~~~Only Local Please~~~ I've learned much about the lifestyle and about myself...and have become more accustomed to the idea that yes, I'm happiest being submissive in a relationship. What a huge turn on it is to be in the presence of a real man, a confident man, a powerful man, a sexually dominant man! To that man, all shall be granted. I'm drawn to the sensual, intelligent, creative and strong Dom or Alpha Male and enjoy making new friendships. With certain people, a spark may form that leads to potentially being play partners. My life is wonderfully complicated. If you'd like to know how, you can always ask. Yet with all the complexity, it is delightfully drama-free. Please do not seek out my time for your drama...I won't let you. A bit about me...
I am highly tactile and sensual and need to be touched, caressed and held...and that needs to be in the real world. Virtual friendships are great, but I dismiss virtual relationships. BTW, virtual doesn't mean long distance, but you still meet in person...while not ideal, that's workable. Virtual means we never meet in real life. Sorry, virtual doesn't work for me. I work hard, play harder. I can take very good care of myself. If you wish this kitten to be yours, be prepared to care for me better than I am capable of caring for myself. I love to travel, fine dine, laugh and dance. Though I have an excellent sense of direction, I like getting lost just to discover something new. In terms of this lifestyle, I have much to learn and experience and isn't that delicious! I've discovered that I have a low pain threshold, so if you need to inflict heavy pain on another, please pass me by. Sensation play, variation, layering, stings are all great, but bruises that last for days, cut skin, bloodletting are not ok. Manhandling is always welcomed!
I was asked, what makes a good Dom for me. Great question! At minimum:

• Confident, but not cocky. He knows who he is, it exudes from every pore and he doesn't need to prove it to anyone.
• Communicative - Tells me what he wants, expects and needs. Not afraid to be honest. Can be verbal and talk dirty while we play, but has enough class to converse intelligently in public. Speaks with his eyes...One look over the dinner table will tell me just how much trouble I'm in for after the guests depart.
• Observant and Intuitive - Reads me well. Pays attention to my moans, sighs, yelps, and screams. Knows when "The lady doth protest too much, methinks." (And would be great if he knew where that line came from ;-) And when said lady does protest...pushes her boundaries.
• Good sense of humor, because sometimes you just need to laugh to feel good.
• Creative - I can get bored easily, I love variety, spontaneity, to be surprised.
• Intelligent - Intelligence for me is a non-negotiable. I love being around people I can learn from. I define intelligent not just as an IQ score, but in terms of all forms of intelligence, social, physical, intellectual, emotional, etc.
• World-wise - When you leave your little neighborhood, city, state, country and see how others live, experience other cultures, see different forms of government, two things happen. #1 you return loving and appreciating what you have at home. #2 you broaden your perspective and that makes you much more fascinating to me.
• Understands that both parties will need to be satisfied at the end or it doesn't work.

• I will care about you, what you think, how you feel
• I will listen and learn…paying attention to the details
• I will make you feel cared for and loved
• You will be the man…always. I will never ask you to carry my purse for me
• You will laugh often. I have a sharp mind and a sharper tongue. If you don't get sarcasm, you won't get me.
• I will live for that look in your eyes of smoldering desire and need, when we play and I submit
• I will challenge you…intellectually, emotionally and sexually…making the weak submit is easy, making the strong submit is much more powerful and satisfying.