Bliss

The Car
Your Touch
My Sigh
Our Lips

A fever
Desecrating together
Naked flesh, fucking forever
Intwined in bliss

The Couch
Your Smile
My Need
Our Tongues

A fever
Desecrating together
Naked flesh, fucking forever
Intwined in bliss

The Bed
Your Cock
My Pussy
Our Orgasms

A fever
Desecrating together
Naked flesh, fucking forever
Intwined in bliss

Ravage me

Saw you standing there in your jeans, my pussy seeped
Under the heavy fabric lurked your granite cock
Smile tugs at the corners of your beautiful lips
Your eyes came alive with desire, the motor switched

I struggled with control, so wanting that release
I wished to worship that marble, gorgeous manhood
Visions of pleasing you prevailed in my naughty mind
Ravage me, I whispered, need me, my desire growled.

I belong to another site and I blog there. It is a sex site, not kinky..but a sex site nonetheless. I have grown in my time on that site, learned a lot from the other bloggers and responders. I want to talk about something I read there, it was written by a blogger friend of mine. She was talking about the reasons she knows she is a submissive.

I rarely refer to myself as a submissive, though I am. I have a dominant side that can clearly be seen in some of my writing and fetishes, but my real desire comes from the power exchange between a man and woman. I understand the need for equality amongst the sexes, but I don't want it in my relationship. However, I rarely refer to myself as a submissive. There are certain misconceptions about being a submissive...women really. The biggest one? That we all want the same thing.

I am an independent and capable woman, I can and do care for myself and my needs every day. I am not not meek. I am proud of my well formed opinions, boundaries, sexual deviance, and preferences. I have a "mouth" and am often sarcastic...it takes a strong capable man to "lead" me and for me not to feel as though I have to "take over".

I spend most of my days taking care of others, the last thing I want to do is take care of my partner. Or, try to teach him how to communicate with me. This is not to say I am slothful or don't want to do anything, shoot...I am far from idle. I will gladly “take care” of my man, happily cook, keep a clean house, work, and still look sexy when he comes home. Provided he is willing to prove he can take care of himself, and all other needs, preferences, and boundaries have been discussed and agreed upon. (Of course)

See, I am forty five years old. I have been married and divorced three times. I have had so many broken engagements and live in boyfriends over the years, I know what not to do. Now I know EXACTLY what kind of relationship I want and the kind of men I enjoy spending time with.

However, this is entry was intended to be about what I don't like in a man. And, there seems to be quite a lot of them out there. A man who cannot control himself and/or take care of himself, his business, and his emotions. A man who wants a woman to take care of him because he can't or won't do it himself.

There seem to be a lot of men online looking for happiness in a woman. They are looking for someone to take care of them, or for the women to all fit into a neat little box. Or, my other favorite, disrespectful men who think all submissive women are obedient little creatures they can stomp all over and try to tell us what we want. Well, good luck with that, gentlemen. Most submissive women are strong and VERY capable women. We are bright, strong willed, and you have to get to know us and earn our trust before most of us would be willing to submit to you

I, for one, am damn tired of taking care of men who won't or can't take care of themselves. I spent the majority of my adulthood doing just that...having my submissive nature taken advantage of. I like taking care of my man. I am perfectly happy with the division of labor based on the sexes. I don't care where or what we eat for dinner. I am good at the "domestic" stuff, not so good at "manly" stuff like vehicles and lawns. I make my own money, but would gladly hand it over in favor of someone I trust handling the bills and giving me an allowance. The problem becomes that many men, they are happy with that...except they can't or won't hold up their end of the bargain. Or, they don't want to put in the effort it takes to show me that they are that man. They want instant submission.

Well, not for this hedonist...she wants to remain happy, strong, and independent. It's hard for me to admit that I would rather have a man, I respect, in charge of me. I struggled with it for years, but it's best just to accept and love me for me. See, I have always had to take over because the men in my life couldn't handle the responsibility. Not anymore, this submissive...she doesn't need a man, she wants one. She doesn't want a man who needs her...rather one that wants her...for EXACTLY who she is.

Please stop assuming that every woman wants the same thing, read her profile and respond accordingly. Writing short text speak messages confuse me, if you want to get to know a woman...why wouldn't you put in a little effort? Most of the time, I don't understand my messages because there isn't enough information given to understand what or if they are asking me something, or if it's just a failed attempt at communicating with me.

Why not try having a conversation like you would anyone you just met that you are interested in? Try to get to know me and allow me to get to know you. Even if you don't want to get to know me...I suggest that if you don't understand who or what a person wants or is looking for, don't assume, ask questions...there is nothing wrong with that.