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| I'm looking for a relationship with a kinky girl. Dominant, submissive, switch, I like to explore all of these roles. I'm looking for a relationship first, the kink will come later if things work out. My day to day, mundane life is probably more important to you if you are reading this, so I'll tell you a little about that first.
I major in economics at at a large university in Western PA, but life got in the way so I have to take a semester off one semester before graduation. I'll go back in Jan, graduate in May and then be back in the area. Until Jan I'm just kind of floating without a serious career direction. I spent 10 years as a network technician before I went to college. I code C++, Java and a bunch of web scripting languages. I'm not good enough to be a professional programmer, but I love messing around with computers. It's my creative outlet. I'm an amateur 3D modeler and video game designer, although I don't play video games very much.
I've been going to the gym since June and have just hit my goal of loosing 20 lbs. My new goal is to see my abs by next June.
Now, on to the kink:
I'm polyamarous, which does not mean I sleep around. I think that I probably sleep around less than most people I know. Polyamory is not swinging or wife swapping to me. Being polyamarous means that I can have multiple romantic relationships at once and so can my partners. I am not always in multiple relationships at once and I am not always looking for a new girlfriend but I am always open to multiple romantic relationships.
I'm not really into casual play. I like playing with women I'm dating but I just haven't found casual play to be all that great, in my experience.
I'm a switch, which doesn't mean I'm confused or afraid of commitment. It just means that I enjoy both top and bottom roles. The whole D/s distinction doesn't interest me enough to want to make dominant or submissive part of my identity. It's cool if that's how you roll. Really, I hope you have fun with it. I have no problem dating somebody who identifies as a submissive or as a dominant. Just don't expect me to do it.
That said, the women I date always seem to want to submit to me more than dominate me. I don't look for a particular role in a relationship, I just go with however the chemistry of the relationship goes. I do whatever feels right. Usually that means I'm dominant. I still enjoy a little flogging and bondage sometimes.
If the chemistry is right I sometimes flip, which is where you swap roles mid-scene. I do not have to flip to enjoy myself, this is just one thing I stumbled on that I really like. I generally won't initiate a flip unless we've discussed it first. To flip you have to have the right chemistry with your partner, but when it works it's beautiful. The energy you get from a rapid flip is like energy transferring between coils in an electrical transformer. It can step up the potential or it can tone it down. It's the most dramatic thing I've ever done in bed. It's really one of those things you have to experience to understand.
Sexually, I am very auditory. I love the sound of a woman responding to me, whether it is kinky or not. I don't do phone sex and I don't want my partner to fake it, but I do love a woman who can moan.
I like rope bondage. I've been researching and learning ties from all over the internet for almost a month now and some more experienced riggers have taught me their tricks. Suspension fascinates me but I have not actually suspended anybody yet.
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