You should message me if:

You love being outdoors!

You are a bold, brave woman ~ maybe someone a little aggressive and bossy who makes the first move (or sends the first message) and then you help perpetuate the relationship as a good decision-maker, a "take-charge" type. Yes, I enjoy independent women the best... I am seeking someone young & strong in spirit with a powerful personality.

 Humor, laughter, and fun are the priorities, though.

A woman who is involved with horses would really be preferred. Horses seem to be a turn-off to most single women and I cannot understand why...

Please note: My selected age range preference shows me matches that are much more appealing to me… that is the way this site functions. Because [site] returns such a wide range of matches I need to see more females in the upper age limit, not fewer. Of course I would also be interested in someone a few years younger than I am (if compatible), but a woman in her late 50’s or in her 60’s would work best for me. I really desire that permanent loyalty, trust, and mature closeness. That’s where the treasure is.

Most women are looking for men 10 years younger than they are and only a few years older.

Going by that formula, my ideal “reverse-matched” female would be 64-65. That’s if you go by the numbers! But this is logical and I understand. However, 57 seems to have been the magic number lately. Excitement! This makes me happy, too…

 It’s time to live it! I love to play by the rules ~ yours!

(Let’s talk about it!)

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Thank you for reading my profile. Don’t hesitate to say “hello” no matter how far away you are! There is no reason to be bashful.

So be a happy camper, be a screamer, be a laugher... please write me!

“You don't have a Soul. You are a Soul. You have a Body.”

- Jim

Your horoscope for June 18, 2010

In order to grow up, it's not enough to eat your spinach or show your muscles, or even to live up to your responsibilities. To grow up is to control other people's influences on you and to create your own philosophies on life, away from certain materialistic ideas. This is the kind of introspective work the planets would like you to do for yourself today, Jim. It will increase your self-confidence. When you have confidence in yourself, everything is just fine!

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This is a great horoscope, but I would still rather be told what to do by a Woman and be influenced solely by Female(s).  I can't think of a more pleasant way to live and exist.


- Jim

Service to another person is what I do best and thrive on.

I appreciate being humbled and taken advantage of – in a good way, of course.

Succumbing to the influence and control of someone Dominant is the best feeling in the world to me; I like it, and I definitely need more of it.  I’m looking forward to the sting of submission and servitude during all of 2010.

Please celebrate safely tonight, everyone!

Kind regards,

- Jim

Whow!

Well, I have met a very Dominant, “Alpha” Female from a different website and things are moving along well.  We are SO compatible it’s scary.

If this works out, my life as I knew it will be in for quite a change.  I’ll be lucky if I can decide when to brush my teeth.  And keep in mind; this will be in a pure vanilla setting.

And yes, we have discussed many times about who is dominant and submissive, she knows that I don’t want to be “in charge”, and she’s happy to take the reins.  It’s awesome, really.

If I disappear from this site, you’ll know what happened.

Have a great day!

- Jim

Good Morning!

I don’t like options; I like being told what to do plain and simple.

Please give me that “bite” ~ the wonderful feeling when whatever power I have is diminished, eventually eliminated and I take my orders from you.

So it is almost Christmas.  I haven’t felt a bite for a long, long time and I need it.  There must be someone local who would like to have a submissive like me ~ whether it’s for an hour, a day, a weekend, or for something longer.

I really need You!

- Jim

Here is my StarScope and Horoscope for Saturday:

December 05, 2009 - FUTURE SURPRISE

The planet Uranus has ended a retrograde and is now moving direct. You may have a glimmer of seeing where change in your world could be a good thing. Look for the biggest surprises coming up to be for the better. Do you like surprises?

I do see where change is coming to my world, and it could be soon!  I welcome these changes, and want to embrace them thoroughly as my life evolves into something I have not known or experienced yet. 

I’m not sure about “biggest surprises”… I like to have some kind of plans made.  But if this refers to unzipping a man’s pants and seeing something big inside ~ yes, I would like that tremendously!

Your horoscope for December 05, 2009

It's time to find your step on the ladder of success, Jim. But you should also concentrate on something else that is important. The ladder of success isn't just about money. It also means really giving your all to your work, and with each project, learning something new. Don't let the greed that is going around affect the goals you have set for yourself.

This goes hand-in-hand (or maybe hand-to-mouth) with the StarScope.  I definitely want to learn new things and I have personal and sexual goals for 2010.  My work is fine; I enjoy my job, but I was really meant to be a Woman’s personal assistant.  That would make me incredibly happy and it gives me a lot of motivation!  I definitely need a pat-on-the-back from Females ~ maybe from men too, eventually.

I would like to discuss goals with other submissives.  Please feel free to contact me.

IT GOES WITHOUT SAYING THAT I WILL DISCUSS GOALS WITH DOMINANTS AS WELL.  Guess I needed to add that!

- Jim 

Here is my Starscope for today:

December 4, 2009 - LIVE IN THE PAST

The Moon, ruler of our emotional nature, is in Cancer, the zodiac sign of sentimental security. The things that make you feel good about your direction in life might be inhibiting you from a great relationship. Are you more committed to love or memories?

Tough one to figure out!

Do I go “this way” or “that way”? 

The quick answer is that I enjoy making memories and love holding onto them.  That does not mean I am not committed to love… I would fancy having memories and pictures of encounters (yes, even sexual encounters) so that these actions are preserved.  I am submissive and want to be portrayed as such ~ for whatever lives on beyond me…

What gets me is the title.  No, I do not want to live in the past.  I want new things, new experiences, and totally different things to do!

That’s why I am on Collar Me.  That’s why it’s exciting when Dominant Females AND Dominant Males contact me.  I want a whole new existence.

- Jim

Good Morning!

It is Tuesday now, so I am smack in the middle of a long workweek.

I have to apologize ~ I am getting behind in answering my messages on Collar Me.  I do answer everyone, so if you have written to me lately I will answer you but it might not be until next weekend… it just depends on how my workweek goes.  Thanks to everyone who wrote nice messages to me… I hear from Females and males.  Hopefully some nice situations and relationships will develop.

My horoscope is interesting this morning so I thought I would share it.

Your horoscope for December 01, 2009

You might want to take stock of your life, Jim. Perhaps you are feeling like things aren't headed in the right direction. You might want to meditate and to figure out what you really want to accomplish. Don't just do things to please others. Make sure that you are making choices that will make you happy. Adjust your career plans or your relationship goals so that they fit the real you.

Well, I do want to do things to please others; that’s my life motivation.  It’s why I become submissive to the Women in my personal and professional relationships.  The natural role for me is a woman’s “right-hand” man or an assistant.  I do not want to be anything more (or less)!  Please read my older journal posts for my story of a very successful role reversal that occurred at work.

There are fantastic opportunities out there!  I wish I could relocate or travel more frequently!  This past weekend I found some fantastic Dominant Females on CM and very unique submissive / slave openings ~ gawd, I am excited by them all.

I really do believe that some big changes are coming for me though ~ hopefully in early 2010.  I’m looking forward to all of this December 2009 and the New Year ahead.

Everyone, please have a great day today!  And even though I am behind in responding to other CM members, I do want to hear from you.  Please write to me. 

Thanks!

- Jim

Good Morning and Happy Sunday!

This morning I thought I would share my horoscope because it really is timely and it’s good advice for where my current frame of mind is.  I am open to new things and experiences and each day I am eager to explore a different path in life that opens up and to meet new people.

There are some additional thoughts & news for today beneath my horoscope.

Your horoscope for November 29, 2009

This could be a good time to open your mind to something new, Jim. Maybe you have grown tired with how you are approaching your life. You might be searching for some inspiration or help. You might talk to someone or read something that helps you feel uplifted. Maybe you will adopt a new attitude based on what you learn. Pay attention to the messages and coincidences that come your way.

Oh-my-gosh!  There are so many thrilling + new Dominant Women on Collar Me!  I am very mindful of requirements and distance, but I would surely love to be in touch with them all!  I discovered a fantastic Dominant who runs a farm in Wisconsin, which is my home state.  She has the ultimate setup and goals for her subs… if only I were younger and had more $-green.  This would be a great destination at a minimum and a pleasant place to live.  I am sure that I would be free of decision-making there as well.

One of the very best and demanding Dommes in California needs her garbage disposal fixed or her dishes washed.  I can’t believe there is no man at her side to wash her dishes, at a minimum!  I would be there in an instant if I lived nearby… c’mon guys, someone go be a good slave or BE A MAN.  This is men’s work… no female should have to wash dishes unless she really wants to.

I must be doing something right because lately more males are viewing my profile than females.  I’m on another dating site ~ it is purely vanilla ~ and more often than not my stalkers are men.  It was getting frustrating to me that females just didn’t find me appealing or even interesting enough to LOOK at me.  But I am over that.  Now I consider it exciting and a wonderful compliment when men view me and contact me.  I have been hearing from several Male Dominants on Collar Me also… this is good, mainly respectful communication.  Of course, I still desire a relationship with a Dominant Female above anything else.  And naturally I just discovered a local one whose personality I think would go perfectly with me, but I have financial limits.  Anyone involved with horses would understand this.

I encourage anyone who is interested in me (for whatever reason) to write and establish contact.  One of my five traits to live by is LOYALTY ~ it is usually phrased “Loyalty to a Woman” but at this point I am open to anything.    I’m usually very prompt to respond to anyone who writes me.  Unfortunately, another workweek is about to start.

I hope everyone has a great Sunday!

Kind regards,

- Jim

Nothing is more exciting, alluring, and seductive than the male penis.  It stimulates women and men alike and most of us crave this spectacular organ!  The penis strips away our personal safeguard and hopefully, our inhibitions.  We scramble to it because we need it.

Is there anyone out there with a “Put this in your mouth” approach?

I’d like to meet you.


- Jim

Good Morning!





I have always viewed Women as Leaders and as my Bosses, and that’s been throughout my entire life.  So although the term “Female Supremacy” can be exciting to think about, it’s nothing really new or something that I crave.  In other words, I live it already.  I don’t come to Collar Me to type journal entries to give myself an erection or a quick turn-on.  I come here to seriously find a Dominant Woman ~ or hope that she finds me.

Hopefully there is someone out there who understands this and also lives with the beliefs that I have.  It’s really pretty simple:  Dominant Woman and submissive man.  Whatever comes after that is the gravy.


Thank You,


- Jim

The cuckold culture and lifestyle is becoming increasing attractive to me.  It just fascinates me, and I wonder why I had never heard of it before because I would have pursued it.  Guess I just didn’t have the right female partner.  Now, keep in mind, although I am interested in this lifestyle I AM ONLY OFFERING MYSELF AS A cuck to a Dominant Female who wants a cuck.  I do not like making decisions in relationships and prefer to be told what to do.

I’ve found a new Hot Wife website to explore ~ there is lots to read on it.  If anyone knows of any real cuckold associations or memberships please contact me with that information.  I will be very appreciative.

When I was a young man, I read the book Jaws.  Whow!  I was secretly thrilled and excited too when Chief Brody’s wife went to bed with Hooper.  (Chief Brody was a cuck.)  They kept all that out of the movie version but supposedly there is a scene where Brody glares at Hooper with the knowledge of what he did to his wife. 

- Jim

There is just no way that I could overpower a female physically or mentally.  I don’t care if she is large or small, short or tall, it is simply inherent in me to be submissive and demure, gentle.  I am not sure why that means that I should be whipped or beat.

Now it doesn’t mean that I will be submissive to every female although I am generally passive towards women and respectful.  What I am talking about is being with a Dominant Female partner where a relationship is established.

- Jim

For today:

I think the penis is very sexy and I know why women like it.  Hell, I know why I like it!  It is the most beautiful and potent part of the human body.  Sure there are a lot of smart people but I think women got the brains and men received superior-looking and functioning genitals.

There is just no way to resist the penis whether you love men or not.

I am considering searching for a male dominant (rather than a female) as something just clicked with me from posts that I read on a different website.
 

- Jim

It is a good feeling to be obedient to a Woman.  That applies to whether one is already in a relationship or just learning about a new person, say a Dominant Woman on Collar Me who makes first contact.

The more dominant a female is, the more I am apt to serve her and be prompt.  At work there are certain ladies who can be very demanding and I run to support them like a puppy dog!  I LIKE being a woman’s assistant and right-hand man.

- Jim

August 14, 2009 - TAKE IT ALL IN

The Sun, ruler of the human ego, opposes Jupiter, the planet of getting bigger. Embrace the things you most enjoy and worry about limiting your intake another day. Can your motto be "Get it while you can," for a little while longer?

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At first I thought this horoscope was going in a completely different direction!  You never know... there could be underlying bisexual (or gay) themes.  So this entry today could be exciting for a couple different reasons, depending on how you read it!

( *** licking and smacking my lips with anticipation and the possibilities of new excitement *** )

- Jim

Where my mind is…

Good Morning!

Well, August is upon us so “Happy August” to all Female Dominants and Switches out there!  I hope your summer has been wonderful thus far.  It’s been pretty rough here in Phoenix so I am looking forward to October for sure.

I have a birthday coming up in four days (August 4^th) so I thought it would be a good idea to state where my mind is at currently.

As you can read from my recent previous journal posts, I have added Cuckolding as a lifestyle interest and it’s something that I really want to experience.  Hopefully in this next year of my life, I can meet a Dominant Woman (or Switch) and be involved in a Female-led relationship that may also require me to become a cuckold.  I’m willing to be a cuck ~ oh, very much so! ~ however, the Female can make that decision for me.  I have not been told what to do or what to be nearly enough during my life.

A lot of Female Dominants state they desire bisexual male submissives or they enjoy perpetrating “forced male bisexual scenes”.  This is not out of the realm of my interests, either.  Again, it’s not really my decision to make nor do I have to engage in this ~ I’m just putting it out there as an interest and something I am willing to explore with the right partner.  Unfortunately CM does not have this as a “Lifestyle” interest and I cannot label myself as bisexual yet.

Well, thanks for reading my post.  I have to get ready and depart on my birthday vacation.

Kind regards, submissively,

- Jim

Good Morning!

It's quite wonderful to see that there are Women interested in Horseback Riding and Cuckolding.  If I do a search with just these two options checked as criteria obviously the return results are very FEW Dominants and Switches, plus about half of those have not logged in for months or years.

However, it is encouraging that at least a few are out there with these [two] shared lifestyles and interests.  I wish we had a selection that was simply "Horses".  This would be more general and would also satisfy a superb Female Dominant's interest as well.

The "Female Supremacy" category is always a given.  I am wondering if I check that for Interest Search... will the user list narrow further?

Thank you in advance for reading this journal post.  Feel free to write me with your comments.

Humbly,

- Jim

Happy Saturday!

As a follow-up to my journal post of yesterday, I did some reading on cuckolding during the day.  I can definitely say that I am more enthusiastic about being a cuck than I was yesterday!  It seems to be an ideal lifestyle within a D/s or Female-Led relationship.  This does not mean that I require or crave a cuckolding relationship – it simply means that I am open to and willing to be a cuckold. 

If I ever find a Dominant Woman for a relationship, I am sure that we can discuss it.

I was drawn to the concept of being a cuck as I noticed so many Dominant and Switch Women on CM list “Cuckolding” on their profiles and actually quite a few, across many states, are specifically looking for cucks.  I may as well become one (a cuck) not just for the sake of it, but for adding another interest and possibly an avenue to a D/s relationship.

Yes, I do believe that I’d make a great cuck.  As I mentioned in earlier journal entries my five traits to live by (and I list these same on vanilla singles’ sites) are:

Confidentiality, Honesty, Integrity, Loyalty to a Woman, and Quality.

The loyalty thing is really important here, and yet, most people do not get it.  When I am in a relationship, I am loyal and I do not stray.  Also, I am not very sexually active when I am not in a relationship ~ actually not active at all, since I don’t pursue one-night stands or anything ~ so with these qualities and beliefs, I might be a perfect cuck for someone.

Again, it’s not about being a cuck.  It’s about the desire to take on that role if the Female decides this is the direction we’re going to go… or it can also be a potential matchmaking shared interest to someone who notices me.  Perhaps this has been something that’s been missing in my life.

I doubt there are many single men out there who scream, “I want to be a cuckold!” and I don’t, either.  But it’s nice to consider.  Thanks for reading my post.

- Jim

Good Morning!


I am now interested in Cuckolding, and I believe that I would make a great cuck.  This would probably be a good move for me at this stage in life, but I do not know if I am too old for this.

It would be nice to discuss the lifestyle with someone ~ preferably a Domme, but I wouldn’t mind hearing from other cucks ~ to find out what is expected, model behavior, etc. I’d enjoy hearing from others out-of-state also since there are very few active members in Arizona.

BTW, I am actually submissive with women in life + in a relationship, not just sexually submissive.

Thanks in advance for reading this and for your contact and comments.


Sincerely,


- Jim

“Sweat never drowned nobody…

But I’d hate to risk bein’ the first!”

This New Year I’ve had the pleasure to meet and spend time with an extremely Dominant Woman in my home state of Arizona.  She is quite fantastique!  She is a great decision-maker and commander.  I love the way that she interacts with men and leads them.  Why is it so difficult to find women like this?

It has become my privilege to be her foot and massage servant.  It’s wonderful to earn someone’s trust in a relatively short period, and do a few different things each time we get together.
 

- Jim

THE END of BUNNY

Oh, today was sort of sad at the barn.  There was a bunny by Troyka's stall and s/he didn't run away.  It was just kind of curled up like it was cold or sick.  The eyes were mostly closed.
 
The bunny moved slightly two more times while I had my horse out.  The bunny was almost right in the aisle where it could get stepped on by horses or run over from Sandy's cart or Denny.   I cautioned Denny so he knew where it was.  Its' eyes were closed again.
 
My horse and I went back into the barn to get some carrot chunks and I broke a small piece off for the bunny and put it in front of her/him without touching it.  The bunny seemed to wake up and started sniffing around, then found the carrot chunk.  It was eating and chewing it, and I could hear the grinding.  It seemed that it came alive.
 
Later, Sandy came out and the bunny vanished.  I didn't think it could get far.  I had hoped the carrot piece gave it strength, but no.  One of the dogs found the bunny, either dead, or hastened its' death, and brought the body to the garage.  Larry had to dispose of it.
 
Well, that's the end of Bunny.  I hope Bunny enjoyed eating that last meal of a fresh carrot.

- Jim

As a submissive and demure male, I am highly attracted to assertive women. 

Women who are bossy, controlling, independent, and strong-minded appeal to me.  The more evident these traits are, the more attracted I am to them. 

I am a person of service who likes to make others happy.  I can be a strong man too, if necessary, but much prefer female leadership.  Sure, I can make first contact, arrange dates, etc., but these things go much better if decided on by the female.

Honestly, I cannot say that I would like being led around by the nose.  That shouldn't be my choice anyway.  Thought I would share the discussion below.  Thanks.  

- Jim

Wikipedia:  Submissive

Submissiveness is the incidence or trait of yielding to the expressed will of another or some display of force. It can be found in everyday human and animal interaction. Submissiveness in humans can be a benign aspect of the social fabric, or it may be part of other problems that a person experiences.

Within human relationships there may be a submissive partner. This partner may be trying to appease the other(s) through agreeing to their command. If they are otherwise healthy this partner may be content. If one or both of the people are experiencing chronic, pervasive emotional distress then the relationship or individuals may require reevaluation.

People who are eager and willing to take on a recurring submissive role in a relationship or who fetishize the trait of submissiveness may seek out others that share their interest or form long term pairings based on consenting to heightened levels of submission in a relationship. This may be incidental in certain cultural or social groups, or may be explicitly expressed in others such as the BDSM subculture, or the "Taken in hand subculture".

A complimentary trait to submissiveness is assertiveness.

** IMPORTANT JOURNAL ENTRY **

Hello to All, 

Greetings!  I believe I should re-write my main profile introduction, although after reading that again, it pretty much sounds like me ~ no improvement needed.  But I guess I need to include the following to clarify who I am and what I am looking for.  I know there is a Woman out there for me!

I seek a LTR (and yes, “relationship” is the last word in that acronym) with a dominant, aggressive female who enjoys being in control.  Please refer to my journal entry of 12-10 about dominant/submissive from eHarmony.  It makes so much sense.  Usually, these are the Women who make the first move!  That includes making first contact, setting up the first date or meeting, pursuing the male and making most of the decisions.

By nature, I am a very quiet and demure man.  I am very respectful to women and all females.  I often defer to, or yield, to women and especially when I am in a relationship.  Submission is natural to me.  Being courteous and helpful is natural to me.  Sure I am independent and strong-willed; I have been alone many times in my life.  But I am searching for someone who is more powerful than I am, someone who takes the lead and enjoys it, someone who by her very dominant nature will help me + let me live the way I like and am most comfortable with.

I’m not into scenes, whipping, bondage, torture, pain or any of these things though they may become a part of our lives LATER in the RELATIONSHIP as we play together and agree on these things if we think they are fun.  I cannot think that far ahead now.

Please contact me if you have questions.  I can’t think of any easier way to explain this.


Thanks,


- Jim

Greetings!

I’ve been on this site for one year now, and I joined at the suggestion of a female sub who lives in the greater Phoenix area.

It seems reasonable to re-post my original journal entry.  I’m surprised that I never get any questions on it ~ so it appears that everyone totally understands it.  Of course, I love responding to questions so if you have any don’t hesitate to contact me!

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My five traits to live by are:

Confidentiality, Honesty, Integrity, Loyalty (to a Woman) and Quality.  

Please contact me if you want explanations or clarification on any of these traits.  The "LOYALTY" trait is reserved solely for a human Female partner, if and whenever she exists.  


Thank You.


- Jim

The definition below came from, of all places, eHarmony in the Compatibility profile.  I like it:

A person who is consistently dominant needs to be in control. A person who is consistently submissive needs to be controlled. Neither of these qualities is necessarily good or bad. But in any relationship there needs to be a general agreement about who will be dominant and who will be submissive. Relationships work best when both people can be dominant at different times and submissive at other times.

This dimension evaluates if you have a tendency to be more comfortable as a leader or as a follower. Those who are dominant tend to be somewhat aggressive and outspoken while those who are more submissive prefer to defer to someone else.


And then here is a suggestion about my possible suitable partner, which I feel is only slightly accurate and barely touches on the subject:

Dominance: You are best suited to someone who doesn't take competition to extremes. She likes to win but doesn't need to do so at all costs. She is aggressive when the situation warrants it, such as when vying for a promotion or playing tennis in front of a crowd, but can accept a loss with grace.


- Jim

This CM site has not really been working for me.  I do believe one does receive what you put in, but I am not sure what people are looking for – I do know that they aren’t looking for me!

I’ve met a couple nice Dominant Women on the site.  One is a superb, intelligent, articulate and awe-inspiring Female but she is so far away we would probably never meet. 

There are so many that I wish I could reach out to, but I do respect the boundaries and specifications of each profile and thus I remain silent.

I think it’s time to start pulling the pictures and fade away into the West . . .

Clip, clop, clip, clop . . .

- Jim

Good Morning!

My gawd, I feel wonderful again!  Last night I rec’d a message from a female barn buddy (who has not been around for a while) and she wants to attend the Scottsdale Arabian Horse Show with me Saturday night.

Twice in her e-mail she said, “let me know”… and there were no questions.  The only thing that would have made this better is:

1)     She gave me a deadline to respond

2)     She would just make the decision for me already that we are going

Gosh, this is what I crave in my life so much! 

I will have to inform her about how crowded and crazy it will be Saturday night and then leave the door open somehow for her to make the decisions on our plans.  If anyone has any suggestions on a superb way of doing this, please let me know. 

Thank you,

- Jim

Good Morning!

As a male who is now really in my 50’s I desire to find the best work for me in a place that doesn’t give me the willies.  Frankly, other men give me the creeps.  It is time for a career move, and I need to be in an All-Female environment; working with Women’s products, services, or issues in a support role or as a Woman’s direct assistant.

I no longer need to be competing for jobs / promotions nor am I adept at playing office politics and prefer the comfort of being a Woman’s “right-hand man”, where I am protected somewhat from bullshit.  The only power I need is what is inherently attached to the Woman I work for.  I believe that the Female is always the more powerful business force and I prefer having clear directions and being told what to do.

There is nothing like the loyalty a man feels when working for a Woman.  And so it is!

- Jim

Okay, I guess I can’t win.

Now I am encountering a very strange phenomenon:  that women are “afraid” of horses.

Excuse me?  Married women thrive with and have horses, but single women fear them?  I don’t understand.

My mother is in her 70’s and has no horse experience whatsoever except for a couple of guided trail rides on docile horses.  I hand her the lead rope and she walks my horse around.  No big deal.

A lady I know (no romantic involvement) really wants to meet my horse and come to the ranch but makes excuses and has postponed meetings.  Now she wants to wait until another woman (who previously owned horses) is available to go with her.  -- ?? –

That’s kind of insulting for me, don’t you think?

- Jim

Never did get the appropriate photos!  Nope, not with the Female Dominant in the foreground and the submissive male in the background.  Creative, brain-throbbing, pain-making, and artistic, fantastique scenes can be done by Woman and man.

I have not achieved this yet.

- Jim

Well, here’s my beef:  Why is making contact like pulling teeth? It is quite the same on vanilla sites, who knows about worse / more?

In my circle(s), now, most of my friends are equestrian Women, and they are all married.  Married.  That means with husbands or husbands and children.  Yet I am in contact with these Women on almost a daily basis and sometimes many times per day. 

WTF sense does this make?  Any of us single people are “groping” for a relationship or looking for a partner and we exchange one message per week, or maybe, in two weeks?  Yes, it’s odd.

I find it odd.

- Jim

Happy New Year and Greetings!

I had a wonderful trail ride this past Sunday (Dec. 30, 2007) but the experience the day before was even better!

Let me explain:  One of my female [married] barn buddies contacted me to find out if I was still up for a trail ride Sunday morning, and suggested a departure time – I liked that already.

I let her know that sure, but it was awfully cold at that time the previous day and then I received a most wonderful reply from her.  She answered by telling me exactly what time she would arrive at the barn, and then said that “we” will do whatever needs to be done to get ready and leave at 1100.

This was so wonderful it still gives me a warm glow.  I like clear instructions from Women and decisions that are made for me.  Then I can have the proper focus.  The communication style from her was a nice touch, too – evidenced by her message that “she” would be arriving at a particular time, but then after that the activities become “we”. 

This is something that I so desperately seek in a Female partner – a great decision-maker.

Thanks for reading this.

- Jim

Ohe-Yeah-Ohe!

Well, I thought that on Christmas Day would be a fine time to get back to the basics so I wanted a simple definition of the word “Dominant” so I hit Google of course.

The first return was:  “submissive sex personals”

Give me a break!

Well, this is what I read from Answers.com:

Exercising the most influence or control.

Exercising controlling power or influence.

Exercising authority.

Having preeminent significance.

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Definition: main, primary

Definition: superior, controlling

IN BRIEF: Most powerful or important.

Well, there you have it.  It doesn’t say anything about sex or even, slavery.  Nothing about whips, chains, chastity and other devices or even -- cuckold. 

This is why I am so attracted to one particular Woman on this site because she understands this.  I think I am right; I am just getting to know her. 

Don’t get pissed off at me for listing these basic definitions.  Our Dominants will make the refinements.

- Jim

Getting back to those equestrian sites, I wanted to mention that often I will get messages that start out like this:

“I realize that you are probably gay, most of my friends are gay – we have the horse in common.”

WTF?!?!?

What is the world coming to when a male who has a horse, especially an Arabian Horse, is automatically assumed to be “gay”?  Not that I am a cowboy, but what the hell happened to visions of the rugged American west?  Are we living in some “Brokeback Mountain” times?

I realize that most men are timid when it comes to horses anyway.  You should see the stone-faces when they tour the ranch with their wives or girlfriends.  It's almost comical.

Greetings and Merry Christmas to All~!

Today I decided that I should hide my profiles on the equestrian-related singles sites (there are two that I am a member of).  I’ve been on them, on-and-off, for four years or more and they just don’t seem to work for me.  Of course I would like to meet a Woman who is also an equestrian or loves horses, but the disappointment and ever-occurring “fizzle-fest” effect from those sites can wear one down.  I have made some female friends… and one I will stay in touch with the rest of my life… but despite long-term contact and dates here and there I just don’t click with anyone (or vice versa).

If this doesn’t work after four years – time for a change.  And that’s why I am here.

There is a lot of deceit photo-wise on those sites, as I’m sure elsewhere.  Hopefully not on this site.

And now, I believe that I have finally found a Woman who thinks like me on CM here – or, that I follow her reasoning, have already been educated, and will continue to learn from her. 

Well, I have a happy life and a great routine existence.  I don’t NEED anyone or anything to fulfill me.  But, I would like to have a Female human partner if that proves possible and that Woman should be my Leader.

- Jim

Today I imagine I may have found a Lady on CM [here] who could understand me – she kind of just appeared out of the blue, profile-wise.  I certainly understand where she is coming from, although she brought a totally new light to D/s for me.  Isn’t that what it’s about?  The learning? 

For a while I will read and ponder her journal and I will savor all of it.  I already have a healthy respect for her because she is quite intelligent and when reading her words, everything fell into place for me.  And by that I mean, not only do I “think” that there might be a chance I fill some of the criteria, but also I need to shape up too in many areas.

I’m embarrassed because I am heavy but I am very, very happy in my life and my routines.  I don’t need emotional or relationship clutter, but it would be nice to have a human companion.  I’m a good and honest man and it is very important for me to write a sensible and humble first message – I think I’ll only get one chance.

- Jim