I recently changed from a switch to a kinkster, I did that because I believe we actually shouldn't limit ourselves to labels, and I'm not being wishy washy in saying that. I am in this life to experience what I want, when I want, how I want. I don't need to be limited by anyone's preconcieved notion of what a switch is or isn't, or any other label. Kinkster is nebulous enough to make people go, "WTH?"

### How do I make you understand me?
The power of language will do for a start, but it's not going to encompass everything I am. Every relationship I have is negotiated. Have I made mistakes, yes, have my partners, yes. Do we learn and love each other and move on, more then yes.

The fact of the matter is that there is no 'right' way to do relationships, kinky or otherwise. I flag switch because I'm a sensual, kinky, human being who likes experiencing certain things on a broad spectrum. But see, you have to get past the label and actually talk to me to figure that out. In my backyard I flag and am a 'top' 95% of the time, mostly because that's what I am 95% of the time. The people who I trust to lose control to are few.

But wait, I don't really have control as a top anyway, the people I play with can stop it anytime, they can safeword out, they are the ones I need, even though they are expressing the begging pleading whining submission that I crave. So what the fuck does the label mean anyway?

I play with need, almost all my pets cum on command, and that feeds my ego, makes me feel wanted, but they have the power to stop anything I do right then, and drop me. They only stick around because I entice them, and that again, is a power trip. They don't have to, the chains I have on them are not physical. The chains they have on me aren't either, and it very much goes both ways.

You want to label me, tough. I'm going to break your expectation. I'm going to do it on purpose, and when you watch me walk from beating my pet who's strung up over to my dom and fall to my knees, and submit it may blow your mind. But what are you going to do when she turns around and lets me grab her collar and we all do something different. Don't tell me we aren't doing it right, fuck off, it's our relationship. On the other hand, if you like being yourself, with people who care about you and want you to explore.... come talk to us, we're the smartassed ones in the back.

I call myself a diode or a rheostat, the second term completely stolen from Lee Harrington. (It's the technical term for a dimmer switch.)

Having said that, I am a switch that is mostly dominant, familiar with most anything from a slightly off standpoint. I prefer intelligence, care, fun, sass, adventurous spirit, and truly getting to know my partners.

#### By the Way. PBC = Peanut Buttter Cup.

I do have a vanilla life I have to keep secure, hence the mystery.

### Further clarifications:?
I like taking care of people, I do it to the point where I don't take care of myself, so I like the master/daddy/dom role most of the time, but I have to be careful not to neglect myself. Fill thy own cup before you share is a lesson I'm learning. It takes a special person to keep me in the sub role for a long time. She has to understand that at heart I'm an independant confident person who can't stay sub. I have two pets currently, if they are listed here on , they are both 'rheostats' and are allowed to play with others, so no worries about contacting them directly. Be warned however, just because we act one way dosen't mean they won't show you another side.

Because I'm a switch I have a slightly different take on being dom, it's a service/care thing for me. But you'd never know it if you were sub to me for the time or permanently. I haven't met a kink I don't like, barring some scat and water play, although in theory/fantasy (read mindfuck or online) it's fine I don't like it in reality. Spanking is a personal joy, I love doing it, and I like seeing the look on my partner's face when she knows I'm doing it for her, and making her feel something special.... that's what I strive for, so I'm pretty open as far as what it takes to get to that point.

*UPDATE 9.10.09* - I apparently hit like a pro ball player and scare people. I prefer straps and hands to floggers, and canes can be fun too.

Personal turn ons not listed above?

Intelligence, grace, charm, a sparkle in the eye and a fast wit. Interest in me and a love of kissing. :P

?free by the grace and love of my family.