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Just gave up on finding someone.
See journal. 01/09/07
*goes for tylenol*
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*twitch*
*TWITCH*
Received an...email. From a Domme. One of a trend of emails lately, on this site and on a few others that I'm on, mainly for friends, but...more for later.
This...Domme, and I am being polite here, responded to my "hi there" email, my standard friendly "it is nice to meet you" email, with "switch men aren't worth MY time."
And then followed the rest of her tirade against switch men.
*twitch*
It is a tirade that I have heard towards switches in more polite words, and seen towards switches in more polite attitudes, since first entering BDSM as a Dom.
First, let me clarify a few things. I am poly. I am sexually open and confident. I am pagan. And I am bisexual. This means that for the vast majority of my life, I have been called everything from "fence-sitter" and "indecisive" to "slut", "traitor" and "greedy".
I have watched as straight guys acted like I was some HIV+ rapist lecher who was somehow addicted to their ugly, flabby, hairy ass...because it was an ass. News flash for you all...if your ass isn't at least a good as mine, and I get compliments daily at the gym, then no...I really don't care how tight your pants are. And I have zero interest in straight boys...you're far too narrow minded, and most of you are so far in the Sex-Denial closet that you're finding Christmas presents.
I have been treated like a traitor and scoffed at by gay guys who decided that if I couldn't "commit to the lifestyle", then I was a straight boy with delusions. Second newsflash...you sound, to the very letter, EXACTLY like those gay bashers who beat an eagle scout to death for being different. "If you can't live this way, then you're different and different makes you a traitor."
And now, apparently, being a switch means that I don't count in BDSM, either.
Why is it, tell me PLEASE, that every time we find ourselves in the minority, we struggle, strain and claw our way into acceptance...and then turn on ourselves the same way the previous minority, now the majority, turned on us?
All I know is this...I'm getting tired of being the minority of the minorities.
I'm a bisexual in a world where gays and lesbians are being accepted...so they're starting to exclude the bisexuals in turn. (The abused have to become the abusers, don't'cha know?)
I'm a bisexual man, in a minority group where bisexual women, at the very least, stand united together while we don't count.
I'm a pagan in a christian world, where the only pagans who get acceptance are the fluffy bunny wiccan girls, or the goth satanist types who conform to stereotypes while screaming "I am different!"
I'm a polyamorist, in a monogamous world, and I've committed the sin of believing that we are capable of love. And love, don't you know, is the ultimate sin.
And finally...I'm a switch, and Switches Don't Count.
*sigh*
I need some freaking tylenol... |
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Essays:
Writing a series of essays on a few different topics in BDSM...I'm hoping to get about thirty together, and I have ten written...
Yes, these are publication essays. *tbbpt*
So...anyone have idea suggestions?
Any at all? After ten, I'm coming up dry. No pun intended.
Okay, so, maybe a little pun intended. *grin* |
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Photo:
As in, why don't I have one (as so many people have asked me, and commented that part of why I get no responses is due to having no photo...)
I used to teach a great deal of self defense seminars in this area. I still do, on occasion, teach with a few different groups. I also train a few people as a private trainer, and in writing, I work with a lot of people who either cannot understand what it means to be a switch, or who simply would not care and would use it as a professional advantage. Ie, "outing" me for fun and profit.
I do have photos, and I have no problems with sending them to the people I have talked to.
But I really would rather not ruin my livelihood or destroy professional contacts over a website.
*laughs*
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So, had my first masochistic experiences, outside of professional fights. I am becoming such a pain lover.
Which is weird, considering that I never enjoyed having bones broken before when I was training hardcore.
NqK |
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Wow, so, haven't written on this thing in forever...
Fired my boss, so I no longer run a MA school. Which means I can go to events without worrying about running into students, which is cool. And I can train on my own, in any MA that I want to, which is also good.
Downsides...I miss teaching karate to the kids. And I mean I miss it a LOT.
Other than that...anyone BDSM oriented in Philly who wants to cross-train MA?
Preferably a cute switch or domme cute girl? *halo* |
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Need photos to put on profile....*notes to self*
Photos that do not involve my dojo's uniform or t-shirts (because I REALLY need my students' parents to know this much about me, REALLY), or pictures of me with my friends (all of whom are female, and thus give a bad impression for a "girlfriend wanted" ad site).
Which basically means every single photo of me taken in the last three years is out.
*sigh*
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Have you ever noticed, when lighting a scented candle with a wooden match, that the wooden match smells better than the candle?
*shrug*
I'm weird. And my muscles hurt. Note to self, human beings were not meant to stretch that far. XMA exercises = Pain.
And when did healthy food start tasting so good anyway? *munches whole grain pretzel sticks* |
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| Age: 27 |
| Iowa City,
Iowa |
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