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While Fifty Shades of Grey seems to be all the rage these days, I've had these D/s desires for most of my life. I haven't had a chance to explore them until now, for a variety of reasons, all mundane.
However, that is one thing that I intend to change. I am very interested in finding someone to explore dominance and submission with, to join me on this journey. I'm open to bondage and discipline being a part of this, however I am open to it not being as well. I am primarily looking to explore and play, and am open to trying just about anything, with a few limits that I'll go into below.
I'm looking for something between casual and dating to start out with, but I'm open to many options on where it goes after we get to know each-other. I expect that we will start off a bit slowly, getting to know each-other over a few e-mails and texts, then within a week or two going out to a coffee shop and chatting over beverages, and deciding where to go from there.
Submission is a game that can only truly be played if you have a good map of the land and know where you want to go, what you want to avoid or confront, what the limits are and so forth. To this end, good communication before the play starts is a requirement, and not something we can just jump right past. Until we agree that we're ready to move on to the D/S play, things will be kept fairly level. However, I'd expect to you to submit to basic gentlemanly courtesy: you let me get the door for you, you let me buy you lunch or beverages, that sort of thing.
I do expect that we will meet in person, say at a coffee shop or restaurant, fairly quickly; there won't be an interminable exchange of e-mails.
About me, I'm a 41 year old professional, responsible and reliable, I strive to be trustworthy, smart but I don't really call myself an intellectual because I pursue knowledge for what I can do with it as opposed to many intellectuals I know who like knowledge as an end unto itself. I'm 6'2" tall, and on the larger side, but I keep active (mostly biking and swimming), so if that's an issue you probably want to move along. I'm also separated from my wife, the divorce is not yet finalized; I would like to get it done by the end of the year. If this is an issue for you, you probably want to move along.
I tend to avoid drama and would expect you to as well.
If the above sounds interesting to you, please contact me and let's start the conversation.
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In a recent discussion with a friend, we talked about comfort. She is a very good friend of mine, and I know she has submissive leanings, but she is married and they are both good friends of mine, so we just flirt.
At one point in the discussion, she asked me how submissive I want her to be. I replied "Probably more submissive than your husband is comfortable with. Likely more submissive than you are comfortable with, possibly even by design." She didn't understand this last part.
I said that part of a D/S relationship is avoiding things you want to avoid, but there are also things that you want to confront. And confronting those things is likely to be uncomfortable. The trick is figuring out what you want to confront.
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