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I am from the eastern United States.
I am intelligent, subversive, honest, and ethical.
I have never violated a confidence. Ever. This is perhaps my greatest achievement.
I believe technology is the only hope.
I am a writer, student, and amateur sociologist.
I am an outsider, even here.
I am the Devil's Advocate on most issues. What most call evil I call misunderstanding. I am the kind that would harbor a vampire or hide a criminal.
I hate enforced monogamy for a variety of reasons.
I do not believe in karma or any kind of universal justice.
I do not believe in revenge, deterrence, or real punishment in society.
I believe that we are all experts in our own sexuality, and there is nothing to learn.
My writing is of extreme importance to me.
My picture is available on request.
I have a fetish for ritualistic domestic themed spanking games, giving and getting.
I wish to fashion a mind.
I am an eternal optimist about the possibilities, but I'm no fool when it comes to the probability.
I can be trusted.
And I am not enough.
Really, I have no idea what I want, that's part of why I'm here.
One pair of reasons for my being here is that having an obsessive spanking fetish and no interest in monogamy makes it hard to participate in the vanilla dating world. Though I can tolerate it under certain conditions, I've never cheated and I've had 3 monogamous relationships that lasted over a year, and as long as three.
Spanking for me is a deal breaker, if a girl can't play spanking games with me, there is no way a relationship would last.
But of course that is hardly the sum of my interests.
It's tempting to try and cram so much into this thing, but really, the two things that a potential mate would really need to know about me is my life is composed of two things, writing, and spanking. :)
What am I?
Well I have two basic modes. The first is a sort of Daddy dom type, but very vanilla as far as those things go. Not looking for a little, just someone to guide, someone to trust me, someone accommodating and beautiful, I would do with her what any straight male with a spanking fetish is likely to do. That\s pretty easy to explain.
But the second mode, the one were I like being spanked, is much harder to define.
What would the community in general call a person who likes to act out submissive roles (spanking fetish context) but have top-style control of the situation before hand? I can't find my place without knowing what to tell people I am.
100% Dom? No, too much enjoyment of a clearly subordinate position. Also the lack of interest in controlling the other person beyond the parameters of their performance. But in another sense I do want control of things in general. How I've put it in the past is I would like one and a half votes in the relationship.
100% Sub? No, too much control of the scene and relationship generally, I would think, the surrender is extremely conditional. I don't see how asking a girl to hit me in a ritualistic way would make me a sub.
Switch? Maybe, but switch to me implies a plurality of modes, I think of this as a single mode. Also I have interest in the D/lg dynamic, and indulging that side of me seems sufnt from this to qualify me as a switch as well, assuming this is a form of submission. Could one one be a switch if both modes are dominant?
Topping from the bottom? Maybe but doesn't that imply deception and manipulation to most now? What would be the non-derogatory version of that label?
For now fetishist seems to fit best, the context of all of this is domestic themed spanking, not into hardly any of the other typical BDSM D/s type stuff. Barring the control and development elements I write about in the d/lg context, which are extremely top.
Am I looking for a governess that will call me daddy? Or a little girl to spank me? One of each? Lol I have no idea.
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