The name Philosopher Poet was picked for a reason. I have a perspective on life that centres around empowerment and belief that what I think is central to the conditions around me. In turn I live life positively. But more importantly, I believe that each of us is responsible only for our own choices and growth. Friends and community do provide support, but it is to each individual to come to their own place.
What does this mean? For one I do not believe that I have all the answers. Questions, certainly, and quite possibily an opinion. But that does not make me right. However, I think that makes me accessible.
But what am I as a Dom? I am new to this in the literal sense. In fact, I've not formally engaged in a physical BDSM scene in real life. I've dabbled informally (sexual encounters where I tied the partner down, blindfolded, teased, tickled, played with textures, temperatures and trajectory). But I've never actually had a woman 'submit' to me as a slave. In the virtual sense (online) I've explored more extensively, but the Internet is a domain of the imagination alone. As a poet I've found that my writing ability helps me to channel my imagination. However, when all is said and done I'm new.
That said, do not mistake timing with a lack of certainty. We are all new at some point. On one hand I've spent a number of years getting to this point (thinking about myself as a Dominant). On the other hand I've a number of years to think about getting to this point (thinking about who I might be as a Dominant). This is a powerful combination that I intend to build upon.
So what am I as a person, that might influence me as a Dom? I am a passionate, confident, and balanced person. I am not quite 40 but I've seen and experienced a fair bit in my life. I am mentally capable to challenge yet emotionally balanced with self-esteem to be secure in how I live my life. I have spent recent years working through self-knowledge - which I believe is a central foundation for self-esteem and self-control. And in turn, a good starting point for being a Dominant.
I have come to accept who I am, on all aspects of my life. In turn, my philosophy in life is to accept others. I am not here to judge. I am here to learn, to grow, and to help others make choices in clarify, focus, ease and grace. I always see the divinity in others, and love the trust given when a submissive shares of herself, her secrets. The more she trusts the more my respect and caring grows.
I am strong. Yet I am compassionate. I am a married man in a long term partnership where we have come to accept that while we are committed to each other that not all of our interests align. She has no desire to live as a submissive. At the same time I run my own successful business. I never seem to tire of control and as I think about what it means to be a Dominant I tremble inwardly (in a very good way) at the thought of a woman surrendering her vulnerability, who is inspired by my caring and direction to devote herself to me.
What am I looking for? To earn devotion. To explore my limits and the limits of my submissive. To test limits and to mold a slave to my ideal vision, a vision that combines my own most passionate wishes with the essence of the submissive. This kind of journey with a submissive will be more than an adventure. When exploring the edges and depths of who we are we will come to know the other, sharing who we are, and to evolve as a result.
What have I discovered about my preferences so far? I love to tie-up, to tease, to play with textures, temperatures, and trajectory. I love to fuse the physical with the emotional and mental. However, I also come from a spiritual perspective and will ever be the philosopher when need is there. The idea of inflicting pain in one moment, while tickling another, as the tied slave moaned at the vibrator at her clit excites me. Robbing one sense, such as sight, while I play with others, such as sound and touch, and surprise through the unexpected as limited only by the extent of my imagination. With experience this potential will only grow. But most of all, I seek to lose track of past or present, and would guide us to becoming utterly lost to the moment.
In the short term my expectations are centred in reality. It is far too early to say what my full expression as a Dominant will be. However, maybe I will meet the submissive who will teach me as much as I will guide and shape them. In time, as I guide a submissive I will revel in what I have created. I want to be safety personified, a person for whom the submissive feels she can completely abandon herself to. When she comes into my presence I want to be lifted by what we are, and to know that I had a hand in helping her to discover who she is.
When I'm happy with her behaviour I reward her. I use her thoroughly, exhausting her as a way of thanking her for submission. I am mentally strong enough to recognize most manipulation, including attempts to deviate from enforced punishment. Discipline is essential. I am Master, and the submissive must trust me. In my firmness and experience I will shape. I am respectful, yet I am disciplined. If I issue a command it is followed. If it is not followed I determine why and exact the appropriate punishment. However, my submissive craves only to serve and make her master happy - so punishment is rare. Positive reinforcement is far more effective and would be the preferred approach.
There...this should be enough to introduce me in your mind. I can say though that the complex being that I am is more than is written above. And whilst I am looking to evolve I also looking for a special submissive (in time) that will allow me to explore these desires I've had for so many years.
If you've read this far and are interested then do know that I will not be accepting submissives that throw themselves at me. I got a mail today after being signed up for 30 minutes and no profile uploaded. Anyone who is willing to relocate for someone based on their name alone is not for me. I am not desperate - I am deliberate. Oh, and I tend to hang out at beautyscastle.com. If you happen to live close to me, than all the better!
