|
|
|
|
A grown-up intelligent man who knows his own mind and acts on it. A secure, professional man who has all the material needs covered.
Externally very civilised. Internally very not. In public very respectable. In private respect works in a different way.
I dont fit into any particular category well. In some ways I am old-fashioned and fit the 1950s household idea. In other ways, I am a progressive, always looking to try new ideas and work in different ways. I look after and value what is mine but on the other hand, I will use, abuse and humiliate it in any way I want and see no contradiction. Sadism but, also aftercare. Certainly not known to cuddle but I love to hold and am very tactile.
If you have read this far you will probably want to know what I am looking for. I dislike the common stereotypes so I wont use slave or sub. Neither fits properly what I am seeking and no woman I have ever met is purely one or the other. I am after active interaction at a deep and, to me, meaningful level. No holds barred honesty that isnt constrained by niceties and social constraints (at least in private). A symbiotic relationship where everyone knows their place and what is, or isnt, expected of them and the consequences of not achieving that. I am not a complete control freak but where good, effective rules are established they will be kept to or meaningful punishment will happen and I really will not listen to excuses. For me, rules are established to build better and content lives not to just constrain them. We have all met the fantasists on here who dont go far enough, go too far, or keep changing their minds because they made up rules for the rules sake. I treasure and love control and you should expect to give up decisions and rights about many parts of life.
Set against that I like meaningful conversation and discussion as well as good ideas and thoughts. I listen a lot so a blank canvas is not going to work. Understanding and using that understanding is the key to control for me.
I have talked about control, decisions, rights and have mentioned sadism. All these things apply. I love all the usual elements like bondage, breast play, nipple play, clit play, anal, clamps, locks in many different shapes and places. Metal collars, cuffs, whips, floggers, paddles, plugs, gags etc, etc. All these, and many others, are good tools and are great fun for me but the real satisfaction comes from the look in the eyes, the words, the obvious understanding, body language, the cries, the natural obedience, the need to please, and take, because its deserved not just demanded. The excitement, the letting go, the surrender to fate. Acceptance and contentment. None of this is achieved in one night or a couple of play sessions. It is built over time.
|
|
|
|
