It has taken me a long time to realize that just because a man finds me attractive does not mean he is a good match for me.  I have no interest in being a "cougar" as I find older, authoritative caucasion men attract me the most.

 I am flattered that 20 somethings write to me, but I would always see someone that young as just a boy and could never let him be the leader in a relationship. There are many men in their 40s and 50s even that have no understanding of women. I am not here to amuse, but here on a very serious quest to find someone who enriches my life and will not drag me down in theirs. People who pride themselves in being brutally honest are really just bullies. I believe in being GENTLY honest.

We all have our preferences and I won't abandon mine just to please someone that cares nothing about me, just as I would never expect a man who is attracted to thin women to consider me, nor would I  think any less of him for it. So when a man deep down is not attracted to plus size women but he pursues them and fucks them anyways, he not only does the woman a disservice, but he is doing himself a disservice as well. I truly believe in karma and those on this site who are playing games, lying, cheating on a spouse, etc. likely have lives full of chaos and negativity.

Would love to have somenone who knows me well to spoon with, enjoy some indoor decadence with, and someone I can bake or cook something special for during this impending storm. It's one of those times when "online" contact just doesn't cut it, and only having someone here in the flesh to keep me safe and warm will do. I sometimes wonder will that ever happen when men here are perfectly happy to sit in front of a screen typing with one hand & looking for fresh meat, not realizing, that if my age or older their faces are not as fresh as they once were. They don't realize that the love of a good woman is their fountain of youth, and not a parade of strangers.

On the menu tomorrow night is pot roast and fresh baked bread. Looks like I'll be the only one to enjoy it, but that will also mean an extra half hour on the treadmill.

Just recieved an angry, judgemental message from a misogynist about my pics. He considered it a conflict of interest that I post these pics and at the same time have the nerve to be looking for a "relationship." Would a nun's habit be more fitting for a relationship? Where did he get the idea that a highly sexual woman who is not ashamed of her body or her sexuality is not suitable for a loving, monogamous relationship? Perhaps from his mommy? A man that has a problem with female nudity here obviously has issues. No one gets to berate me for desiring to be loved AND be cherished for my fetish by one single man. Too many people here stuck in loveless, vanilla relationships looking to get their needs met elsewhere. THAT is a sad way to live. I embrace my fetish, who I am, and don't feel that I should be ashamed any part of me. It is only one facet, but certainly a very important part of it. My passionate, sexual nature is just one of the many gifts I possess. If I had a dollar for every man I've heard complaining about their frigid ex-wives or current wives I'd be a millionaire, yet they secretly judge an openly sexual woman and chase the chaste. It really makes no sense to me. Maybe they BECAME frigid after they could sense their husband's judgement. -or maybe he just started skipping the preliminary warmups.

Oh - and if you find the photos distasteful, I would suggest you avoid gyno and medical play.

For me a good RT medical play session is the most erotic and sensual activity I have ever had the luxury of experiencing. - There is simply no substitute.

It has come to my attention that no one ever gives their real name here, so from now on, I get to be Pussy Galore. I might even get it changed to that legally.

A man who has nothing to offer to a good woman, will get nothing.  - and I'm not talking about material things. I'm not impressed with meaningless chat, and not interested in a virtual stranger placing demands on my already busy life.  I look for a man that can communicate with purpose and is not ambiguous about his long term goals. Until I am in a healthy, commited, LTR with a man that makes me feel loved and cared for, I am NOT a submissive, but merely a decent woman with a fetish. I have plenty of self control to wait for the right person to share that with.

 This does not make me Dominant as even a submissive woman can have healthy boundaries and expectations. It just means that men need to return to a time and attitude when we valued honor and integrity.