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READ MY FUCKING PROFILE BEFORE MESSAGING ME. I am not actively seeking a romantic relationship. I'm a nice person, I promise, but I pack a punch, and I have enough backbone to carry a camel hump. :) I'm also the queen of sass. When speaking to me if you'd like a name to call me (and I'm sure you would), you may call me 'Pam'. =) I reserve the right to ignore people as I please or stop discussions abruptly. You will speak to me as an equal and with the same respect you show your peers and/or yourself, and you will not discuss with me anything that could trespass into sexual territory. You will neither address me with the sole intention of speaking to me in a sexual manner or try to skirt the issue by bringing up vanilla topics or the desire to discuss me and my interests so you can find a way to segue in your penis and your desire to fuck any part of me. I may look young but I was not born yesterday. And I can play the humility game all day long but I am not going to say I'm something that I know I'm not. And I will not sit here and pretend that I'm not wise to the ways of manipulation. And if you treat me like some bonafied sex toy. I am so out of patience for that. From henceforth I will block you on a good day and chew you up and spit you out like yesterday's garbage on most days. And I don't mean in the sexually charged way you might like because you're ~so~ into humiliation. I mean I'll make you feel like the biggest most annoying fuckboy in the world who has ever deigned himself worthy of treating a fellow human being like anything less than a human without their consent to do so. Now, I am nice and I will discuss all sorts of vanilla topics with you. Hells bells I'll discuss things like sexual terminology with you...especially, if I'm looking to be educated on what a certain thing means. If you want to tell me about your experience as a dominate or submissive, or anything else, I'll listen and I'll listen with patience and grace and I'll ask questions. I will make you feel like I respect what you have to say and that your time is valuable to me. I will discuss all sorts of things with you, except the things that I've explicitly said I won't discuss. And I will not accept your poor ass excuses for why you think it's okay to deliberately go against my wishes. Because you're horny, because you're a dominate, because you just 'weally weally wanted to', I don't care. I'm not your submissive. I'm not your slave. I'm not your fuckbuddy. I am a person. I may be online, but I am still a person. If you want me to treat Collarspace with any respect, if you don't want to run people off and then complain that people are leaving, we need to get a few things straight. If you wouldn't say it to me in person, and I know you wouldn't so don't even try, you will -not- say it to me on message. BDSM is about consent. Even when it's about non-consent, you need the consent of your partner to enter into a relationship that includes non-consent. Being a DOMINATE doesn't mean you can just hand pick whoever you want and make them yours. Being a submissive doesn't mean you can just go on someone's message and talk about how they need to dominate you. Would you approach a woman in a supermarket and tell her "Get on your knees and blow me right now"? No. You wouldn't. Why? Because it'd be inappropriate. Because that's not the time or place. Because she's a complete stranger. Because at best she could get the police involved, at worst you'd have so much mace in your face that you wouldn't be able to see straight for a month. Being a part of any lifestyle does not give you a free pass for being a complete and total predator, molestor, and douchefuck. So. If you are planning on messaging me. It will not be because you want me to help you get your jollies off. If you want to masturbate to someone, I hear Big-Tits-Tina over on pornhub can help you out. But leave me the fuck alone, you sexually harassing narcissist. IF I SAY I WILL NOT PERMIT IT, THAT MEANS I WILL NOT PERMIT IT. READ THIS LIST BEFORE MESSAGING ME THANK YOU. I will not permit: Discussions about your sexual fantasies involving me. (Especially including bodily wastes.) So, this seems to be the one most lost in translation, allow me to put in all caps (for my sake and I'm sorry for people who hate caps but this is absolutely necessary:) I DO NOT DISCUSS MY KINKS OR SEXUAL FANTASIES. Discussions about meeting you in real life. Being told that I'm your submissive, dominate, or that I should want to be, have to be, or anything that might suggest I lack choice in the matter. Discussions involving the gory torture or the removal of body parts in a sexually pleasing manner (Yes I've had people approach me with this before. Don't.) Probing into my personal life. Discussions that involve receiving personal information about me. Anything from my name to my phone number to my family members. Discussions with people who lack the basic self respect it takes to form coherent sentences and thoughts. Approaching me with nothing but compliments. I appreciate being complimented, but if that's all you have to say, and if you compliment me on something you couldn't possibly know- it will get annoying and it -will- make me uncomfortable. Discussions about your sexual organs, the size, width, weight, girth, driving power, speed, super powers, amount of veins, who's seen it, who's enjoyed or whatever other approach you feel you can take to discussing your penis in an artful manner. Dick Pics. Discussions about *PUNISHING* me when you are not my dominate and I have not given you the permission to have any control over my decisions, choices, or activities. About Me: I am so very vanilla. I certainly have not the talent which some people possess, of conversing easily with those I have never seen before. I cannot catch their tone of conversation, or appear interested in their concerns, as I often see done. I have faults enough, but they are not, I hope, of understanding. My temper I dare not vouch for. It is, I believe, too little yielding— certainly too little for the convenience of the world. I cannot forget the follies and vices of other so soon as I ought, nor their offenses against myself. My feelings are not puffed about with every attempt to move them. My temper would perhaps be called resentful. My good opinion once lost, is lost forever. I am only resolved to act in that manner, which will, in my own opinion, constitute my happiness, without reference to you, or to any person so wholly unconnected with me. Follies and nonsense, whims and inconsistencies do divert me, I own, and I laugh at them whenever I can I have a fetish for scars, particularly long, deep, and long lasting ones. Including slash marks and burn scars. Especially on the back, across the chest, on the palms, or on the face. Again, lost in translation I AM NOT A CUTTER. I DO NOT ENJOY CUTTING OR HARMING PEOPLE. I DO NOT ENJOY BEING CUT OR HARMED. A SCAR FETISH DOES NOT MEAN A FETISH FOR WOUNDS YOU'VE RECEIVED DURING SEX. I DON'T WANT TO SEE THE BRUISES ON YOUR BUTT FROM A REALLY BAD SPANKING THAT TURNED YOU ON. PLEASE STOP SULLYING MY FETISHES WITH YOUR LECHEROUS BULLSHIT. THANK YOU. I have a fetish for left hands, specifically left hands on left handed people. I love art. I love books. I love reading and being read to. I am a virgin (please do ask me about kinks, sexual experience, etc.) I love whimsical and wondrous things. I like discussing things that make me curious. And I like discussing curiosities. I like discussing imaginary things. I like candles and incense. I am INFP. (Introverted ○ Intuitive ○ Feeling ○ Perceiving) A brief way to describe how this could apply to you is that I am looking, specifically, for the perfect man and only *I* can decide when I've found him or the potential him based on an x-factor that triggers this like destiny-switch inside of me. It's weird. I am an Aries. I like video games, particularly: Action Platformers, RPGs, and Simulations. I'm a sucker for a good story ^^^ I like roleplay. I'm a fan of superheroes and superpowers I've dabbled in table top roleplay a good many times. :)