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PirateMaster1973

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Hi all,

I am a dominant first and foremost. It permeates all aspects of my life. I have experience with Japanese rope bondage, fire, and breath play. I like corseting among many other activities. I can humiliate you or have you kneeling from a simple desire to make me happy. I have been in the lifestyle over 10 years. I am looking for a drama free time. Despite what you may read on here, you do not have to be an asshole in order to be dominant. Being dominant is about having a will that supersedes some one elses' will. I am height and weight proportionate not that it makes any difference. If you want someone with a six pack that is not me. I have never had one and probably never will. There are many aspects of BDSM. Some of which I have included under my experiences. Of the activities I enjoy, some of my favorites are breath play and bondage. i have been called sadistic by some and extremely passionate by others. I think that is because each person perspective plays into what they experience. What some would call extreme play others would call a walk in the park.

I am not married or attached. I have had a slave\submissive before and yes I know the difference. I have trained a slave\submissive before. I do know that BDSM is not just about munches and reading books and there is no substitution for experience. I have experience. Come talk to me and find out what I have done and what I want to do.

I enjoy boating, camping, dancing and playing pool. I have been around the block one of my favorite memories was having sex during a tsunami on a beach in japan. i have experience and would love to share it with someone. I believe that things happen for a reason and that things take time. Many DOMs have stop, drop and grovel in their profile. You will end up doing that for me at some point however it does not happen in the very beginning just because you read my profile. If that is the case then you should move on. I like a challenge not a doormat. If you would like to know more contact me.

Name on yahoo masterofyournight.

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1/15/2011 11:46:57 AM

The Challenge to all Slaves or Submissives

 You can not find what you seek if you don't talk. Email me or contact me on yahoo. Chemistry is not found in a profile it is found by interacting with people. Stop waiting for your DOM in shining amour to show up and get in the game.  More then likely you have already been contacted by someone that can either help you refine what you want and enjoy or is the one for you if you were not so picky. Men are chastised and thought less of when they judge on look and not character of heart and yet women do this on a regular basis even the ones that like to think they are submissive or slaves.

 

This is not to say there should not be chemistry  however there is more to chemistry then looks.


1/12/2011 4:53:46 AM

I am so tired of the fake women on here. It should be simple. If you are in the same state as me then lets talk. If you are out of the country then I don't want to pay for you to come visit.


12/9/2010 7:38:50 PM

I found this on the slave registry and thought that it was a very good question and response. I was not the respondee however He said everything I would have to this person.


i'm feeling a bit confused at the moment. i have these urges within me to go through severe training, almost to the point of breaking my spirit. i'm talking about some pretty extreme things as a way to help the inner slave break free.

The confusion is, its not supposed to be about my needs, its supposed to be about what Master wants. How do i deal with the frustration of needs i have not being met while at the same time realising i'm already doing that which i need to do?

Has anybody else struggled with the need to be forced into slavery (almost)?

 

 

First of all let me commend you for coming to this realization on your own. A lot of subs put in this situation tend to blame the Dom for not being 'Dom' enough. And really most of the time it has little to do with the Dom.

I've always believed that what makes a good slave/sub is the ability to empty themselves of their own wants and desires so that they can be filled with the wishes and desires of their Dom. So in essence the slave/sub is a container or vehicle for their Dom's desires. So if your cup is already full of what your expectations and desires of a what a Master should be and act, how is a Master supposed to fill a cup that is already full?

Giving a Dom complete control and then trying to influence or tell them how to use that control is like letting telling someone they can drive your car but they can only turn when you feel its okay. Why let them drive the car if you're not going to let them go where they want to go? At that point, the Master becomes nothing more than a glorified chauffeur.

That said. This is usually the problem but not always the problem. There is also the question of quantity. If you're a 10 gallon cup and they only have 1 gallon of desires to pour into you. Well you're not going to feel fully utilized or like you're reaching your full potential.

But I think your realization is the first step in the right direction. I believe just as much as a Dom should really focus inwardly to try and learn what kind of Dom they want to be, its the same for subs. So my first bit of advice is to really look at yourself and ask yourself which of the previous examples are you?

Are you a cup that's already full with your own desires. Or are you a cup that is simply not being filled completely?

If you're the full cup. You really have to look at what you desire, how important are they to you? Is it something you want as an experience or something of a lasting desire? Unfulfilled desires in a person (Dom or sub) can become cancerous if left unsatisfied so simply setting them aside is rarely the answer. They end up like a small cut left unattended, can get infected and what was a small nagging issue becomes a reason problem for the health of your relationship.

So you have to be honest with yourself. How important are the desires to you before you 'pour them out of your cup'? And how do you empty your cup? Its a matter of perspective.

Some subs (in my opinion most) are a little vain. Its not a bad thing mind you but they look at their Doms and the commands and orders given like mirrors. They see themselves through their Dom's eyes. They imagine what their Dom sees and that picture in their head pleases them. That might work for you to try to see yourself as you think your Dom does.

Another approach is to look at your Dom and his commands and orders like windows. Don't look so much at what he makes you do but rather why does he make you do it. Try to connect by taking your submission as a means of learning and understanding not only to learn the depths of yourself as a person but your partner as well. That is the approach I adhere to as well as encourage in subs. Each instruction is a glimpse into what makes him happy or what he wants you to be.

A simple saying helps keep this mind frame: Clay does not mold clay.

For many Doms we do what we do as a means of expression or exploration. See yourself as clay and allow yourself to be molded.

For me what gives an action its worth is the meaning or emotion behind it. In any relationship our behavior is as big a part of how we communicate as the words we share with one another. So while you're focusing on what he does, you might be missing out on a much deeper connection behind the reason or nature of his behavior.

Now if its a matter of his desire is not enough to fill the cup you've emptied for him. Well there are a number of things you can do.

Its a small belief of mine that a sub should be obedient to their Dom but not dependent. You can set up your own standards and expectations with in the limitations your Dom places on you.

From every task no matter how big or now tall. Become an overachiever. He wants you to clean the floor. Make it sparkle like your life depended on it. If he asks you to get something. Examine his mood if he's looks relaxed try being creative. Get down on all fours and 'go fetch'.

Really just as much as being a Dom is a form of expression so is being a sub. So take a look at yourself and really try to give a 'voice' to your behavior. Don't just do the task make it a part of who you are in that moment and give yourself entirely to it. Role play with yourself there might not be a punishment awaiting you but you can do the task as if he was going to cut off your limbs if you failed him.

You can even punish yourself. Now I don't mean go off and start spanking yourself or anything drastic like that, if you feel you must go that far talk to your Dom first and see how he feels about it. Remember you are his and I know I wouldn't want anyone damaging my stuff. But you can do small things, like on your free time if there is things you like to do you can abstain from what you like.

But really the goal here is to squeeze as much servitude as you can out of each task as possible. If you really put in the effort and throw everything you have into it that should help fill your cup a great deal more.

But if you really find yourself feeling anxious after that I HIGHLY suggest taking up a regular exercise routine. Go running, work out at home, join a gym, really anything to really wear you out. Because if you have a strong emotional connection and you're really honed in and committing yourself mentally than its not an imbalance of desire but more so an imbalance of energy.

Its the same when you're trying to train a high energy dog. You're trying to train them and their energy level is through the roof, they're excited, they're bouncing all over the place. They're all "Lets play lets play lets play... throw the ball, throw it.. throw it... Oh a leash... I bet I can pull you harder than you can pull me! Come on lets play... lets play lets play..." And you can't train them when they are like that. But take that same dog take it out first for a long walk or let it run around the yard and burn off some of that energy and THEN try to train it well the dog becomes much more receptive.

And you can be the same way. Though not to the extent of an excited dog. You might be present in your mind and in your body but in your heart, your desire could be like that high energy dog "Ooo when are you going to hit me... hit me... grab my throat... ooo throw me to the ground... make me grovel make me beg... do it do it do it..." and though you're going through the motions your heart really is not focused. Or it could be your mind too. But that energy level needs to be put into check and brought down to a level more in balance with your Dom.

So a good heavy work out can bring down that energy level a few notches. If you're tired, you're calm, if you're calm you're more receptive. So really its just a way of emptying your cup rather than doing it mentally its more of a physical drain to shave off some of that excess energy. That way you'll be better equipped to focus on what you're doing rather than what you want to do.

Hope any of that helps. I have a habit of rambling and not making a lot of sense sometimes. Its late/early here so really not in the mood to go back and proof read, so this is what it is. Take it for what its worth and I hope it serves as some assistance to you.


8/7/2010 9:55:43 AM
The chains of your submission are held in one of my hands. You are lead to a place you have heard about but rarely reached. You float above your body watching me work on you. Caresses of the flogger seem a million miles away. The corset you barely feel. All you feel is pleasure as each stroke sets fire to your pussy. allowing you to orgasm endlessly.

It is over now and remorsefully you return to the world. Held confidently in my arms you realize I am speaking to you. As you hear me say "I am very proud of you....."   

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 Age: 25
 Berlin, Germany