He had been at work for hours but managed to get home before her and was asleep on the couch with a towel tied loosely around his slim taunt hips. His breathing was slow and steady, and she could tell from the shadows on his face that he was exhausted, working way too many hours with little or no sleep.

Just for a moment she took in the unguarded sight of him, pure male even in his sleep. Strong broad shoulders, sculpted chest, narrow wait and just thinking about what was hidden beneath that towel made her wet.

She approached him quietly after she turned down the lights. She quickly removed her clothing and knelt between his semi spread legs. Moving slowly as to not startle him she began to untie the towel kissing his flesh along the way. Even in sleep his cock appeared to be aroused, she reached down and guided it into her warm wet mouth; instantly it grew to its full size pulsating ready. She sucked long and hard drawing him all the way into the back of her throat. He made low growling sounds grabbing her by the hair and thrusting deeper. She wanted him to cum, cum deep within her mouth and yet as she felt him tense for the orgasm he jerked her by the hair released himself and sprayed his load all over her face while she panted and tried to lick at him in the midst of his orgasm.

Panting, still kneeling between his legs she said, at last I have caught you unaware and had my way with you…He leaned back smiled a wicked smile and said no pet, you have done just as I planned for you to do… I am master here.

Traits of a good Dom

1. From the Core - effective dominance comes from the core of the person. No amount of fetish wear or powerful garments can make a Dom out of a man who hasn't worked on his power and grace within. Having a great collection of toys will not make you a great Dominant either... it just means you know where to shop, The same goes for skills. Knowing techniques alone does not make you a great Dom... it'll make you a great Top.

2. Knowing the domain of your influence. A good Dom/Domme always understands when and where Dominant behavior is appropriate.

3. Confidence is the root of power. The ultimate aphrodisiac for the sub is the Dominant's genuine self-confidence. On the other hand, the cocky dominant needs to see his greatness reflected in the eyes of others, while the confident dominant simply knows what His/Her powers are.

4. Seduce - Don't Force. The ultimate power is that of persuasion. To get the submissive or bottom to want to do for you what you command of them - that's dominance.

5. Humility begets respect. The good Dominant understands the He/She must be humble in the presence of the magic that He/She invokes -- that magic of wondrous connection created in the arena of genuine D/s.

6. To get your partner's submission, give them respect and gratitude. The good Dominant knows that the limits and emotional vulnerabilities of others must be respected.

7. Be HONEST with all things: Your desires, your limits, your flaws, and your errors.

8. Decisiveness is enthralling. Each action is committed with mindfulness.

The sexuality referred to as poly, polyamory, or "being poly", is the acceptance of the potential for multiple loving partners within relationships. This may include sexual partners. Polyamorous relationships are not "cheating", but mutual love and honesty in relations that are not monogamous. The bases of such relationships are love, stability, compatibility, peace and personal and relationship honesty. Polyamory does not accept secret lovers: this is cheating by poly as well as monogamous standards.

Not everyone can be poly. This is not an attempt to 'convince' people to be poly. Being poly is a natural thing, and people who are not naturally a poly will not be able to 'convert' to poly. They may be able to try, but it would be unnatural for them. Poly folk should always realize this.

No two people are perfect for one another. People are very complicated, and it is always true that you cannot satisfy any person completely, emotionally, sexually or socially.

For a polyist a stated monogamous relationship is oppressive, unnatural and unstable.

"Some people seem to have no jealousy; it's as if they didn't get that piece installed at the factory. Others, including some long-term polyamorists, feel jealousy, which they regard as a signal that something needs investigation and care, much as they would regard depression or pain. Jealousy is neither a proof of love nor a moral failing.

To qualify as polyamory, partners need to be in proper relationships, openly. Part of polyamory is that it is Human affection and comfort that is sought, not just sexual contact or excitement.

If change occurs too quickly, people's emotions can sometimes be left behind, or a situation can develop and after a while it begins to feel wrong. The best solution is to always try to take things slowly, to discuss things and pay attention to your feelings about people. You can't rush the formation of a poly circle. When things progress slowly a much more natural balance can be reached with less potential for disaster.

I think this is a very clear cut idea of how I see Poly. I have a large capacity to love and enjoy close intimate relationships with the people I love. I don’t have sex with most of them but truly enjoy feeling free.

The marriage I got out of was very oppressive and I stayed too long and a part of me died. I have been working hard at getting the whole me back together and having had an amazing caring Dom that accepts me for me has helped. I was in my head too much this last weekend and I don’t want to do that. I am going to work hard on living in the moment and trusting. I never want to be caged again…

I am still learning and growing in the life style. It is amazing how Alice in Wonderland this can all feel sometimes. The line between what is real and what you think is are so blurred.

I am feeling really good with my life right now! New friends, good job, life is sweet.

Life is good... My Dom is well pleased the sub came more times than she could count and I am mistress of my domain... He is a good teacher of very bad things ;-)

Well, Master has decided we should come together and talk. It was excellent! I think talking things out between the three of us was the right thing to do and I feel so much better having done that. I almost feel like an adult;-)

This is still new to me and I am learning as I go. I appreciate the chance to get to do that within a context that I may indeed make mistakes, piss people off and have to have the courage to go back and look at all sides.

Today is a new and very good day...

Last night Pleasurepain27 said he was done with me. Clearly we were both not done with each other.

I think it is important for me to add I miss Pleasurepain27 he was the first to teach me a few things about my body and the line between pleasure and pain. Although he is greatly disappointed in me for the manner that I choose to tell him hard limits had been hit. It was a learning opportunity for me, I need to control my temper and if I am too emotional at the time ask for a break and come back to express my concerns and needs.

3/15/11

What I want to know as a newbie is even if you don't agree with what your Dom wants because it is some how a disrespect to you and you know it will most likely cause more drama are you suppose to go along with it?

I want someone who can put in the time and take care of my sexual needs and then maybe if this grows my emotional needs as well. I don't have to "own" him and am happy to share with a mature non man hog drama female or someone in the vanilla world that knows. If you are always chasing the next conquest then you are not for me and don't have the level of depth I need. If you can not take my speaking my mind, you will grow weary of trying to control it.

What I wanted and still want is a strong man willing to get to know me and guide me through new things especially things are difficult for me or if I feel threatened. I want someone I can trust absolutely and this is not possible for me without strong attachments.

Ultimately somewhere down the road I want a long term relationship with someone who gets me on every level. I want a girlfriend as well because I need that kind of attention too. I do not want to have competition in the bedroom or someone that feels they must have something NEW all the time. Too much of a good thing is simply too much and can create chaos. 

3/12/11

Well, he met her also on this site and they hooked up a couple of times and he pushed for the 3 of us to get together and we did even though I am so not into sex with straight women. It was ok that night but she was a man hog and very needy. I didn't like that. When I was getting ready to plan his party he had invited her and I was like oh shit really?? And then she freaked out on him and he said she wasn't invited. She also called me and said that she just wasn't into being one of his girls only wanted to be with just him and would take him any way she could. She just wants to fuck and learn how to be a good sub...

There were a lot of other things said and I pointed out that it was in direct conflict with what I want and have been looking for. He works a lot and there really is only so much time in the day.

She begged and he reinvited her after I had told him how I felt and all that she had said. I got very mad and said things I shouldn't have and he called off the party and wont talk to me... So, I'm thinking its over and maybe its for the best because I couldn't deal with her and I'm not wanting to be the nice little girl. I am really a switch and he is the only person I have subed for in years... There is my sad story.

Ok so here I am after the weekend wondering if there is something in the water??

 Over the weekend 2/26/11 my lovely dom pleasurepain27 helped put together a party that was both amazing and telling. So I remain steadfast in so not wanting any straight females to join us. Just because you want to sleep with him is sooooooo not good enough. Educational as it was it is not a repeat that I would want to do. My favorite thing of the night beside ooooooo mmmmmm ggggggg's from my man is the three way kiss who knew that could be so sexy? And how much better would this be if we were with a woman that was into both of us? So, I will lastly add that my dom can handle 2 women with no trouble at all... But we would like some bisexual company straight women and men need not apply.

Thank you

Last night was UGLY, I went to meet this what I thought was nice woman at a pub and she said that her and her husband respected her wanting to be with other women. So I said cool and we met and a bit later her husband came in and asked would I mind being all together, I said that I was more interested in her but wouldn't rule it out for the future. We went on to have a pretty good time, she and I danced, laughed and when they asked me if I wanted another drink I said no I gotta drive home and they offered to walk me to my car. She asked for a kiss and I said yes and she pulled me into a corner of next to the bar and we kissed and then he came up behind me and grabbed me by the hair and threw me down and she sat on my legs and forced her hand up my skirt and pulled off my panties. He was doing his best to force his dick down my throat and she kept saying to choke her and make her throw up. He slapped me and told her to fist fuck me and I freaked and bite him and kicked her the hell off me and ran to my car. He hit the top of the car with his fist and I speed out of there promptly running a red light and getting a ticket. Bad night. Just because you want some fem time doesn't mean you want to be raped or beat up.