My wife and I have been in a natural Female Led Relationship (FLR) for over 30 years now. She is in charge of nearly every aspect of our lives. She has full control of our finances. She makes all the major decisions, most times with my input, sometimes without. She runs our social life and maintains our event calendar. I always have to check with her before scheduling anything on my own.

We split the household chores. She still pers a slight majority of them. I was given a few new ones when I came out to her about my desires a couple of years ago. One of my major issues currently, is completing these chores in a timely manner with a quality outcome.

While she is aware of my kinks, she is very vanilla. Her control is rarely overt and we lead a vanilla life, both behind closed doors and in front of them. Regarding intimate relations, she picks the time, place and position(s). Outside of that, it’s all pretty normal.

I know I should be satisfied with my situation. There are probably many men into FLR that would love to be where I’m at. I just wish there was a little more. Small things like telling me to do something instead of asking me to do it. Or direct critique of the timeliness and quality of my work instead of passive critique.

Why am I here? I’m looking for ideas on how to very gently nudge her toward a more dominant demeanor towards me. I’m looking for a mentor who can guide me in that direction and help me stay on track in the mean time. I’m here to read and share stories about real life FLR relationships.