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WARNING: Any institutions or individuals viewing or using this site or any of its associated sites - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum either current or future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal action.
I've had both domme and sub profiles on this site and I've settled on the fact that "switch" best describes me. So here I am. I tend not to take any of this too seriously, after all life is too short to worry about being too serious! On that note, I'm not really looking for anything super serious as far as a relationship goes right now.... just some distraction perhaps, if something more happens to evolve so be it.
I do not accept tributes, payment, bribes, rewards, kickbacks, compensation of any kind, etc. If you take the time to read my profile you'll find I'm here seeking a balanced relationship, not money or gifts. Your introduction to me should not include offers to buy me things, take me shopping so I'll talk to you, or any other variation; nor do I care how much money you have. I am perfectly capable of supporting myself, that's not why I'm here. My only concern with your finances is that you are capable of taking care of yourself and that's the extent of it.
Now that we have that clear, feel free to read on. :-) Grab a drink and a snack, if you plan to read the whole thing it's going to take you awhile...
I am a alpha lady in Northern VA who particularly enjoys pain play, ass play, and humiliation. If you're not into pain, you may find me a bit cruel. I have a lot of fun with corporal, biting, and the like. I also particularly enjoy tease and denial, ass play, and nipple play. I refuse to dive right into play without getting to know someone first. You will have to earn my beatings if you desire them. ;-) I will teach you how to please me and I expect you to learn quickly.
I am looking for more than someone to play with on occasion... someone to develop a relationship with on more than just a sexual level but also not looking to get too serious too quickly, if that makes any sense. If you want to attract my attention you should have a brain intact and be capable of using it.
I am searching for someone who is the perfect gentleman in public, attractive, intelligent, and dependable. Someone who can respect me for who I am, who has respect for himself, who can enjoy time with me and my friends, who is capable of holding a long term relationship if the time and mutual desire comes, and who shares an interest in the world of kink.
I don't mind traveling a bit for the right person (within reason - an hour, maaaaybe two if "mister perfect" comes knocking), as long as they are willing and able to reciprocate. I do keep a busy schedule but I am willing to make time for the right person.
A mutual physical attraction is very important to me. I consider myself to be an attractive person and I do have pictures to share with someone I have a potential interest in getting to know. If you're interested in playing with me you should be attractive, in good physical condition, and a non-smoker. Of course, drug and disease free is mandatory.
I have no interest in those completely out of my age range. If you're under 27 or over 48 it's unlikely we will be a good match, but I suppose there is a very small amount of flexibility in that if everything is aligned perfectly. I prefer men who are at least close to my height or taller, again there is some flexibility in that for the right person.
My interest in kink is a very private part of my life and as such, I would be thrilled to meet someone with similar interests, with whom I also share "vanilla" interests, who also can be 'normal' on a day to day basis, someone who I could bring around friends or date with and no one would have any idea of our private interests.
I suppose the long-term goal would be to develop a relationship with a man of fitting the above description. I do have vanilla values about relationships. I believe "vanilla" is the base for all other flavors in this world & no matter how into this you may be, you still need mutual trust, respect, attraction and friendship for anything to work between two people, maybe even more so in this situation.
I am not looking for 24/7 D/s relationship. I do enjoy exchanging power and control during intimate play-time, but I do not have the time or the desire to control every moment of your day. That being said, I am always the alpha in my relationships, so there is always some degree of dominance there I suppose.
If you expect me to be interested in you, you should be confident, caring, attractive, intelligent, and honest.
If you're interested in getting to know more about me feel free to send me a message and we'll go from there. Be sure to include a picture of yourself that shows your face as well as your physique. Do not send me pictures of your ass, cock, balls, etc I have no interest in seeing them at this point. If your profile is blank or brief be sure to include a bit about yourself and what you are seeking. If you do not follow these instructions you will not receive a response.
Moving on, I'll share a few reflections about me, my life, and some of the things I've learned along the way. These reflections are about me, how I see myself, how kink fits into my life, and what I think about it.
I'll start with the conclusion: being kinky is something I do, it is a part of who I am, but it's not all of who I am. There's a lot more to me than my interest in "BDSM".
Simply put, I do not define myself by my kinkiness - that involvement is something I choose to do, with the right man, on the terms that we negotiate together as consenting adults.
I don't spend my entire day thinking about kink. I don't fantasize about dominating everyone I meet.
I do not value myself based on a desire for kink. My value as a human being is not tied to being a domme or a sub, but rather my worth to society, the contributions I make to the lives of others on both a local and world wide level. It is not linked to things like the number of scenes I've been involved or not been involved in or the amount of pain I'm able to inflict. In my opinion with all the beauty and wonder in the world, these seem rather ridiculous things to place any significant amount of value on.
I feel no overwhelming need to socialize in public BDSM or kink groups. My interest in kink is a private part of my life and I prefer to keep it that way. I have made some good friends through this site and others... amazing people who happen to be kinky, doms, subs, or switches... but they are my friends because we share world views, hobbies, personality traits, and so on. These things bring us together far beyond a simple liking for kinky sex. If my only point of compatibility with someone is that we both like spanking or choking, then our time spent together will be short.
Again, kink is a small aspect of my life... not my whole life.
I will never confuse the touch of a stranger's hand with love... and given the choice I will always choose love.
And perhaps most importantly: If you are broken, D/s will not fix you.
One last note ... PLEASE DO NOT WASTE MY TIME OR YOURS IF YOU ARE NO WHERE NEAR THE AGE CRITERIA MENTIONED HERE, IF YOU'RE LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO IS INTERESTED IN 24/7 TPE, IF YOU JUST WANT TO FIND SOMEONE TO PLAY WITH FOR A NIGHT, IF YOU'RE A SMOKER, OR IF YOU AREN'T DRUG & DISEASE FREE.
If you've made it this far I suppose you've at least earned a hint... I'm a typical girl in that I'm a sucker for romance. What girl isn't? Use this information wisely. ;-)
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