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Hetero Male Master, 60,  Lawton, Oklahoma
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 Dominant Male

 Lawton 

 Oklahoma

 5' 11"

 215 lbs

 60

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 01/10/13

 60 minutes

Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Switch Women

Sub/Sub Couples

Friends Only

Roommates

 Loves:

 History

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Classical Music

 Oldies

 Pop Music

 R&B

 Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Likes:

 Intellectual Discourse

 Philosophy

 Psychology

 Alternative Music

 Blues

 Eighties Music

 Funk

 Hip Hop Music

 Nineties Music

 Opera

 Operetta

 Reggae

 Catholicism

 Christianity

 Tolerates:

 Munches

 Goth Lifestyle

 New Age Music

 Dislikes:

 Polyamory

 Hates:

 Diapers

 Rap

 Hard Limits:

 Needle Play

 Female Supremacy

I need to hear you cry. I need to see the fear in your eyes. I need to hurt you and humiliate you. I need to control you. I am sick of this new age lifestyle. Sick of seeing weak men pretending to be dominant and women topping from the bottom. Misogyny....what is wrong with it?...Nothing! Men are meant to control and rule over women. Men should be masculine, alpha, dominant with no apology. Women may be strong in their work environment, but know their place with their man... subservient. Your purpose is to please the man. Learn to do it properly.
Corporal punishment and discipline is needed by women. I can be violent....call me sadistic, a misogynist, I dont care. I will discipline you harshly, I will hurt you, make you cry and beg. I will teach you to be what I want you to be. You will do as you are told. I am the jealous, possessive type. I will eat your ass with whatever tool is within reach, I will humilate. I will leave my marks on you....bruises, welts, cuts, a bloody lip. I will whip your ass with a belt, extension cord, a rubber hose, a paddle, a shoe. I will slap you, yank you by your hair, drag you across the room and throw you across the couch or bed like a ragdoll, force you to your knees and have my way with you.
I am interested in a submissive woman who understands me and my desires and who really wants to be a part of that kind of relationship.
This is not a game to me. It is how I live life. I am only interested in serious submissive women wanting, needing the kind of man that I am.
Feel free to contact me.

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9/15/2015 7:33:27 AM
Because she's pretty much useless unless she's bound, sucking my cock, being fisted and her pussy and ass are being abused.

12/22/2013 9:47:39 PM

                                           Being Dominant

I've decided to make some personal comments about being "Dominant" as I've been messaged by new Doms and subs, both wanting information about what it is to be dominant. Following are about 20 things to consider. Nothing is ever set in stone as this is an ever evolving lifestyle. I've been in it for over 25+ years and trust me, I've seen a great deal and participated in a great many things, but I dare not claim to have seen it all or even come close to knowing it all. 

 I always bring to the forefront, the need for caution, especially for the newly entered sub/slave. There is a great deal of risk involved, not just in the lifestyle scene or practices, especially breath play. Always make it a point to know first aid and CPR. You just never know. The other thing to remember is that human trafficking is alive and thriving to this very day. Use caution at all times. Better safe than sorry. Now, on with my response to new Dom's questions. I hope this helps somewhat. 

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1. You will fuck up


New Dominants WILL make mistakes. It's a fact of life. To be fair, experienced Dominants will make mistakes. Intermediate Dominants, Lifer's will make mistakes. If you are a Dominant or think you want to be a Dominant, you will make a mistake.


Accept it and move on.

The only thing that makes a mistake worse is not learning from them. Use them as opportunities to grow and learn. Talk to people about them. Figure out what went wrong then incorporate that and try not to do it again.

If you act like everything you do is perfect and without flaw, then you are an idiot and whoever plays or submits to you will also be an idiot. Because none of us are perfect. But what we can do is try to learn from the mistake and improve our skills.

2. Beating someone does not make you a Dominant.

Any idiot can be taught how to use a flogger, cane, crop, do rope, punch, kick, etc. The list goes on. Simply because you have become adept at kicking someone's ass is not the mark of a Dominant. At best, it makes you a Top. For the record, there is nothing wrong with being a Top. But not every Top is a Dominant. For many people, they are completely different terms.

There is much more to being a Dominant than simply engaging in play. Do not confuse with what happens in a scene as an overall relationship role.

3. Ask questions

Ask as many questions as you can of who you can. For every pompous jackass out there who thinks they are too good to help out a new person, there are several more who are more than willing to assist new Dominants. You can learn something from almost everyone, even if it is what not to do or what you don't want to do. The more questions you ask of individuals the more informed you will become. And don't limit yourself to just Dominants. There are submissive's and slaves out there with a wealth of experience and knowledge who you can draw from as well. Their knowledge is just as valid as a Dominants, so talk to them.

4. Be realistic about who and what you are

If you give yourself a title such as Sir or Master or Mistress and you have only been in the scene a few months, prepare to be mocked and laughed at. Seriously. It's not cool. Now, of course, you are free to refer to yourself in any way you see fit. Likewise, people are free to respond in a way that THEY see fit. If you are 26, 36 or 56 years old and have one been involved for 3 months, perhaps calling yourself "Master Baiter" isn't the best idea. And expecting people to refer to you as such probably isn't going to fly.

Understand that there are people who go years before attaching a moniker to themselves or before the community gives them that title. Respect that. Don't make a mockery of their time and energy simply because you thought it would be cool to add Master or Mistress to your name. Especially if you aren't one yet (emphasis on yet -- because who knows, it very well could happen).

5. Just because you saw someone do it, doesn't mean you can

So you went to a private play party or went to a demo and saw someone do something really cool and interesting. The person doing it made it look so easy that you are sure, with your vast intelligence, that you can do it as well, right?......Wrong!

The reason they made it look easy is because  they've probably been doing it for a while. They've had a bunch of practice and have studied it. They didn't just decide that one day they would punch someone in the crotch without looking into all of the things that go into that punch.

So when you see something cool that you want to try, refer to item #3. Ask the person questions, provided their scene is over or maybe at the conclusion of the demo. If they are giving a demonstration, then they are there to answer questions, so ask them and make sure you figure out how to do that cool thing before you try it.

6. Real Doms eat pussy. Real Dommes suck cock.

The notion that Dominants don't or shouldn't perform oral sex is one of the most ridiculous ideas that has been around. As if the mere act of putting your mouth on someone's genitals denotes Dominance or submission. Dommes can take it up the ass too. It doesn't matter. Sexual acts do not define a Dominant. The mind does.

7. Not all women are submissive. Not all men are Dominant.

If you don't believe that, I'd like to introduce you to a few people who will bear personal testimony to that. Do not default to the notion that scene orientation is defined by gender. It's not and your time in this lifestyle, especially if you interact with the public scene, will be a lot easier if you accept and incorporate that fact into your psyche.

8. Honor someone's relationship dynamic

Many people have many different dynamics and protocols in this lifestyle. When in doubt, revert to Item #3. But when made aware of them, do not dismiss them simply because you think they are silly. In reality, they aren't to that individual. But if you are interacting with or want to interact with individuals who have a certain dynamic/protocol, there are only two options. Either honor it to associate with them or don't deal with them at all. Since that is what they have decided for themselves, your opinion will have little or no impact, so complaining or whining about it will do nothing. One day you may develop dynamics or protocols that others may find strange. Think how you would want to be treated in that situation and then behave accordingly. It's funny how there are those who will ask to touch someone's toys but think they can treat someone's partner however they want. A bit weird.

9. Not all slaves are submissive's. Some Dominants do bottom.

There may come the time when you run into a really, REALLY sadistic person. Every now and then, you will find out that said person may actually be a slave. There are some slaves who put the most sadistic Dominants to shame. Trust me on this one. Years ago, when I was special forces, I had a slave partner who was very well trained in the art of advanced battle field hand-to-hand combat. What turned her on the most and made her submit with complete abandonment and passion was for her to hide out in my apartment and when I came home, she would jump out of some hidden place and attack me. It was a game, but not a game. I would have to beat her in physical combat and end it with breath play, then she would melt like butter. I still have scars from the cuts and still feel the fractured bones when the weather changes. Damn, she was brilliant slave! So don't judge!

You also may see or read an account of a Dominant who likes getting flogged or caned. Don't be surprised. And don't judge.

You may discover that you may enjoy the feel of a flogger or a cane. If that is what you like, go for it. It will NOT diminish you, except in the eyes of the petty people.

For some people, things can be more fluid then one is lead to believe. A Dominant can get the crap beat out of them and still remain a Dominant. It's not always the play that matters. It's the mindset. There are times when some things are just physical. It's the way the scene works at time.

10. Dominant = Sadist

Not every Dominant is a Sadist. Not every Dominant enjoys causing a great deal of pain. Not every Dominant wants people in a pile of subby goo.

11. Don't measure yourself by someone else

You have to develop your own style. You have to know what makes you tick and why. Don't do things just because someone else is doing them or it seems cool or because the hot little potential sub is really begging for it. If it's not for you, it's not for you. People are best at what truly inspires them not because of what is cool and hip. While, like high school, there is peer pressure in the BDSM scene/lifestyle, you have the choice as to whether or not you follow it, or follow your own path.

12. Keep an open mind

There are things as a new person that you may not like, that in 2 or 3 or 10 years you may totally be into. Be sure to try out and learn about different things. You never know what turns you off today may totally rock your socks tomorrow. So keep an open eye and an open mind. It will work to your benefit in the long run.

13. Question yourself

A Dominant who doesn't question themselves isn't much of a Dominant. One of the tricks to being a good Dominant (if you are interested in such a thing) is looking and re-examining your actions as a Dominant. Figure out what you did and why you did it. The answers will not always come easy and they may not always be pleasant. But self-awareness and introspection are two crucial tools in a Dominant's play box. Use them and use them often.

14. You can't learn everything over the internet.

The Internet will NOT teach you how to be a good Dominant. It will barely teach you how to be a good Top. The Internet is filled with tons of really good information. It's filled with a bunch of stupid shit too. You cannot teach yourself everything. This is a common misconception. Because, how can you teach yourself something you don't know? Seek out others who are experienced and if you are so inclined, find a mentor. If you don't want to find a mentor, establish your own "tribe" (i.e., group of friends). Use them as a sounding board and an advice corner. Get information from as many different people as you can, then make it your own. Do not rely on sites like or this site, only, for your information. There is a lot more to this stuff than will ever appear on any handful of sites or books.

15. Be honest about your experience

If you've been involved in BDSM for 10 years, but 9 of those years have been online, be honest about that. Don't lie about parties, clubs, dungeons, or events. Be honest about your experience, or lack thereof. You will gain more respect from others that way and it will also accelerate your ability to learn. It will also potentially draw the more experienced to you if you don't pretend that you know everything already. One thing about the lifestyle is, usually, a honest and experienced person, Dom or sub, can smell bullshit a mile away.

16. Try to figure out what type of Dominant you want to be and work towards that

As mentioned previously, there are many types of Dominants. What type you will be will be up to you. But when you find a style that fits, run with it. Endeavor to be the best you can be by learning as much as you can about that particular style, infusing your own style along with it. And don't be afraid to switch gears when its not working for you. After all, this is your journey and your path. You are responsible for it.

17. Switches are not confused.

This is an old adage. Switches are no more confused than bisexuals are. If you can accept the notion of a bisexual person, you can accept the notion of a switch. You may not understand, you may not get it or you may not be comfortable with the notion of a switch. Who cares? If you're not a switch, then it doesn't mean anything. But switches are a part of our community and their role should be respected just as much as you want yours respected.

18. Never trust a big butt and a smile (or tits or cock)

Since the dawn of civilization, a pretty or handsome face has been the downfall of many people. Don't be one of them. Sure it's easy to find someone so physically attractive that, that is all you see. But remember, people are more than their physical appearance. Just because you like big tits or a big cock does not mean that should be the primary motivating factor. If you want a relationship, then go for that -- and hope that the person you are in a relationship actually does have the big tits or cock of your dreams.

19. Not everyone has to submit to you

You are not everyone's Dominant. Not everyone has to call you Sir or Ma'am or bow down and kiss your ring (or boots). That type of deference comes with experience and proving yourself. Just because you see yourself as a Dominant, doesn't mean everyone else will. Treat submissive's in a manner that shows basic respect and consideration. Don't allow yourself to get a more Dom-than-thou attitude and think you can run rough shod over someone else. Others have a choice and they have the right to exercise that choice. You cannot make a decision for someone else that you are not in a relationship with.

20. Never stop learning

No matter how much you learn, or how many people you talk to or how many classes or demos you attend, you will never stop being able to learn something. There are many nuances and subtleties to this lifestyle that take a lifetime to master and incorporate. Everything cannot be learned in a few months or years. Always be open to learning something new. Always be open to the fact that someone can teach you something new. The more you learn, the better you will be. Even if you have been involved for 30 years, there will still be something for you to learn and grow from.


Nitelvr


5/9/2013 12:44:06 AM

I've been contacted by several"slave/subs" in the last two weeks. Oddly, they all have similar emails from hotmail and include some form of megan in it. To no surprise, they all want you to go to an age verification site. The scammers and fakes are heavily flooding this site. Are there any real people left on this site? I've chatted with two so far....


3/19/2013 11:20:51 PM

My goal of learning all the arts of giving pain and pleasure continues. I am relentless in my pursuit. Subs speak of "subspace", there really is a "Domspace" in which he transcends to a higher level in which his senses related to his sub, become so acute he can sense what she is feeling and and wanting. It does exist.


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