I am a young Dom who thinks submissives look great wearing lingerie, gags, collars, and handcuffs. They should receive training and proper spankings if necessary. If you consider yourself a good girl, a lady, if you have class, career and goals, but secretly think about BDSM, I might be a good pick. No, I won't think you are my lifetime slave after the third meeting. That said, I am single, and a long-term BDSM relationship is possible with the right person. I am not extreme, so if you are looking to be whipped for hours, you will need to find somebody else. I do have my things together, and I am not abusive. I will not consider you less of a person just because you submitted. And, safe, sane, consensual does NOT imply boring play.

I have been kinky ever since I was about 11 or 12. My childhood was happy: I received a lot of love, and there was no abuse. I remember my grandfather catching me when trying bondage at the age of 12. His reaction was very positive: he didn't make a big deal out of it, and we went riding his bike. I am this guy who started reading at the age of 3, speaks five languages, was top of his class at university, and is in the process of obtaining an advanced degree from one of the best programs in the world. Do not press the back button now. I would spend time reading, kayaking, winter hiking, learning to program computers, listening to Pet Shop Boys and U2. Going to dive bars and dungeons didn't really cross my mind in those days. I played chess competitively, did mountain biking, and was often wondering if any of the girls in my school were secretly kinky too. I bet some of them must have been. Early on, I was often confused about how BDSM fits into all this. It started with innocent fantasies and improvised bondage, and grew stronger and diverse, to the point that I now have kinky fantasies on a daily basis, and prefer my relationships to involve BDSM. The level of intimacy in BDSM can be very deep. A BDSM relationship shouldn't be just about kink, there should be a match just like in every other relationship. Despite the Dom/sub roles, the two partners should respect each other, and help each other improve in every aspect of life. I think in a BDSM relationship both partners can grow well beyond what is possible in a vanilla relationship.

If you like my profile and think we would be a good match, please write to me. I currently live in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA, and my work will likely take me to another city in the future. Life is not forever and really good matches are rare, so consider writing no matter where you live.