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Very attractive female with a keen appreciation of the power inherent within a D/s relationship, actively seeks those of compatible mindset for mutual growth and exploration. In 98% of my encounters, I have ran the show. Which has yet to yield orgasm on my part (entirely possible alone). Don't get me wrong; I truly derive immense pleasure out of seeing just how excited I make another. However; in doing so, my satisfaction goes on the "back burner" hence I am not ultimately fulfilled. Objectification is alluring to me. I believe the senses (including the all powerful mind), intensify any experience. I am not a sadist or into humiliation/severe/or permanent marking pain. Other hard limits include; no children involved sexually, no animals, & no scat.

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4/29/2009 6:39:57 PM
 
I have been accused of thinking too much about the nuances of lifestyle semantics but here goes; Unforgettable is what a good D/s encounter should be - along with satisfying, enlightening, and possibly one or two other things.   I have the desire to experience the bond of intimacy formed through the dynamics of a D/s relationship. Simple in theory but not so simple to attain in practice as it takes more than wishful thinking and naive' hope to successfully enter into this type of relationship. Compatibility of character and mindset are of primary importance along with a true desire for a strong and lasting bond of intimacy achieved through a means not particularly favored by polite society. Surrender, trust, respect, & responsibility are key elements of the dance. The desire to experience intimacy is the driving force behind the dynamics of the D/s relationship, by taking the roles of Dominant one(care-giver, responsibility, respect) and submissive one(recipient-trust, surrender) each plays an equal part and it becomes hard to tell who is truly in charge. Both and neither would be a good answer as the sought after intimacy is attained only by each fully entering into the relationship by lowering the mask of social programming and being who they truly are. It would be far easier to settle for a vanilla existence and live behind its dishonest mask, but once a D/s relationship has been experienced it becomes difficult to settle for less by living without the inherent  intimacy. Most on Cm/alt are BDSM whereas I am D/s switch oriented. The scenario for me could be to fully and totally take charge of a male by undressing and examining him, all privacy renounced. No physical secrets left, no barriers left intact, the male is transformed from a threat to a person who is totally open. Forget the bondage gear, this is about total openness and surrender although some light restraint is in order. Then, the switch takes place, the male has one objective, which is to take care of my needs. My submission is to allow him to do so. I might want it now, but Mr.Male now in charge knows that it's too early and doesn't let me go there. It's a pure D/s switch scenario which accommodates the fact that the poor males can but orgasm once, whereas the female can be taken to much higher heights. Each person must however, find resonance with D/s dynamics as that's what is being used to power the intimacy aspect. See it??? Power gradient, explains the whole D/s thing really and shows why BDSM is a total sham. For a dominant one to have an orgasm that dominant one must become subordinate to the so called submissive one because to orgasm is to receive in a state of open surrender. There are relationships in which the power gradient is so steep that the submissive one has never given the male an orgasm, let alone seen him with his clothes off. In which he does through the power gradient totally control the submissive one. A D/s switch is necessary for the dominant one to attain orgasm and during this, the  power gradient  is reversed. That is why BDSM as practiced by fragile ego males calling themselves sir or master is a sham. They're in charge until they take their pants off, then the submissive one "tops" them because the only thing the so called dominant one wants to do is orgasm. Much ado about nothing and far short of what D/s is able to deliver. Some submissive ones can't function without the power gradient being nearly vertical, although these people have very intense relationships it cannot be the only one experienced by the dominant one.  Without switching, a third party is needed for at least one of the D/s partners (unless one of them isn't in the orgasm market). If one of the partners has a resonance with D/s they can try driving the relationship along those lines without the full cooperation from the other. Hence submissive ones try to put those not naturally dominant into the dominant role (topping from the bottom) and dominant ones try dominating  those not wishing to be dominated. All a bit of a disappointment really, and less than satisfactory relationships result. So bad in fact, that one partner might seek a D/s element outside the vanilla relationship. D/s involves a mental aspect and attains a deep bond of intimacy through a power gradient, one partner is in control as the other surrenders control to them. The practice of total power exchange comes into play, responsibility for the submissive one taken by the dominant one, surrender of self and abandonment of privacy by the submissive one. Intimacy attained through mental not purely mechanical means. Ritual and protocol also enter into the encounter. Some D/s partners can switch roles. These people have a strong resonance to D/s dynamics with the act itself being more important than their role. This can lead to an interesting and necessary expansion of the relationship to involve third parties - but it's beyond the scope of this email to go into that. D/s though can also go badly wrong. Some drive it down the market into physically abusive BDSM. Usually the fault of a male wishing to be dominant without wanting more than a mechanical as opposed to intimate sex. Sir this and master of that are titles which usually give the game away for these types. An intimate bond attained through the dynamics of D/s involving ritual and the use of a power gradient is what most true D/s practitioners are searching for.               
Extended "foreplay" is desired...but due to my controlling nature... I end up telling him to "stick it to me"...thereby surpassing my desires and moving to satisfy his needs. Thus, the man is spent and I am left having yet to be satisfied. I am also searching for a male able to control me to where I attain orgasm. A benign and caring dominant male, able to switch might be what I am really after. I bet as the relationship grew, he'd become primarily dominant.  Being vanilla would be a lot simpler, but the loss of intimacy and openness would be a hard price to pay.

At the risk of continuously repeating myself, I should stop here.

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divine91
 
 Age: 28
 London, United Kingdom