niloy on Collarspace

4/18/2015 11:21:50 AM

Humans are different, they have different preferences and when it comes about BDSM it varies much more. In vanilla sexual life peoples' choice are limited (I am not judging or questioning vanilla lifestyle, juts saying from my perspective), what they can do beside sex? anal, oral, poly or gang bang? nothing much more that. Their options are limited. But in BDSM there are so many options. Thats why its not easy to find BDSM couple where every preferences of both party matches. Vanilla people also has disagreement but this is not expressed by their sexual preferences rather by other social and family affairs.

What is the main point in human relationship? The answer will vary people to people but for me its sacrifice. We have to sacrifice in every human relationship otherwise there will not be any peace. Its not logical for us to think that everything I want will match with my wife, or family members and in other social and professional relationships. I will sacrifice some of my desire or preferences then the other party will do some for me.

I have seen many people looking for BDSM relationship, everybody is looking but only a handful gets what they are looking. Most of the relationship get over in just few days. We the D type think that she has agreed to be my slave and now I own her and can do whatever I want with her, she will accept it. Thats fine, but what really bad is we forget that by taking her ownership we are taking her responsibility and by submitting herself she has gained a freedom, ideally she should not have to worry about her well being because the one she has trusted with her freedom will ensure that she is safe, her every need has been fulfilled. Domination comes with responsibility and submission comes with freedom. Although she is a slave, she is human, she has limitation, she is not just a slave that people can buy from a salve market like in the ancient age. The real Dom should understand these.

Slaves also sometimes dont try to understand limitations of the D types. Doms are not superman, they also have limitations. Doms can and should push their slaves and slaves also should accept it as long as its not a hard limit for them.

However, I think the main reason people act weird here is because of deprivation from not getting what they desire most in their life, their dark fantasy of BDSM. I like to think people as good.

Niloy