I cannot begin to tell you how many men (and women) question as to whether there are any "real" people here on CollarMe. I also get lots of notes telling me that I seem "relatively normal" and that the majority of women here are "really crazy".

Well, I can say that I am "real" and "relatively sane" because I am. I will also assure you that there are others like me here,,, You just need to look hard enough and realize that an open mind helps. One of the biggest "problems" here is that when a woman of any age joins, she gets between 20 and 50 messages from men in the first 24 hours and sometimes more! Is it any wonder that they seem a bit crazy? I think it's a defense mechanism from  overwhelmed women that are sick of men who ask insane (and inane) questions.

Now, I'm sure that there are others like me who have gotten lucky and met someone (or, in my case, some ones) who were actually sane and real, and maybe, just like me, found a perfectly matched Submissive, or, in his case, a perfectly matched Dominant. They arehere on CollarMe, but first you need to sift through the crap. There are people here who only want money, or perhaps lead you to another site where you have to pay to cam. Then there are people who think that they can use BDSM as a way to cheat on their spouse, or get easy sex. It doesn't work that way. You need to be honest and realize that things like that will immediately send up red flags.

So, yes, there are "real, relatively sane" people who are members here. Just be patient and sift through the shit. Good luck! Also, if you have any feedback, feel free to message me,

Just can't get over how lucky I feel. Do you feel lucky too?

LOOK HERE!

Guess what? I have a Submissive! Do you know what that means? Probably not, judging from all my messages. It means I am no longer searching. It means that I am happy, it means I don't want or need anyone new. It means that messaging me is an exercise in futility.

Some of you might wonder why I am keeping my profile active here if that is the case. Short answer: Because I can.  Long Answer: Because I like to laugh at all the silly messages I get. Not all the messages are silly, but quite a few are, and I enjoy the comedy relief.

I only recall sending out a message to a male first twice since I've been here.  I don't actively pursue anyone here because I have too many messages already.

"Sparky" (not his real username) this is dedicated to you. I am, and will be the Dominant female of your dreams (and possibly your nightmares) Your negotiation papers are all written up and waiting for our next meeting.

Bill (again, not his username) I look forward to our rendezvous later in the week. I fully intend to have you giggling like a schoolgirl by the end of it.

"Sparky" and Bill: I might put the two of you together for my entertainment, but Bill is a free agent at the moment, so we shall see.

Now enjoy your chocolate and candy day

Lucky Me!!!

(Or Is It Lucky Him?)

After a long series of "meet and greets" I have met two wonderful Submissive men.

Submissive #1 lives a few miles away and is genuinely nice. I plan on meeting with him occasionally simply because he's such a nice man. I explained to him that, because of his circumstances, I will not take him as a Submissive, but I will call him and meet with him occasionally to get him away from his responsibilities.

Submissive #2 lives much further away, but I couldn't ask for a more perfect match. He's the right age (60) and he's intelligent, has a great sense of humor, similar political leanings, and he seems genuine. I'm not sure where this will take me, but so far, it seems good. He will be meeting my partner next week.

Some of you might wonder why I would want my (non-submissive) partner to meet my potential Submissive. Some might even question my decision to have my Mentor meet my potential Submissive. It's simple, really. My partner and my Mentor are the two most important men in my life, and there's nothing worse than having people you like not liking each other. I realize its a rare occurrence but I want to be sure we all get along. Oh, and for the record... I Submit to NOBODY! I just do this for my own personal comfort.

Sleep well!

Once More, With Feeling!

Some people either do not read or cannot read. This is for YOU.  Yes, YOU! The person who refuses to read!

I use mail controls here. It saves me lots of time and automatically puts mail from people I might be interested in in the correct area.

WHO GOES INTO MY REGULAR MAIL?

All women who live in California between the ages of 35 and 75.

Male Submissives who live in California between the ages of 35 and 75

Trans Submissives who live in California between the ages of 35 and 75

WHO GOES INTO MY BULK MAIL?

Anyone under the age of 35

Anyone who does not live in California

Couples of all ages.

Dominant and Switch Males of all ages

Anyone over the age of 75.

DO I READ MY MAIL?

I read all of my regular mail. I sometimes look at my bulk mail. It depends on how I feel. I have a whole bunch of Bulk Mail that I have either deleted or ignored.

DO I ANSWER MY MAIL?

I always answer initial mail from my regular mailbox. Sometimes I answer my bulk mail. Again, it depends on how I feel.

AGAIN:IN CAPITAL LETTERS ~ IF YOU WIND UP IN MY BULK MAIL I MAY NOT READ IT OR REPLY TO IT!

A COOL THING ABOUT CM MAIL:

Did you know that if you click on your SENT box that not only does it show WHO you sent mail to but it also will tell you if and when they read it? IT'S TRUE!

ONE LAST THING:

If I respond to you that I am not interested or suggest that it will not work for us, please respect me at my word. Don't question me or keep messaging me, because I WILL BLOCK YOU.  NOT INTERESTED MEANS NOT INTERESTED! I'm sure that there are plenty of Dominant women who would be perfectly happy with you or that you would be happy serving. Please don't make it any more painful than it needs to be.

You Must Be Kidding Me!

I am a reasonable woman, dare I say, I'm even an intelligent woman. I see what goes on around me and I watch what others do. Somehow, I'm kind of used to the "Old School" way of doing things. I believe in Honor and Respect for all. I believe that a Submissive is something (someone) to be cherished, not used and discarded like yesterday's newspaper.

I'm angry! Yes, I'm angry, because so many self-proclaimed "dominants" these days require "Tribute" before even giving a Submissive the time of day. I beg your pardon?! Tribute?! For what? A few words written in an email or messenger? A vague "possibility" of meeting? Their rotten used panties? Where is the Honor in this? Where is the effort on the part of the Dominant to truly train the Submissive anything? Are Submissives only of use if they have money to spend on you? When the money dries out, do you discard the Submissive for someone more foolish with a bigger wallet? Shame on you! You are lower than a harlot on the street! At least a harlot truly gives something. You are no more than smoke and mirrors. You piss me off!

I'm a hands-on Dominant. If you plan on serving me, and I'm interested, I will tell you. I will meet with you. We will spend time together and learn and grow. You won't ever have to worry that I will drop you for someone with a bigger wallet. I don't care about your wallet. All I care about is you as a person. What I require is your time and willingness to serve me. If you are one of those so-called "dominants" mentioned above, and you are angry over what I've written, too bad! I don't give a rat's ass about what you think. I just want Submissives to know it wasn't like this and it doesn't have to be like this. Enjoy your Tuesday all! 

I'm Amused

Yes, I'm amused by most of the notes I've gotten here. It seems that, according to the men who have written, I'm perfectly sane and normal and that amuses me. I guess that quite a few of the female Dominants here have some screws loose, or at least that's what I've been told. I know that there are a few men here with screws loose because they've written me. Repeatedly. Asking the same questions over and over. I know exactly what I want so no amount of messaging is going to change that. Begging and pleading falls on deaf ears.

Once more, here are my requirements:

MEN: You must be Submissive, over the age of 40 and under the age of 75. Unowned and unmarried or unattached. Nonsmoker, non drug user (prescribed from doctor okay) and social drinker is okay. You must be willing to attend public play parties and munches with me. I've spent over 30 years doing it privately, and I've discovered that I like the relative safety that a public venue allows. I want to and expect to get to know you in a relaxed vanilla setting because I want you to know the "real" me. If you cannot do these things then you are not what I want. I'm selective, you should be too.

TRANSGENDER: I'm fine with transgender or intersexed or anywhere in between. I have the same requirements for you as I do for men. I want you to be comfortable around me and above all, just be yourself.

WOMEN: If you are a woman, the rules are slightly different. Married or attached is fine, but I want nothing to do with your partner. It's important that you are honest with me about your relationships though, because the last thing I want to do is piss of someone's spouse or significant other. I will accept women who are as young as 30, but again, you must meet the other requirements set above for the men.

Sex (intercourse) is not required, I just need someone who will do what I need and nothing more. I don't want a slave or a live-in situation. I don't want someone to clean for me (not yet, anyways) and I don't need any drama. I am a genuine loving and caring person with a sadistic streak. I will negotiate with you as to how our relationship will be once I've decided that you are what I want and you consent to it.

So, yes, perhaps I am a bit "normal" and "safe" but don't you deserve it?

Hi! I've only been here about 18 hours and the mail keeps pouring in! Thank you so much for the warm welcome! <3

If you are dominant or out of state or under 40 and over 75 you go to my bulk mail area. I am seeking something very specific so please understand that I can't possibly accept all offers etc. but I really do appreciate all the attention.