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Hello! Thank you for visiting my profile. I am a highly educated professional woman in the sciences. Being single, never-married, no children has its pros and cons... I am very independent, very career oriented, and very much enjoy learning. I have a thirst for knowledge of all things, including this.
Reading a profile is great. You shouId try it if you havent! *wink* I share a lot here, and welcome the same. To walk my talk, I will carefully read your entire profile before corresponding with you.
I am looking for a relationship that is vanilla on the outside and Ds below the surface. Fundamentals for me are.... real life relationships at this point, a SLOWLY developing relationship where we can both unfold the layers of our personality, someone who is within a reasonable drive of PortlandSW WA, and a monogamous relationship only...I am generous in many ways, but not with my body or my heart (or yours).
Anyone outside of the greater Portland, OR area -- sorry, but I am just not open to exploring a LD relationship, nor will I relocate.
ABOUT ME.
I am active locally in the Portland, OR BDSM community. I like workshops, classes, munches, and meeting both Doms and submissives. We are lucky here in Portland to have an incredibly open, welcoming, and positive kink community. I hope you have explored it also! You can find me on FetLife as well. I intend to remain active indefinitely in the local community, learning, laughing, growing (but not sharing!).
I am relatively new to BDSM (fall 2017), but I am as cautious as I am passionate. I have done, and continue to do, my homework on all things Domly and all things submissive. I know what I like, what I want, and what I can offer. So I will not waste your time or mine if I do not feel the connection or potential for it.
I am very sweet and sensual as much as I am intelligent, decisive, and measured. Whatever you see on the surface is genuine, but there is much, much more beneath.
What brought me here...
I have always been drawn to a Dom type (not domineering) in the vanilla world. My online explorations have shown me that I, to my surprise, mesh very well with Daddy Doms. Their patience, support, love and positive reinforcement is intoxicating. And they know when to get stern, too. But above all else, I prioritize healthy functional relationships.
Consent-non-consent is not for me. Gor is not for me. Poly is not for me. Slavery is not for me. There are probably a lot of other things I am not into, and also plenty of things I would be into -- much of which I do not yet know.
Regarding trust.... trust comes with time...it cannot be rushed. But with trust comes my loyalty, fidelity, my body and my mind...and sensuous depth of my submission. Trust starts at zero and builds from there...slowly. A true Dom will enjoy this interplay and the powerful aphrodisiac that trust building can be.
ABOUT THE DOM
Here is what I am hoping to find in the NW Oregon or SW Washington area...
A Dom who makes wise and healthy decisions for a functional life. A Dom who is intelligent, but not chauvinistic or patronizing (true intelligence has a humbling effect, dont you think?). A Dom who can communicate openly about his wants and desires, both kinky and otherwise.
A Dom who is comfortable as an authority figure to a strong and intelligent woman, who is firm (not harsh), and who is strong, but very kind and loving (my submission *thrives* on nurturing Dom styles). One who has patience with my SLOW transition into submission, and who wants the very best for me - including guiding me into exploring submission at a balanced and healthy pace for ME.
A Dom who will not mistake my kindness, empathy, and open mind for weakness.
A Dom who enjoys discourse, and will feed my sapiosexual mind with opinions and thoughts from his own on both vanilla and BDSM topics.
If you are a bit of a sapiosexual, a sensual Dom, or a Daddy Dom, and you live within a reasonable drive of the Portland metro area, I would like to hear from you. You likely have a wealth of knowledge and experience that is valuable, and I welcome your insights.
I am not drawn to men who control through fear, gaslighting, thrive on the insecurity of others, who speak much more than listen, or who are needy (needing and being needed are different from being needy). If your must-have kinks include humiliation, degradation, or belittling -- no judgment, but we are not compatible.
Regarding protocol and honorifics... I am not submissive to *any* Dom...I am submissive to MY Dom. Capitalized pronouns and Domly titles are earned, in my opinion. Otherwise, they are empty. Using them wantonly undermines their value and, if you think about it, makes using them disrespectful.
As well, the Ds dynamic is a sensual, sexual, personal thing for me. Is it for you as well? Giving every Dom capital letters and calling them all Sir or Master is far too personal and intimate for me to feel comfortable doing. But I will give you the same respect and courtesy that I give any person. Its yours to keep or lose.
Thank you very much for reading to the end!
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Thought for the day (hm, check that -- thought for anyone on CS at any time): a person that has to be managed by others like a spoiled child, unable to handle their disappointments and emotions, has no business bearing the title of Dominant. |
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| Age: 45 |
| Ontario,
Canada |
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