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| I'm beginning to explore redefining my identity a bit to better discover who I am, so for the moment I'm not honestly 100% sure what to put here. I do know I'm dominant because ultimately I tend to place myself in at least some degrre of control of a situation, but with the right kind of sub I can take direction or requests while still being able to do my own thing with the idea rather than necessarily following orders or being given commands. A power dynamic can be a spectrum rather than a split definition of roles. The dom is in charge and control, yes, but submission isn't demanded, it's given. I can't pin someone down without first knowing they want me to do it, that's why part of being dominant is knowing your sub at times better than they know themselves, because when you're both caught up in a passionate moment, the sub's safety and security afterwards are the dom's responsibility during it. My subs have to trust me not to let anything happen to them, because that way we both know I'm aware of the guidelines and boundaries so things don't get out of hand. At the same time, I know better than to expect perfect obedience to the letter, and understand that part of a dom's job is coaxing and persuading the sub, reminding them of their role and why they play it. Some subs that's done gently between the rough bits...other subs just need to be bent over a knee and given a good spanking when they're being bratty. A good dom keeps many tools in his kit and many toys in his box (And his sub's box for that matter). Why? Because every good adventurer plans on being well equipped
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