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Hetero Female Submissive, 51,  Surrey, United Kingdom
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Short version (though I recommend reading the long version for a full insight into who I am and what I am seeking)

My profile is getting a lot of attention from submissives. Please note that I have absolutely NO INTEREST in subs (or switches).

I am a bondage bottom NOT a submissive (yes, there is a difference). I am all about the B and nothing about the DSM. If your profile says Seeking a subslave and you write to me saying we are perfectly matched do not be surprised that you get no reply! I am educated and run my own business and I do not suffer fools gladly! I am not seeking or offering casual sex or NSA fun. I am a romantic who is seeking a one-to-one relationship with someone who utterly adores seeing a lady blissed out in bondage. I am not looking to be gooseberry to a couple. I am not looking for a submissive or a switch, and I am actually not even looking for a Shibari expert. I am more into messy, fun, spontaneous DiD than pretty knots. If you are not in the south east of the UK and willing to meet for real there is little point in contacting me.

Long version

Seeking a man - not a couple! - who is as passionate about bondage as I am.

I do not follow any of the rules. If you are looking for an easy ride look elsewhere. I recommend reading that sentence again.

Ignore the word submissive next to my name on this website. There is no label for what I am. I am not looking for a Dom or Master I have no need for that sort of dynamic. I will submit to bondage, but outside of that you and I are equals. How you speak to me is how I will speak back to you.

Nor am I a masochist. I am not into receiving pain or being called names. If you want to degrade someone or cause them pain then please look elsewhere. Pain and bondage are not intrinsically. For me it is about that mental connection, initially flirting by email whilst we discuss what might happen when we meet. Enough detail to know whats off limits, but not too much detail that means theres no surprises in store and hopefully ending up with us both quivering with excitement as the first ropes (or other bonds) start to encircle my body... Please do not interpret that previous sentence as sexual, It is not meant that way.

There is a beauty and intensity in bondage that cannot be expressed in any other way. A passionate dance between two people, gripping them and enticing them in to experience more and more. You will be practical - even sensible! - but still imaginative even daring or challenging at the right times.

I am not seeking 247, but I would hope we would be drinking buddies and restaurant companions as well as me being your bound playmate. And when we were done we would laugh together and plan the next scene, exploring that wonderful world of bondage together.

The mental connection is so important. You have got to like that person, want that person, respect that person, laugh with that person, and be very open with that person. The click, the same wavelength, the same needs and desires, are for me the most important. There has to be that trust there to be open with one another and to learn from, and teach each other.

I am willful, passionate about everything I do and a hopeless romantic. That means that bondage is NOT an excuse for meaningless sex. You will have to win my heart before you get anywhere near my body.

If you have got this far... well done! Thank you for taking the time to fully read my profile.









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 Submissive Female


 United Kingdom






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Male

 Lives For:

 Blindfolds (Expert)

 Bondage (Expert)

 Corsets (Expert)



 Gags (Expert)


 Masks (Wearing)

 Plastic Wrap (Expert)

 Rubber Fetish (Expert)


 Intellectual Discourse

 Eighties Music


 Bar Hopping

 Fine Dining



 Outdoor Bondage

 Sensory Deprivation





 Masks (On Partner)

 Medical Play

 Mental Bondage


 Speech Restrictions

 Wax play


 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Local BDSM Community


 Obedience Training


 Hard Limits:

 Canes and Crops

 Corner Time


 Needle Play


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Journal Entries:
2/4/2018 10:46:32 AM
"Hi master James here from wallington very fun guy but very firm you are not far away my house is private and I have all you need here message me to report to my office"  I am assuming there's no such thing as education in Wallington...  ;)

1/12/2018 10:05:45 AM

So today I get an unsolicited message suggesting I am somehow lacking in vision for not being into anything other than bondage.  Yes, I know, I know… I have failed to read the BDSM Rule Book section that states “Thou shall comply with how others wish to pigeon-hole you”!  Haha!

12/2/2017 2:27:36 AM
Twice recently I have got as far as actually swapping email addresses with guys who seemed to be genuinely interested and I had compatibility with to have them go silent and I then find they're back on here!

12/23/2016 10:22:54 AM
"I have read your profile, or some of it. And I think we can work out things. We start with sex first untill we get into something more if we get on."   

I haven't stopped laughing yet!  =D

10/17/2016 2:23:38 PM
Wow!  I have been accused of being a fake because... I haven't updated my journal recently!  What the heck?  Surely that's scraping the barrel when it comes to reasons for being aggressive in a first email?  Surely?!

11/10/2012 12:26:26 PM

Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away. - Barbara de Angelis

8/8/2012 7:29:45 AM

Silently breathing... subdued... prepared, her tiny frame contained.  Lost in the darkness of her hood waiting to be touched.  The frantic confusion of existence silenced and her mind calmed by the caress of the rope. It was her friend... it held her in its rough grasp.  Its cruel abrasion the medicine she needed.  Its firm certainty anchoring her restless.  How she welcomed its familiar touch.  Each strand pressing upon her soft skin bringing certainty and repose.  The flurry of questions that plagued her mind every waking hour quietly skulked away into the recesses of her mind and at last fell silent.  The ropes gave her permission to be the soft person she longed for.  The decisions were no longer hers to make. The tyranny of 'what next?' taken from her.  Now she could just be.  No choice but to settle into the protection of her captor.  As the ropes tightened she welcomed the other her. She felt her rising within her.  She was beautiful and delicate and feminine.... a precious sensual being almost from another world.  As this other her grew from inside her she smiled.  She recognised her and greeted her.  She let her absorb her. She felt her warmth flood over her.  Like the genie of the lamp, only the caress of the rope could bring her forth.  With skin that loved to be touched... with precious uncovered curves meant to be stroked.... with desires to be sated... this magical her took over. Her captor had summoned forth perfection for his pleasure...  with the caress of the rope.

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