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DOMS Only
MEN Only
~31-43 Years Old
Unmarried
Non-Smoker
Wants Kids
Local or Willing to Move Here
ME:
In general I'm not one to put my needs first, but to save some time for both of us; I'll put them at the beginning. One day, I see myself married. One day, I see myself having kids. One day, I see myself making a real impact where I work or owning my own business. One day, I see myself on my knees before the man whose loving guidance took me from today to one day.
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On my knees, begging him to fuck me because my jaw aches... because I've taken him as deep as I can over and over and I'm afraid of what will happen the next time I gag... because the burning welts have me dripping wet, and I need ?him inside me like I need water on a hot day. Nothing else will calm me. Nothing ever does?
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Now, this is important. If you don't see all of these things as being able to exist within the same relationship, we are not compatible. In a loving marriage, a man respects his wife. If you can't respect someone who lets you cum on her face and then waits for permission to wipe it off, then you think of submission as a weakness. You think you get what you get because you?re suave. You lie and you put yourself on a pedestal because you think you?re skilled at taking advantage of whores. Maybe you are. Congrats and good luck in your search.
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Here?s some food for thought though: If you can?t picture an intelligent woman becoming flustered around you- If you can?t imagine someone who carries herself with a quiet strength having trouble meeting your eyes- If you don?t expect that you will meet a woman with self-respect and stir within her a desire to please you, a desire to be made vulnerable ? then maybe you?re not a Dom. Maybe you?re just kinky. That?s OK. We?re all works in progress. Maybe you?ll get there some day, maybe you won?t. I don?t care; just don?t dare send me a message.? I?m certainly not going to lead you there. As a matter of fact, if you?re looking to be led and you came across my profile, your search engine is set wrong.? I?ll point you in the right direction though. It starts with honesty. I'm well aware that it takes an extraordinary man to be so secure; to be honest with himself, and brutally honest with me. I?m well aware that I?m not perfect either. I?m also well aware that submission is an extraordinary gift and so I won?t settle for less. Don?t waste my fucking time?
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Speaking of time- I don?t believe my time is so precious that it?s better to send endless messages, over-analyze texts and dismiss people I?ve never even had a face-to-face conversation with under the misguided notion that the two sentences you wrote last week must generalize to a greater philosophical disposition that I can solidly conclude will never be compatible with my own. In other words, I don?t believe my time is so precious that I can?t meet you for a drink and get to know you. I am painfully aware though, that life is short and I don?t pair well with those who are keen on waiting for the ?best time? to realize their desires. There is no such thing. The best time is always now. I am an avid traveler and when someone tells me they can?t make it this time, I know that the time will never be just right for them, and what they really mean is that they will sit at their desk and use the fantasy of our 3-day romp in Europe to get them through the day. In reality, they are never coming with me. I seek to find someone who will.
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While I might need some help with my impulsive nature from time to time, my desire to explore the world is not something one can beat out of me. Perhaps we should call it a limit. I also don?t have any desire to date someone who will alienate me from my friends or family or meddle in my career. Those areas are off limits too, and if you?re thinking of contacting me, it shouldn?t be a stretch for you to allow that. It should sound like common-sense. In addition to avoiding illness and the threat of lasting or permanent damage, I also have no desire to encounter anything that belongs in a toilet.? If you don?t want to hear me say No to you, don?t bring it up. Don?t bring up dilatation, medical play, taking pictures of me or spending time with you via webcam. I need touch and love and affection and I will not substitute cyber-intimacy. I don?t like women either. It?s non-negotiable. I understand you might have other desires and might be better off moving on to the next profile.
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If you chose to talk to me though, be aware that I don?t like bickering. The notion that subs want to have their limits pushed is ludicrous to me. The day-to-day serenity that can come from the D/s dynamic is much of the allure of this lifestyle. I?d rather eat sushi when I?m craving pasta, because that?s 10 times more desirable than spending an hour fighting about where to go and then spending the next four resenting each other for it. So once the limits are discussed, I don?t see a need to ever bring them up again. Life is dramatic enough on its own. No need to poke the flames??
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I know, I know, so many limits? you?re wondering if I?m really even a subbie! Well, I assure you I like to be controlled and restrained and taught to please and taken as roughly as you desire. I want you to spank me to tears, and then I want you to hold me down and keep going. Although it took me some years to realize there was a name for it, I?ve never wanted anything different.
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Today though, let?s just get to know each other.? :p
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Mine is coming.
Yours too.
It's on the way.
In the mix.
En route.
In-process.
Chartered.
Planted. Sprouting.
Blooming.
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p stylemargin 0in 0in 10ptspan stylefontfamily Calibri fontsize mediumI dont look back so much anymore. Its not because Im special, nor was I born with yodalike wisdom. I have memories of good times, better times, different times and I did choose, over and over, to spend my hope on trying to get them back. I did it more than once. I do it sometimes, still... but not as much as I used to. Im sure of that.spanpp stylemargin 0in 0in 10ptspan stylefontfamily Calibri fontsize mediumIm not owlwise, or particularly adaptive, intentionally. Lifes unforgiving, and there are things that I couldnt fix. The same things I still cant fix, and what brought me here was nothing more than exhaustion.spanpp stylemargin 0in 0in 10ptspan stylefontfamily Calibri fontsize mediumI learned to value the future, because its the only thing I can shape. I learned to value whats in front of me, because its what I actually have. You cannot influence your past. No amount of energy can resurrect. I can make today be better than yesterday though.spanpp stylemargin 0in 0in 10ptspan stylefontfamily Calibri fontsize mediumIm different than I was. I see possibilities for tomorrow everywhere these days. I become enamored, quickly, and forge ahead with a certain restlessness, as if there is no other choice Driven more than driving, really. I hate that I had to know impossible to understand that unlikely is something else. There is no more hesitation. The odds dont sway me if they exist and I get what I want. Often. Because Im fucking good at it now.spanpp stylemargin 0in 0in 10ptspan stylefontfamily Calibri fontsize mediumand then sometimes I dont. I dont and I mourn the loss of what I never had. The possibilities feel solid. More so than actual events that have passed, and when they dont work out, what I almost had is vivid. What I couldve had taunts me, as much as what is gone once did. spanpp stylemargin 0in 0in 10ptspan stylefontfamily Calibri fontsize mediumI see I need to shift my focus. There is only one point in time that is real. This is the only moment when I can do something and if I, instead, spend this moment longing, or if I spend it hoping, its spent all the same and I have nothing to show for it. spanp |
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Q: How did you get involved in BDSM?
A:?So... Like most in this lifestyle, my interest started long before I knew there was a lifestyle and long before I even knew that sex involved the penetration of the vagina with a penis :p
All scenes on TV that had to do with punishment or restraint lingered in my mind. I can't remember the first time exactly, but I do clearly remember that I thought it was hot when Wesley slapped Buttercup in The Princess Bride ... except I didn't know what "hot" was yet... I only knew it got my attention. I thought about it over and over and over, but the difference was that when I replayed it in my head, it was me being slapped instead of Buttercup. It was my face that stung, and my arm being grabbed and pulled so that I'd come along.
Fast forward to dating... It wasn't long before one boyfriend or another would discover that if he smacked my ass a few times- my legs would open, automatically and without any further debate.?It was never enough though... I could lay there and let my boyfriend go on and on, striking with as much force as his vanilla conscience would allow... and still, to me, it felt like we hadn't even started... I knew?something was off.?Like all things bdsm, I felt it long before I could?articulate it. I didn't know it then, but the power dynamic was missing, and I didn't know it was missing because I didn't know it existed. (Vocabulary might be to blame. We didn't have a term for pity-spanks back then, mostly because I didn't make it up until just now - but I digress- He was humoring me and that would never be enough.)
I got into reading dirty books that I didn't quite understand. Some parts I would masturbate to obsessively... until my sheets were soaked and my pussy ached from enduring the pressure of my hand.... and then some parts were just gross and I couldn't figure out why anyone would want to do those things, not even in a book...
That might have screwed me up a bit, because it made me think that I was not part of this group of people... After all, I ?have no desire to be made to piss on myself and have another woman clean me up while she kneels in it... I'm neither gay, nor do I like gimp suits, and so in my mind I was clearly not an s&m weirdo...
Since I associated creepy and gross with kinky, it took me quite a while to find myself. I mean, from time to time, ?I did feel like the guys I dated were pussies and that I needed an actual man... but I kept those thoughts to myself. After all, I do believe that women are smart and capable, should get equal pay, vote, and can do anything they choose.
It didn't cross my mind that anything could include submitting. Submitting to someone else's will... or hand, or belt... :D When you make a choice, there's nothing left of which to be ashamed.?
Now at this point in my life, about 6 years ago, two things happened...?
First I was going through sort of a life-is-too-short to sit around waiting and fantasizing for things to magically come to you because you've put a ton of effort into building them up only in your mind realization-transformation.?
Second, I realized that these hidden books I had, with the covers ripped off and titles scratched out (<--inconspicuous, I know) were all written by women. So, I searched the internet (careful to erase my tracks) and this is what I found: It wasn't just the books that I had, it was all of them. Everything I found was written by women.?
Now, I'm a practical person, sometimes to a fault and well, even my fantasies have to be practical or I can't have them. I will stop and revise them, mid-thought- and what if I was on a path that was guaranteed to bring me nothing but longing bc all these books were only stories- Stories made up by sad, lonely housewives who were too deluded to notice that no such men?existed???It was hard to digest. It sent me in to a bit of a panic, really.
I began to think about the quizzes in Cosmo. They assured that 'consensual non-consent' fantasies were normal... for women... but what about the men? They said that 60% of women prefer to be on the bottom during missionary sex, but only 40% of men want to be on top! What if it didn't add up? ...The scene in Secretary with the tomatoes came to mind... That's not what I wanted and no, no, NO! It just couldn't be that way! There HAD to be men who wanted this... this... whatever it was called...
I was already on the internet. I searched again. This time I found a Yahoo Answers page, and there was a question from a girl who wrote about her fantasies and asked if she needed help. Of course, as with any yahoo answers page, there were tons of people who couldn't relate, knew nothing about the situation at-hand, and were absolutely eager to assert their opinion. ?They agreed. This girl needed to see a therapist because clearly she'd been abused or suffered other deep trauma that had left her with no self-esteem...
Then there was the other reply. One other reply.. smack in the middle of Psychology Today amateur hour... This one reply was concise and informative, and (unlike anything I'd ever see on yahoo answers again) it was written by someone who knew what they were talking about.
The poster said something along these lines, if I recall-?
There is nothing wrong with you. You're a submissive. Find a community that understands that and can support you while you learn more about yourself. You can try looking on collarme.com for more information.
I clicked the link and there they were- The men that wanted what I wanted- What I've always wanted - and they were not innately mean, or creepy, or even into leather. They were strong, observant, nurturing and protective... and they were called Dominant.?
I guess if you've read Twilight, that moment for me was akin to the the process of imprinting... and if you haven't read Twilight- Good, bc I already told you I don't like to date pussies! Let's just say, I found my place and I never looked back.? |
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http://boingboing.net/2013/05/30/bdsm-aficionados-better-adjust.html#more-233400
Now if only I could put this on my facebook page... :o) |
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What am I doing wrong? </3 |
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I think of myself as a girl who is normal.... not in the top or bottom 25% in looks, and I have more weight to lose. I don't know why some people think it's sad that I'm aware of that. If you've pictured something else, you've let your imagination get the best of you.
I'm articulate. I'm smart. I have no idea why you expect to see a model as the owner of my thoughts. Projection is a tricky thing. Sometimes I wonder if i'd be better off with a profile full of jibberish... |
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Did you ever look at someone's profile and wish you could undo it? |
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Avocados are for families. |
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Dear Older Dudes,
Why do you message me, and then message me again to complain that I ignored your message?
My profile is pretty clear. I'm not looking for an older guy. Maybe you're AWESOME ... but I bet there's an AWESOME 48 year old lady who can better relate to you.
I don't wish bad things for you, older dudes. I wish for you to find a wonderful woman, who is close to your age. There is nothing wrong with aging. It's not a problem that you have aged. It's not a problem that I will age. There are women who are as perfect as you are, and they too, have aged.
Thanks,
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I don't say Best Of Luck when I mean Go F#ck Yourself. Most subs want nothing more than to put their faith in someone... If you cannot establish trust and keep it, that's a failure on your part as a Dom. I will not wish you luck. You're not ready to lead.
See? Now we're being honest. |
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Suddenly interested in Piet Hien...
The road to wisdom? —
Well, it's plain and simple to express:
Err and err and err again
but less and less and less.
Put up in a place where it's easy to see
the cryptic admonishment
T.T.T.
When you feel how depressingly slowly you climb,
it's well to remember that Things Take Time.
T.T.T. (Acronym in Danish: Ting Tager Tid) |
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Dear Old Dudes,
Please scroll down to the complete journal entry where I passionately articulate just how creepy I find you to be, and then, decide not to message me.
Thanks!
PC
PS- The same goes for 23 year olds... |
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I woke up alone this morning- naked- my blanket over me, but nothing else. Don’t get me wrong- I love my blanket. It’s thick and warm and so comfy… There are days when I crawl underneath it and think it’s the only thing I need … but how nice it would’ve been if someone was underneath it with me. How easy it would’ve been for him, to place a hand, pressure, on the small of my back and just slip it in. God knows I woke up slick and ready for it.
A need, unanswered, this morning… so many needs, unmet… and I can’t help but wonder where I would be in life if I had a little bit of support; love, guidance, encouragement… some fucking help. Would I thrive, instead of just going on?
I need someone to take me. I try without him, so hard. I do… and still…
It’s true what they say about taking care of yourself. I’m well aware. If you don’t do it, no one else will… and what of you then? …If it’s your inclination to give? When it’s your sweet, blessed nature to put others first?
Well then, you don’t get what you need, do you?
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Some Clarification...
This is an excerpt from my old profile:
I am thankful to the older Doms that I have spoken to. It's great to hear about the lifestyle from someone who has been there. That being said, I'd be more inclined to get involved with someone who is unmarried and isn't much more than 10 years my senior. I'd like us to be on the same page in life.
If you are wondering if I was just being nice... Yes, yes I was. I was trying my hardest not to have an angry, disgruntled profile like so many poor, tired, tired subbies on CM. I really wish that had been effective. I do. ...but it wasn't, so allow me to spell it out.
The paragraph above is a polite way of saying:
1. If you're 40, to me, you're old.
2. If you're over 42, to me, you're very old.
3. If you're old, it's SO unlikely.
4. If you're very old, fuck off. It is creepy for you to contact me. In turn, I do not contact 19 year-olds because then I would be the creepy creep.
5. If you're married, fuck off. It's not as complicated as you believe it to be bc you're Domly and you have these desires that you wife wouldn't blah blah blah kids and the house. No. You're a liar. There. It's very simple. You're a coward too for not accepting who you are and aligning your life appropriately. In turn, I do not contact married men. Why would I? |
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Im on the third book in the Fifty Shades series. I found it to be ridiculous to begin with but then there were some good parts. Now that he's turned into and remained a pussy for an entire book, Im losing interest fast. Can anyone tell me if there's a point to finishing? I keep hoping it will pick up again... |
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"A lie will hurt you a thousand times, the truth will only hurt you once."
How true. This was on a friend's FB page.... I found a name but I dont have any addtional information about the source... Anyone know? |
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This question came up. I thought I might make it public information:
I dont keep a special anonymous email for CM. I like that you'd like to correspond more quickly, and I would too, in theory. It's just that I'm looking for real people and if I start setting up yahoo psuedonyms and webcams, that's not what Im likely to wind up with.
Yes, I IM/chat with real-life friends and send pics and so on. Technology is a beautiful thing. However, If I gave out an IM name to every Dom on CM thats capable of seeming nice for 2 or 3 messages, I'd have a buddy list full of 1000 cyber-perverts and Id never want to sign on anyway. Lets try to contain all of that to my inbox.
Well have to take the time to get to know each other this way. If youve gotten this far into my profile and cant yet tell the difference between a cautious subbie and someone who needs you to send money to Africa, please move along.
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Let's make this crystal clear bc some people seem to be having a little trouble:
31+10=41
31+10=41
31+10<54
31+10<67
Wife=Married
No, No, and More No!
Thank you for your understanding. :)
... and yes, I updated my profile again this year, because it's not that hard to do! |
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I am often asked about how I discovered bdsm. I went back and found the very first post I put up on the message boards after I found CM. It's long, but it answers the question.
10/26/2009
I’m trying to see if I can realistically live the bdsm lifestyle. I have some questions and I am curious to hear what a master thinks first-hand. Before I get to that though, I do want to say that as I read, I become more and more enamored with the principles that seem to lie at the core of dominant thinking-
As I flip from profile to profile, I notice that the men on this site are very secure. They are not ashamed to say that they will take care of their subs and that they will be affectionate towards them. From the outside looking in, I’ve always known people who look at that as some kind of weakness and I guess I always thought it would be frowned upon for a dominant male to be so expressive. I’m glad to see it’s not. The mind games you want to play are not of an adolescent nature and so many of you have even specified that you prefer a woman who is intelligent. You’re bold enough to take control and bold enough to say what you really want. That’s earned my admiration.
What I’ve been reading has grabbed my attention more than I thought it would and the lifestyle seems a much healthier choice than I ever would have imaged it to be. There are a few things that I would have to give some serious thought to though:
-I notice most dominants say they will take care of their subs. I have a career. Would I be expected to give it up? As a matter of fact, I work in HR and you can see why I would want to keep things discreet. Is that a problem? Does a master expect more than that?
-In line with being discreet, I’m not comfortable with the idea of posting my pic, having pictures taken or being seen in public less than fully dressed. Is that a turn-off?
-I’m into men and I’m not sexually attracted to women at all. Is it unrealistic to expect one-on-one interactions (or at least interactions without other women present)?
-I notice that some profiles fail to comment on this at all, but the ones that do comment on the subject of children all seem to say that they are out of the question. Is that common? I’m not sure if I can, or want to, have children but I am curios if this is a trend or just specific to the profiles that I happened to look at today. If I eventually wound up having children, is there any chance in the world I would meet a dom who doesn’t believe in physical punishment when it comes to children? I know how hypocritical that sounds, but I think adults should pick on people their own size.
I guess that’s everything. I’m sure the way to start off a dom/sub relationship is not with a list of demands on the my part. Some of the items above may be are negotiable. I just want a clear picture of what I might be getting myself in to.
I’ve been fantasizing about being spanked, paddled, tied up and told exactly what to do as long as I can remember. I’ve never has an orgasm without my mind playing out such a scene and I’m bored as can be with the sex in my “normal” relationship. He’s a great guy and yet I’m still not happy at all with the dynamic. I have a strong desire to please and to be with someone who can take control and doesn’t think there is something sad about that.
I don’t want to waste anyone’s time if it turns out that I have too many inhibitions to make a master happy. If you’re still reading, thank you for your time and please let me know what you think.
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Im going on a short trip to Europe very soon. Advice on where to go and what to see would be very much appreciated. :) |
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I feel like I should mention that one of the perks of my job includes free air-travel, so most of the country is only a couple of hours away for me.
... Europe isn't out of the question either. |
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...wondering if I really want to see The Killer Inside Me, or if I just saw the best part on youtube?
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Not sure if this more abuse or bdsm.. but since it cracked me up, I'm posting it anyway. It's a joke- Take it as such:
A husband says, "My wife says i have mood swings so she bought me a mood ring, when i'm in a good mood it turns green , and when i'm in a bad mood it leaves a big red mark on her face....." |
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http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17303453?dopt=AbstractPlus
So, I saw the title of the above article:
The effect of pain-related fear on sexual arousal in women with superficial dyspareunia and I was wondering what percent of women would become aroused. How many are like me? How many hide it from themselves but won't be able to fool the various tools that will be measuring their arousal? 10%, 20%, 50%?
I do not have superficial dyspareunia I guessed the chances of a woman developing it would be the same across the population... but maybe not, because I just can't believe the results of this study.
An experimenter came into the room, looked the subject in the eye and said "you have a 60% chance of receiving painful stimuli while being exposed to one of two erotic film clips" 48 times, with 48 diffrent women... and not one was aroused by this! Not even one!
I find it hard to believe... but there it is... |
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WOW CM! Why don't you try showing me a profile that I haven't already seen in the last 3 minutes? I know there are more than 5 doms in NYC! |
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So I told a "vanilla" friend about the fact that I am on CM. I figured if it weirded her out, we'd just avoid the subject and our frienship would survive. Much to my surprise, she said that this is more normal than I think and she wants to know details. I won't give her details that might give away the identity of anyone she might one day meet, but it is nice to have my friend to talk to again. |
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From time to time I come across something written in a profile, or in a post, that gets my attention and I let it in, so to speak, because frankly there are also a lot of comments that I filter out and try not to let them affect my understanding of what bdsm is to the people I am more likely to be compatible with.
There have been so many that I wish I could remember, but I may as well start somewhere.
So, I'm going to keep a running list of comments that I let in:
I'm not your daddy, I'm not your brain, I'm not the only person in your life. I'm your lover, your friend, and yes your Master too, but just because I wrap you in safe and give you that floaty feeling, it doesn't mean that you don't still have to live in the world.
weaselwelder ______________________________________ That's all it really takes. No pain, no slaps, no hair pulling, no yelling, no names, only one word. ... One word. "Kneel." ... You will kneel. If you want to. If you want to submit. To me. ...
_______________________________________ Submission to me has absolutely nothing to do with weakness. To me, the gift of one's submission is one of the biggest acts of strength, courage, and love that I can think of. ______________________________________ What you see today is the result of about 10 years of cyber idiocy. Anyone with a web-site, or access to a web-site, thinks they are now an expert Dom, sub or switch. Cyber-sex, cyber-D/s and cyber-relationships (thank you SecondLife) have now replaced real sex, real D/s and real relationships. People have forgetten that we are flawed creatures, subject to the troubles and mistakes that plague the human condition. They also forget that any relationship requires effort and commitment. There is a notion that instant hedonistic pleasure is a god-given right and that any shortfall means that one is a failure. _______________________________________ Just like I would never damage my prized possession, I would also never damage my submissive or slave. Puzzle Master _________________________________________ Yes, you'll have to send me extra-pleasing feedback since you overlooked my message. ;-)
Maybe I'll have to paddle you for the oversight. Bend over and drop those drawers! Now, let's see... ah yes, here's the ping pong paddle. We'll start with that. And after I have your bottom all rosy and stinging, which should not take long, I'll switch to the crop so I can get some pinpoint accuracy. Maybe sting your disobedient little pussy lips with it as I get your upper thighs. ;-)
Bad girl.....
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You must be drug free and bullshit free.
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You are right about the openness issue. I demand complete honesty. If I want to know if you like your job, I don't want to hear "You know, work is work". If I ask about your relationship with your mother, I don't want to hear "Every woman's relationship with her mother is complicated, I think", and if I ask if you like anal I don't want to hear "some of my friends love it and some hate the idea"
For me, naked honesty helps me learn who she is as a person and then later who she is as a submissive
You are right though, in vanilla space everyone talks about leaving a little mystery
I love it for the reason that should work out for the submissive. In vanilla land it's hard for you to know where you stand. ....
In D/s space, once the dynamic is established, you will do as I say. I don't compliment you to gain some advantage or to get you to sleep with me or to hope you will give me oral. So when I tell you that you look great, you should know I mean it. ...
In other words, that brutal dual honesty lets you know you are perfect when you obey. Not it's going well, not he's into you--but perfect. And whatever I don't like, I will tell you to change so you know exactly what I want. And when you are doing well you will hear about it. If you do poorly you will be punished and therefore will have earned forgiveness. It won't be held over your head like in vanilla space and there won't be some passive aggressive bullshit to make you feel bad
VaControlDom ________________________________________ And this seems like a good place to retire my original profile. Its only been tweaked a little:
I'm brand new to this and I'm also a little uncomfortable with the idea that anyone who I would meet through CM would know all about what I want in bed before they ever even make eye contact with me. On the other hand, I have yet to meet a man who complements my interests by accident. At some point I’ll have to reconcile.
I guess, just know that sex or play is not the first thing I’m interested in talking about or doing. Also, I listed that I am curious about many things because that seemed more appropriate than saying some are hard-limits. Curious doesn't mean I'd be delighted to try them immediately. Also, there was no place to mention that I am not (sexually) interested in women in any way, shape or form. That is a hard-limit. If that turns you off, I completely understand your desire to move on to the next profile.
So far everyone I talk to on CM seems to think I am a submissive at heart and that I will be very happy once I act on this tendency. I'm surprised at how many people actually say not just that I'll be happy, but that I really need this. I guess I won't fully understand that until I get some hands on experience.
I can be slow to warm up and need you to be discreet. I won't be running out to meet you tomorrow, nor will I send a pic to just anyone. That's as much of a hard-limit as the other stuff. If this is a problem, again, I understand your need to move on.
I am thankful to the many older Doms that I have spoken to. It's great to hear about the lifestyle from someone who has been there. That being said, I'd be more inclined to get involved with someone who is unmarried and isn't much more than 10 years my senior. I'd like us to be on the same page in life.
I'm also (pleasantly) surprised at how many Doms are intelligent, want an intelligent woman and are very concerned about protecting and nurturing their submissive. That's good because I couldn't submit to just anyone. It's what got my attention and is the only reason I decided to sign up for CM and get to know more. If not for that, fantasy would have remained fantasy for me.
(To be fair though, I'm also equally astonished at the number of agressive, tactless pigs. It's like they are tryng to win some sort of uncouth-contest.)
Right now, I'm just looking around, just asking questions, just curious...
(If you're curious about me, feel free to read my posts.)
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I can be slow to warm up and need you to be discreet. I won't be running out to meet you tomorrow, nor will I send a pic to just anyone. That's as much of a hard-limit as the other stuff. If this is a problem, again, I understand your need to move on.
... Felt the need to highlight this part of my profile due to the 4 messages I got in the last 12 hours asking for pics and the one message saying I "hide behind the vale of anonimity."
So I ask myself.. Is the problem me? Clearly, not, because I have sent my pic and even met someone from CM just to chat in person. If you don't have the patience to get to know me, then we're a bad fit. It's OK. Move along then. Tell yourself I must be ugly. Whatever it takes. Just stop sending me messages venting your frustration with the situation. You're the Dom. It's not my job to talk you through this.
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| Age: 26 |
| Green Bay,
Wisconsin |
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