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"[Life] favors formlessness so that it can assume all forms and since [Life] has no style, it can fit in with all styles. As a result [Life] utilizes all ways, is bound by none and likewise, uses any techniques or means which serve it's end."
--Bruce Lee.
Bracket's denote editors work replacement: "Jeet Kun Do" in author's original words, though he later expressed regret in the name as it contradicted the "no style as style" philosophy behind it. Thus "Life", in my words. |
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Yes, corporal punishment, aka "domestic discipline", is a dicy legal area, even where people in a relationship do agree to it and the limits within which it can be applied. Yet, like money, it can be thought of as a form of currency. One person gives and another takes and the energy exchanged can be very erotic for both. The currency itself is neutral, it is just a medium through which values are expressed (just like money). What matters is not the forms of exchange but the values and the results in one's self-fulfillment from acting on them. Good values have good results. Others don't.
This is how the military works. People volunteer and become, very literally, government property (read the UCMJ if you doubt it). They (as had I) take an oath to uphold the values of the constitution,"to defend The Constitution of the United States against all enemy's foreign and domestic..." as well as to obey orders or suffer the consequences. Until very recently the training for that "lifestyle" included battery. It still includes various forms of corporal punishment, as I can attest from personal experience. |
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The difference between a submissive and a slave is not semantic or philosophical. It is a difference of self. And no one can tell you who you are or how to express it through semantic or philosophical definitions. There is only your own experience, and capacity for it, which you can not blame another for not having! |
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http://www.thefreedictionary.com/submissive |
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I am not looking to for a casual relationship, open relationship, or just a play partner. D/s requires optimal communication. Communication = relationship. Closer and more sincere the better, I say. |
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If I could change my handle: Beneviolence |
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Give me some love, bitch!
;-)
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You need not give up your self-motivations or interests or talents, on the contrary!, you need only be open to unexpected forms of expression. |
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You may wish to be used, or even abused. And I certainly wish to enjoy and make the most of my woman, though submission. But remember, you are not you fetish, however compelling it may be. |
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Not interested in:
- Hobbyists
- Those unable to recognize their own heart
- Those unable to recognize their primary emotions
- Those too jaded or identified with fear, for any reason, to engage in authentic human relationship
- Those unwilling or unable to understand the purpose and meaning of service
- Those unable or unwilling to make their primary relationship (school, work, ex's, parents, hobby's, even fetishes) a secondary one, if mine. Children excepted (nothing can replace that relationship).
- Those who can not see or imagine, even from lack of experience or understanding, that the right "dom" or "master" or Man is one who makes the most of you based on who you are, and what you need, not only what he or you desire. That is, one in whom you are able to recognize a real opportunity for self actualization.
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Bringing home the bacon is a lot less fun without a woman to cook it. |
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To surrender takes strength. To master, humility. |
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"Slavery" is pretty (but) meaningless. Forms themselves to not make a relationship worthwhile. Responsibility of one for another makes much more than 1+1. |
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Some things that I'd previously believed about myself as a dominant have proved true. Lot's more to learn, of course. Also, am ready to get to know more of "the community" around Nor Cal. |
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Do not confuse service with obedience. The later necessary for the former, but entirely different in their nature and expression. |
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The One accepts, and "works," all of you. |
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That paradox and apparent contradiction is that a great dominant is actually EXCEPTIONALLY SENSITIVE. |
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Don't let what glitters distract you from gold. |
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Be careful what you fear. It is bound to come true. |
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Read and learn: http://askdollie.com/acid_test.htm |
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It can certainly be improved but it's a good start: http://j-walk.com/other/goodwife/images/goodwifeguide.gif |
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Seek the virtues that you like with the vices you desire, else find your own demise burning by the hand that lit the fire. |
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I think I should add that we need not necessarily be friends or lovers per se. Not to start. That is, The Rules (my rules) are easy to learn, understand, and remember, because I have designed them that way. The bond that will result from adherence to them far exceeds that of friends or lovers.
Curious? Just ask. Respectfully, for best results. |
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I don't enjoy cruelty or punishment for its own sake, really. It must serve to deepen the relationship. |
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For crissake can't CM just bother to block nigeria? Sure, they can use another IP but its worth a try! |
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Dear Sub's,
So you want everyone to write each and every one of you personalized intro's of intriguing and genuine interest? Great. Make it worth the effort.
If it works, we'll work it.
Sure, some cynicism is forgivable. But you'd do well to know; the view isn't much better looking through this medium the other way. And a little presumption of respect (when not undeserved) will reflect well on you.
Good luck,
-M |
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It continually surprises me that people here pretend not to work or have friends or families. The Shady Bunch. |
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Curiously, and ironically, of the non-Nigerian phishers here, many actually seem to be running from relationships, not towards one. 80/20 rule, maybe (or 99/1)? |
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Oh you Prima Donnas and the "I won't answer letters from people who have no photo"! EVERY email comes with a linked username. It links to their profile. Their profile has a photo 9 out of 10 or more times. For the love of Janis, spend .00001 of a calorie and drop a finger on the mouse to see a photo!
Yes, I know there are a lot of jack asses here, wasting our time. It goes both ways! It's no excuse at all.
Maybe the economy is fine and people are just getting too incredibly lazy for anyone's good, especially their own. As much as I hate them for ruining what could be a useful site, at least those jack ass Nigerian phishers/spammers here are TRYING! |
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If you are too lazy to to lift a finger and plop it on the mouse to look at a profile such as mine, then I can expect little more, and have as much/little interest in you as you manifest in me. |
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meetjen is in Salt Lake City AFRICA "for work" my gawd... is it any wonder.... |
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Just because I'm good and have integrity and can articulate myself and listen closely to others, and expect as much from those I relate to, doesn't mean anything about my capacity or experience as a sade/Dom. Some seem to wonder if I can use that four letter word, "love," and yet be agreeably cruel, too. Fear not what you don't know. Fear what you can't learn. |
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The RULES:
RESPECT
The sub will profoundly respect the Dom, and the Dom will respect the submissive.
OBEDIENCE
The sub will be obedient and act immediately upon direction to satisfy the Dom?s wishes.
TRUST
Trust in that the sub will fully commit to the Dom, and trust in that the Dom will care for, maintain, and develop the mind, body and soul of the submissive.
ACCOUNTABILITY
The sub will be accountable for acts or inactions that displease the Dom. The sub knows that discipline and punishment will be meted out when deemed appropriate by the dom, and the Dom must ensure the sub understands precisely what she is being punished for, and how to correct the error in future. The Dom will also be accountable for the manner of training, and caring for the sub.
TRANSPARENCY
The sub will at all times openly and clearly express thoughts and feelings so that the Dom will be able to properly care for, train, and dominate the sub.
Got it? |
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Ugh these f'ing spam holes... gawd get these poor trolls a job already! |
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IF not for all the phishers, spammers and BS scammers, this site might actually be useful. |
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Updated my profile text... see if anyone gets it. |
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A couple of you I would like to have liked if known, a little. But of what I know, I like no one here yet. |
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Don't mistake good for nice. But of course you will. |
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Old photos taken years past removed. Current--up to the hour, in fact--one just added. I call it Four Moods. I have others... moods and photos, I mean. Though not all together ;-p |
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"The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." |
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Girls; you seek to submit, to have your masochistic itch scratched. All well and good. But if you do not also seek a relationship with someone who has some concern for you as a person, mark MY words: you will come to regret it. Young ones; ask the older, experienced sub's who--with some luck--have returned from the journey you are just embarking on. They will tell you. Do not think your compulsions alone will satisfy you. Admit, to yourself at the least, that you can not always trust yourself with your own well being. All the more reason to seek a fully humane counterpart, and not just one dimension of them that scratches your masochistic itch. |
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"God must have loved the common man for he made so many of them" -Mark Twain |
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I write every one I introduce myself too a uniquely composed, personal, and authentic message. Why, because you, too, are these things. But you can't expect them all to be long because even if each is only one line it adds up to a significant amount of time and effort and I don't want to spend my life here. This is a means to and end, only. And though it may feel like you're the only authentic or deserving person here you are not. There are a great number of you, and you are all interspersed with the inauthentic and undeserving ones. And then there is this problem: a lot of sub's are lazy, as evidenced by not reading or writing. And a lazy sub is not really worth much effort (I'm not just looking for a fuck toy, however intriguing that may seem). The problem of which is not laziness itself but that fact that spammers and fishers and other sorts of a-holes here, who appear to form the majority, are also lazy, making them all the more like you (only a real person will bother to read this) in their short, vague, unhelpful representations.
So, girls, it's fine to say "..." or write one line while demanding many in response when you've had enough of the a-holes, sociopaths, and spammers here. And that is entirely understandable! But then, wouldn't that be a good time to suspend (not delete... also an option) your profile? At least check "friends" only if that is your only interest or you're here just to troll the forums. This alone will weed out us conscientious ones!
In sum; I want to encourage, even implore, some writing here! It is one of the main ways real people of good and conscientious (mature) kink intentions can identify each other. And isn't that what CM should be about? Do your part, that's all.
Oh, and some more smiles would be great, too. Should this not be fun? I say it should. So many dour faces... smiles, like skin, "sells." And if you don't want to be "happy" (you define it differently), you are here for promotional/networking or social reasons, after all... even if you've only checked "friends". So write well and smile. It is not to much to ask. |
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Boy that pro-tickling crowd is a real niche. Understandably. (No affinity for it, just observing.) |
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I wonder what percentage of profiles here are real folks with genunite interests, versus SPAMers trawling for suckers (and not the good kind ;-) ? |
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