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Active in BDSM since 1995 - learning, studying, and experimenting with a wide variety of souls. I believe that giving each other the freedom to touch the darkest parts of ourselves only helps us shine all the brighter. For me, this journey isn't so much about Dominance and submission per se, but rather forging pathways to unlock our hidden potential.
Personally, I've always been driven by a need to understand the hows and whys of things. My experimentation (or play, if you prefer) in BDSM is a manifestation of that. Can I know my partner well enough that the slightest move or gesture can send her over the edge? Can I play her like the fine instrument that she is? Can I coax a soft melody from her cries, and have it accompanied by her writhing harmony? When the havoc is over, can I cradle her gently and nurture peace from the chaos? This is my journey.
I have no interest in a full-time "submissive", much less a slave. The women I count among my friends and accomplices are bright, vibrant, confident, and strong-willed - but they need to set that part of their persona aside from time to time and swing their pendulum in the opposite direction. I provide a safe, yet very dark, place for them to do that. I use physical play to open the doors to consciousness, to get inside my partners head, and then turn it inside out. I use some humiliation play to strip away the veneer of civilization to unleash the animal within. But even in the darkest moments, there is respect, care, and affection. Limits and their degrees of pliancy are understood and respected.
Aside from my personal forays in the lifestyle, I am an outspoken advocate for our right to be who we are and do what we do. We might differ on implementation, but we are all parts of a community striving for freedom and respect, and I know for sure that's a battle worth fighting.
These days I'm looking primarily for a play partner (and possibly more). My dark side has been very calculated - and I feel the need to give in to my (much ) more carnal nature. I'm looking for someone to help me unlock that treasure chest!
I am poly and have a partner who I am completely open with and about. You deserve no less than the same consideration!
Peace!!
Nox
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