don't expect jewelry, or expensive things like that. I expect you to not cancel on me, be punctual, pull my chair out, maybe a flower. If I don't particularly love it I will simply say "Oh 'so sweet, you know my favorite flower is a Tiger Lilly!" See you gain valuable info for later and you make my day because I know you were thinking about me; not what I might do to you, how I will use you, but honestly think about a way to make my day a little better.

Ultimately isn't that what submission is about finding someone that when you submit to them and make your goal to make them happy, you yourself are fulfilled. Sure every sub has a list of things that turns them on, and things they prefer to do, but ultimately the rush of submission is "giving" all that to the Top and letting them use the knowledge however they choose!

Of course this isn't probably true for all Tops, but hey it is for me!

9/11/2012 8:35:13 AM
Wow, the amount of people that send me messages is amazing. I appreciate the compliment of someone wanting to chat and get to know me. My favorite messages I have to say are from people who read my profile and then either reference it with a question of clarification, or ask questions of the kind of dynamic/service I am looking for. To me ,these messages allow for an easier transition to actual conversation. Don't get me wrong, I like the fact that subs want to be of service, but I want a relationship dynamic that is not about a single encounter or even just kinky D/s sex. I want someone I can respect as a sub, and care about as a partner. That being said, don't get the idea that I'm all mushy. I expect to engage in activities that fulfill my Sadist desires. I want a sub to be made to cry, beg, be humilitated, and to follow my lead. But I am only going to do those things with people I enjoy talking to, hanging out with, and are in general good people. So guess I'm saying I am picky about my partners, and if you think you might like to be my submissive, I will be more attracted to you showing off your personality and intelligence, then your genitalia and its love of D/s play.
9/8/2012 4:16:38 AM

So I can't decide which introduction I want on here. I like the one I have and I like this one... So here is my other introduction!

Hello,

I am a 25 yr old BBW. I am a wife, mother and an aspiring Sadist. My Husband and I are living a polyamorous life style. The relationships I am looking for tend to be more Domme/sub. Hopefully finding a sub who can become a part of my life and enrich it. I'm looking to meet a sub who can be an awesome friend and be a devoted sub. Some person who wants to be loved as a person and cherished as my sub. This means I am looking for more then kinky sex !! I can get that anytime. I do live with my husband, whom actually has sex vanilla and kinky with me regularly! I want another person/people in my life. I believe for me, that one person could never fulfill all the needs and wants I have. My Hubby fills more then the majority of those needs and wants, but there are things I want to do that he just isn't into. On the flip side the same goes for him. So we mutually agreed on trying this "poly-thing". We have found it is a great fit for us and we love it!

More about me....Poly-kinky-sadist-nemphomaniac-bisexual-switch. I am far more selective about "who" than "what". I am a submissive to my Husband I am not really interested in subbing for others right now. I have a sadistic streak that runs deep, but I also crave pain occasionally.* (yup welcome to my switchiness)* I am currently into experimenting with rope harnesses and trying some positional bondage. Rope bondage is one of the areas that I absolutely love. I love to use rope during sex and during kinky sessions of funishment and actually punishment! I am currently experimenting with it more on myself and on my lover.

I want to explore my sadism more and to do that I need a sub who is a)experienced and patient enough to teach me, or b)unexperienced but willing to experiment and research. I have some experience or knowledge about most everything I want to do, and I have done the majority of my homework(just lacking the hands on experience I think necessary to call someone experienced). Oh and I will add that I am cpr, first aid trained as any Domme/Dom should be. (Seriously you want to hit people but can't take a little time to get a little knowledge on how to deal with emergencies that could happen!)

 Looking for others to talk to, share experiences and possibly get to know better! Just basically wanting to get more like minded friends and search for other future partners!

9/7/2012 6:41:19 PM

Hubby and I will be traveling to Phoenix, Az in March and want to meet up while we are out there with someone(female) to have some sexy fun with! He really surprised me with this request!

9/7/2012 11:27:38 AM

*****Shower Time***** One of my favorite places to play with and use my current submissive lover, is in the shower. I love the wet skin, wet slaps, and getting pampered by her. We decided to take a shower in the basement concrete block shower last night. I told her to bring down some water proof toys from the playroom to use in the shower. She brought a medium sized butt plug and a dp dildo. Both excellent choices. She knows I love to abuse her ass and stuff her asshole anytime we get together. We start out by having her stand in the spray and I twist her nipples and smack her large breast around. I move my hand to spread her pussy. I insert the dp dildo in her pussy then move the other end to her ass. I work it in and move it around a bit. After that I spank her ass, pussy and breasts till they are a nice rosy red. I then pull out the dp dildo and order her to turn and lean into the wall. I take the medium plug and push it into her...all the way in...base and all. Oops! I immediately had her bend farther over and I went fishing, telling her to just push it out. I couldn't believe it freaking just slipped right in! In the end we got it out. And got a laugh out if it. I ended up putting both ends of the dp dildo in her as. And guess what I kept hold of the middle, just in case her greedy asshole decided to swallow another toy. Lucky it just stretched her hole and made her groan. After she kneeled and orally serviced me til I squirted on to her face. Then I let her pamper me by washing my hair and body. Gods, I love shower time. Even when funny "shit " happens.

ImtheKitKat59
 
 Age: 21
 New york, New York