So predictable. Respond to a profile, the Domme begins to chat, and very soon begins by demanding the sub join a site for "privacy". If you think I fell off the turnip truck last night, you are mistaken. Onward....

And so the silliness continues. Seeing profiles from Dommes who cant even spell correctly and start off demanding tribute or "gifts". The economy is bad, but if thats the only way they can think of to make money, apparently imagination is very much lacking. Almost as ridiculous are Dommes with profiles saying they want a sub male,and when services are offered, they DONT want a sub thats too extreme, or casual encounters, or....? Whats wrong with articulating what it is you want? Is it that hard?

because of my masturbation addiction, i am seriously in need of chastity. i have a CB2000 witht he points of intrigue inserts. It feels so delicious to put it on and then get excited. Of course it always ends up with me releasing  the cock and stroking it to cumming. This afternoon i wore the chastity and used one of the jets on my hot tub to tease the cock mercilessly. Delicious, but once more i released it and jerked to completion....

I made a post last month right before the election about Dommes and politics. Here it is a month and a half after the President was re-elected by a large majority of Americans, yet these nasty, bitter people cant just let it go. I fail to understand why you, as a Domme, feel the need to post a poltical screed on your profile. Are you looking only for sheep who will renounce a belief that is diferent than yours? And exactly how does a persons politics enter into a Domme/sub exchange? Did you plan on verbally chastising the sub for voting differently as he is flogged? I'm sure THAT will be a turn on for you both. Seriously, why cant you Dommes just leave politics out of this? Many of the worst ones are incredibly hot and have methods I would LOVE to submit to. But I could never surrender something like my political beliefs for the sake of submission. Why dont you ladies, instead of taking up so much time on hatefulness of the political process,redirect your energy on here towards finding satisfaction with a willing sub?

What is it with Domme's and politics? Dont get me wrong, everyone is entitled to their political belief. My question is, why does a Domme feel the need to post political rants on their profile? Whats even funnier is, the ones I see posting it are always bashing the president and urging people not to vote for him. Is it some litus test that to be a Domme you have to be a Republican? And what do they think a sub will do if they dont subscribe to their political beliefs, recant and promise to vote as told?  I even had one Domme tell me she would castrate me and feed me my balls because I voted for the president. While I admit the idea of suffering consequences from a Domme for voting the wrong way might be titillating, these ladies seem to be taking their politics way too seriously.....

Latest peeve.... All these new IDs from "Dommes", sounds good, profile looks legit, and even initial contact goes well. But very quickly, the sub must "prove" his desire to serve by creating a profile on some silly site for a mere 29.99$ which re-ups monthly. And when you start to question this, the " Domme" very quickly begins to lose the ability to communicate in proper English. Seriously, if Collar Me cant or wont weed out the scam artists and quick buck artists, it makes real chances of finding anyone remote at best.

Heres another question. Why is it when someone puts up a profile with bare bones information, such as " I enjoy spanking a sub" or " I want to be spanked and fucked by a Dom",  they ignore someone contacting them. SOmetimes they may not see it, if they are snowed under by responses, I get that. But of late, I see DELETED UNREAD more and more. And its not just them being overwhelmed and dumping the inbox, I always follow up saying "just curious if you saw my reply" or something to that effect, only to see DELETED UNREAD almost immediately.  Is it too much to ask of them to say more specifically WHAT they are looking for, such as black males only, no one over 30, ect? Or if thats too much trouble, can you at least be adult enough to say " sorry, you arent what I was looking for"?  Really people, try a bit of common courtesy.

Just curious if anyone has an idea why people you meet, speak to, and for some reason things dont work out have to be snippy? Case in point. Met a Domme last month bought her lunch and talked about expectations. First off, she wasnt quite what her pictures showed, but I could deal with that, if that were all that was wrong. She neglected to mention she smokes, and as I have an allergic reaction to nicotene, thats a big thing. I didnt  have a big reaction later but enough to know it wouldnt work. Also besides buying her lunch, I also turned her cell back on for her. When I talked to her a few days later and explained the allergy, she was rahter blase, which again I didnt mind so much. But then I see on her profile she now has all sorts of snarky remarks that she smokes and if someones body cant take it, fuck off. Seriously, is it necessary to be so nasty about something, especially when the person you direct it at was nothing but nice? And then they wonder why people say bad things about them...

Todays entry is about Dommes who put up "glamour" shots as pictures. Sure its really them, sure its nice, but if You do that, it would also be nice to show just You as well. It can be quite disconcerting to make a date and meet a Domme, only to find out  Her profile picture was, shall we say, overly kind. I keep a recent picture of myself on my profile and would never dream of trying to sell myself as anything but who I am. Really,  everyone appreciates seeing You made up to the nines, Ma'am, but we also like to see exactly the Lady we would be serving, as She will be when we meet....

Just got a message from a fellow male switch saying he agreed with much of what I've been saying. Good to know there are still people out there who can tel the difference between kink and prositution. I seriously cannot even grasp why CM doesnt ban blatent comercial " dommes" and it wouldnt break my heart to see anyone asking for any sort of compemsation banned. This is supposed to be about adults fufilling their sexual desires, not enriching some empty headed bimbo, or disgusting hag. And I'm really loving how they all seem to think that unless you immediately whip out the wallet and shower them with cash, you are somehow "wasting their time". Its really too bad there are enough idiots out there to gratify these parasites so they continue. If the revenue stream dried up, they'd have to go back to work at Wal-Mart.....

Ok, I'm a bit confused. I put down my orientation as  switch, which is true. I can and have been both sub and Dom and enjoy them equally. But it seems there are some who cannot comprehend that anyone could be able to be both. I've read " just pick a side" and otehr snarky comments. Well, do these people only drink hot or cold things? If not, why dont they pick one or the other? And then I love the know it alls who think you cant possibly be Dom if you've ever subbed. In point of fact, I think nobody can truely understand being a Dom/me UNLESS they have at least tried being a sub, even once. I was also questioned why all the pictures on my profile are of me subbing. Well, those are all from one session, and its not usually an integral part of a Dom session that I take pictures, because its distracting, and alot of subs dont want to be photographed for many reasons. Seriously, folks, you can just skip someones profile if you dont like what you read. And if you are conversing with the person, try and be polite, its not for you to judge what that person thinks, feels or does....

Ok, that was weird. I saw a new profile from a female sub and clicked on it to read what she was about, also noticed she was looking at my profile. And then it said she had blocked me, when I hadnt even contacted her. LOL. ALl I was doing was reading her profile. Its amazing anyone could be that paranoid, but it takes all kinds. Its possible it might be someone I know since there wasnt a face shot, but still, very weird. Its her choice but if shes that scared of people looking at her, maybe this isnt the place to be....

Interesting... I saw a new Domme on the list this morning, so I checked the profile. Of course she was in her 20s, first flag. And then there was the whole READ THE ENTIRE PROFILE line ( which I actually dont mind, but usually portends silliness later). She started off stating she "was not a call girl" right away. A good start. There was a list of things She demanded and enjoyed which looked good, then about half way down, crammed into the middle of alot of goodies was " financial domination". The bells went off. SO I kept reading and at first I thought perhaps She meant that She WOULD be a financial Domme if that was requested. I dont have a problem with it being offered as a service for some misguided fool. But then towards the bottom I came across the line " I dont do charity cases"... Now I applaud the lady for being so good at obfuscating what she REALLY is, but bottom line, a hooker is a hooker. Besides, how can you trust someone who goes to such great lengths to disguise her true intentions? I'm sure there are alot of Dommes who read this and think I am an ungrateful subbie or somehow insincere. QUite the contrary. Having sub tendancies doesnt mean I'm a fool or an idiot and it also doesnt mean I wont point out hypocracy and bullshit when I see it. And if the smug ones sit and chuckle and think what a pathetic boy I am and how I will never find partners here, you'd be wrong. I have no trouble, you simply have to be upfront about what you are looking for, what you offer and be what you say you are. I enjoy the Dommes who appreciate honesty in a sub more than what he has in his wallet.

I've been thinking more about yesterdays incident with the "Domme" who was looking for money. As I look at profiles, I notice that a majority of these so-called "Dommes" are in their teens and early to mid 20s. I suppose that makes some sense. Like any animal, humans find the trick to get something they want. These ladies, knowing they are young and for the most part pretty, figure that older men will gladly pay to be Domme'd by them, and I suppose there is a fair amount of men who would. But first, these young 'uns cant have an REAL idea of what D/s is all about. Its funny have they almost always cite " years in the lifestyle". Yes because lots of 12 and 13 year olds have Domme bents. So the bottom line is, yes, you're usually pretty, hot, sexy, ect. But you are also an airhead who has no clue about BDSM and is just looking for a quick easy way to make a buck. I'll take an average looking, older Domme who knows her stuff anyday over one of these wanna be hookers....

I shouldnt be, but I'm amazed at an incident today. A certain Domme had advertised she would like a switch or sub to contact her to possibly assist in dsiciplining her male slave. I thought it might be a nice diversion, so I offered services. All seemed to be going well, she asked if I knew what she wanted and I replied I assumed she would like  a male to do something degrading to her straight male slave. I then got the following message from her:

My slaves punishment is to be made a whore! In frustration of being denied orgasam for over a month he called me a whore, and that cannot go unpunished.

Under my watch and instruction, I will whore his mouth out to your cock where he will be made to serve and earn me money like a whore. Bring what you wish, between 50 and $100 is plenty and lets make him a real whore.

Well, by now I think you know my feelings on paying for things here, so I sent her the following:

With all due respect, Ma'am, this boy cannot pay for the privelege of helping Ma'am discipline Her slave. This boy will happily do whatever Ma'am orders except for exchanging money. When this boy submits to a Superior Female, he does so by paying only with his ass, cock and balls. And on the occasions this boy Doms, he would not dream of charging a sub for the things which are done to them. While this boy very much respects Superior WOmen and is at heart a sub male, he thinks the idea of paying for play or discipline is best left to professionals. This boy apologises if he seems impertinent to Ma'am, it is not his intention and he begs Her pardon.

Ok, so now I've been nice and explained politely about my feelings... and I get back:

That is fine, though you don't seem very sub. more a top from bottom out to only get his pleasure. Obviously, you have no clue how degrading it is for a person to be whore for $ , how empty a feeling it is to have a price on you and used like a piece of shit and discarded for a few dollars.

Play your games else where

Really? Top from the bottom? Not very sub?  Has your jaw dropped yet? Still being a nice guy I sent this back:

Respectfully, Ma'am, its not about the degradations Your slave will feel. Its about paying for the "privlege" of participating. If it was about getting my pleasure, I would have been eager to do what you asked. You are certainly entitled to Your opinion about my submissiveness, but because someone will not do everything ordered, especially outside of actually serving, hardly makes them top from the bottom.

Anyone want to bet I either hear nothing more or get a huge flame back?  This is exactly my point about pay for play.....

AN ADDENDUM: I see this Domme has just posted it is 98 degrees in her apartment and she wants to know which slave will have the honor of getting her a small window A/C..... Which proves what I've always said, it seems most of these "pay me" Dommes are just the same as any hooker, all they want is material gain....

Just read a profile from a "domme" that stated if a male was ever given the supreme gift of becoming her slave, he would do blah blah blah... " AND PAY MY BILLS!"... Ok so shes a fat stupid cow, I could live with that part, but then she goes on to expound  she is not there to support a slave ( again, ok...) and "only her DOG lives under her roof for FREE! You will pay my BILLS!"... Lets examine the profound stupidity inherant there.  Only her dog lives under her roof for free and she will not support her slave. Yet, SHE apparently thinks its  perfectly fine to live for free soaking off her "slave" This is exactly why so called "financial dommes" are worse than whores. At least a whore provides a real service, not some nebulous and vague ideal of "slavery" in exchange to be a free loader. I've also been told by other Dommes that there are way more subs than Dommes, so the only way to make a connection is to pay, unless the Domme is interested in a relationship. I dont buy the latter part. I think there really are Dommes who enjoy having a sub that "pays" with his or her ass. Its a 2 way street, both want and need something and theres no reason why it has to be polluted by filthy lucre. I wonder why male Doms dont go around demanding  financial gain? Its true they'd be laughed at because there are so few female subs for all the male Doms, but I dont know any or have never seen any who want that sort of silly arrangement as a requisite of meeting. When I Dom, I choose a partner who will be mutually satisfied by whatever we have decided we both need and at the end of the day, both leave satisfied. Doesnt mean there cant be a connection leading to a relationship, but nothing good ever comes of bringing money into Dom/sub-ism....

Perusing profiles, I get such a big kick out of lesbian memebers who state flatly " any male contacting me will automatically be deleted to the trash bin"... I mean, are there REALLY that many males who would contact a lesbian? And more to the point, why state the obvious? If they ARE getting automatically deleted, does anyone care? Sometimes I think these ladies are closet drama queens or maybe silently trolling....

Heres something which makes me wonder. Why when I go to NEWEST LOCAL USERS is it a sure thing at least one or two will be from another state obviously hundreds of miles away, but it says something silly like 88 miles away? I'm also getting proturbed at all the SPAM bots showing up here, come on CM, tighten up!

perusing the pics and profiles on here, several things occur to me...

1.18-20 something "Dommes", especially "very experienced" ones. While I dont deny a young lady could have Domme tendancies, she cannot possibly have much experience at these tender ages. And the majority of these girls specify upfront they are "financial Dommes" which just means they are looking for a way to get money, not much different from hooking except the client gets nothing but broke...

2. Pictures of submissives in Domme poses. Seriously, if you are a sub, why are you posing in a leather corset and a high backed chair with your legs crossed?

3 Submissives with profiles saying "... this submissive is taken and will not respond to any messages".... If you're taken, why the hell are you still here?

Just a few thoughts about this site...First if you are a "Pro-Domme" what the fuck are you doing trolling on an amatuer site? And in the same vein, all you "Financial Dommes", you are nothing but prostitutes and stupid ones at that since you expect someone to pay you for basically nothing. I'm sure there are guys that stupid but they are few and far between I bet. Instead why dont both you classes of females go advertise in the back of porn mags like the rest of the hookers....