A word on honorifics and etiquette:

I mentioned role-playing in our about me section,

I wish to stress the point that we do not engage in BDSM with each other (Oak and Ash) outside of the bedroom. 

In the bedroom we all play roles, some have names like "Daddy", "Sir", "Master", or "girl". Other roles can be less structured like a primal avatar of lust, the dominating force of non refusal, or a submissive pleaser, each has implied rights inside the arena where they exist, the bedroom.

I personally have been called both a devil and a god in the bedroom but I don't go walking around and expect rush hour traffic to part for me like a deity or lesser mortal men to cower in awe of my presence .

The use of honorifics outside of the bedroom I would only consider doing for the fulfillment or peace of mind it might give someone else to use or live by that type of etiquette since if you wish to live as a slave then why wouldn't using the honorifics that come with property and ownership make sense.  

Without that type of arrangement I feel every time I would hear a pretty little thing calling me "Sir" when she she only means to address me formally I would have to put up with that muscle in my mind curling with an urge to strip aside my false face and drag her into the nearest private corner.  

A word on dominance:

Most of my life has been study in self control, as a result I possess it in spades. It wasn't until my twenties that I found that my reluctance of being the dominant one in my relationships was what was causing them to come apart.

This reluctance was not from a lack of will or nature but the opposite, it was born out of a selfish desire to only have to worry about myself and my own natures, because, surely if every moment of every day was a test in my own self control then having ownership of another would be too much, and be enough to cause me to start losing my control and self possession due to what I imagined would be a distraction.

When I discovered how wrong I had been I felt foolish, and released from shackles that I never knew I laid on myself. I felt whole and as a whole person was able to include others in my life more genuinely.

(on that note me and my wife have now been together for the 10 years since I decided to take ownership of more than just small bits of another persons happiness, safety, and comfort.)

Dominance to me is more than engaging in some dramatic posturing, trying to stand over another as a false god and receive affirmations of your position of power until one or both of you get off on the emotional flashing.

Dominance and submission are a freedom, a release of your will into a closed circle and a silent obedient promise from those who accept your will over theirs.

It is the act of acceptance and trust, that the dominant desires, the dominant will, thy will be done and then both Doms and Subs can be who they are vein deep without second guessing or holding back.

I won't be arrogant and make a statement like "Nobody is born a dom!". I only know that I was not, yet somehow my life doesn't feel like it really started until I let myself kick off the husk of propriety and be dominant, so maybe looking at it in a way, I was born one too.