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NerdyMistress

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Hello dears,

I am Ms. Rae. I am a polyamorous woman currently in a Female-Led Relationship, looking for a submissive play partner or two.

I am not looking for just a kinky sex partner. That, I could come by easily. What I want is a sweet submissive male or female to explore and scene-build with. A friendship would need to develop, meeting in a vanilla setting and progressing naturally or not at all.

I have a full time career and social life, so a play partner is an investment rather than a fling. I would start slowly, perhaps exploring some bondage, service, impact, or other combinations of mild play to build a groundwork for exploration.

I am very interested in having a service-oriented sub again, as I love receiving massages, pampering, and gifts. However, I am primarily interested in getting a wonderful submissive into their subby headspace in a safe, communicative environment. I want to earn the trust necessary for a pet to truly surrender to the experience. Power isn't won through restraints, but rather, through the mind of the one who wants to be restrained. A person's submission, service, and worship are only meaningful when they come from a place of trust and appreciation. I wish to build that friendship of mutual appreciation.

Do not message me if you're looking for a woman to fuck you. My relationships progress naturally, and while orgasms (forced and denied) are a wonderful part of D/s, it will only come with partners who have a primary focus on power exchange and exploration rather than just getting off.

I do desire a sub who will attend certain vanilla functions with me while still in discreet service. These things may be as nerdy as a renaissance fair or as composed as the theater. In any case, a certain code of conduct and expectations would be laid out beforehand.

My activities with a submissive will vary depending on their skill set, limits, and personality. Some of the things I enjoy include: bondage, sensory deprivation, impact, forced cross dressing, pet play, pampering (receiving, and even giving if I'm especially pleased), chastity, insertables, pegging, humiliation, and role playing/scene building. I am by no means a professional Domme, and I am eager and willing to do research and attend classes if I find myself collaring a sub who has a preference or curiosity outside of my personal experience (such as medical play, rigging, etc). I take safety and responsibility seriously, as I wish to develop a healthy play relationship.

If you wish to send me a message, the likelihood of a response improves dramatically if you include some text about yourself and what it is you're looking for. If the message does not include these things, I assume that it was spammed to me without reading my profile and it is deleted.

I look forward to exploring the depths.

Ms. Rae

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12/15/2017 11:12:42 PM
I thought that it might be fun to put together a few examples of some nerdy activities that I enjoy involving my submissives in.

Cosplay. It's a wonderful chance to dress up and don a character, whether it's at a convention, a party, or a fair. After all, my inner Pirate Queen likes to keep her slave boys and girls looking good and behaving properly at Rennaisance festivals. 

Gaming. I don't like or have even tried everything, but from tabletop to PC, old school to new, there are plenty that I enjoy. Game nights are typically with friends who are at least lifestyle-friendly and are open to bringing collared guests. PC games are also a great way for me to wind down as a submissive either lies at my feet or services my home. I can seamlessly go from cursing a hidden sniper to praising an attentative pet.

Museums and zoos. Attending these with me would be low-key, as they are public vanilla settings. I love many areas of science, most especially biology. My career is in the electrical field, though my passions are varied. I love spending the day checking out the limited time exhibits at MOSI and browsing through zoos. 

Cultural festivals. I enjoy attending events such as the Highland Games, Orlando Japan festival, Taste of Thailand, and more. Sadly, my schedule does not allow me to attend everything that I would like, but having a sub to carry my things and fetch my food and drink makes the day even smoother.

4/20/2017 8:39:13 PM
My messaging process
 
I receive several messages on a daily basis. Many are quickly discarded due to lack of content, incompatibility, and the sender's location (as I'm interested only in real-time). There are still quite a few, however, that hold some promise. 
 
I value quality over quantity, meaning that I only have time to communicate with a few submissives at a time. When one communication dwindles due to fruitlessness or incompatibility, I then have time to pick up correspondences with another potential sub.
 
I delete the messages that are uninteresting, but I retain the ones that I see potential in. As I go through the validation process so to speak, I will work through the promising ones until I either find satisfaction in the sub or subs that I collar, or I find the process to be more time consuming than the yield is worth. 
 
If you send me a respectful message that shows a genuine interest and understanding of my profile, you've included details about yourself that seem compatible, and you live in an area that makes real time possible, chances are your message is sitting in my pool to draw from.
 
The downside to having so many options is that I don't have the time or energy to pursue them all. And it can take weeks of communicating with someone before discovering that they're not truly interested in taking action, or that they've been dishonestly living out a sort of online fantasy. Thus beginning the process of picking out another promising message and responding to it. Meanwhile, there are dozens of potential subs who submitted a nice message and are not hearing back. It's merely a matter of overwhelming numbers. 
 
The positive, however, is the amusement of receiving an angry, whining tantrum of a message when someone lashes out because they weren't responded to. That in itself shows me who is not worth my time once I do have it, and it makes my inbox that much lighter.

4/20/2017 12:34:00 AM
On naming and headspace
 
I find that renaming a submissive helps to facilitate getting into and staying within their bottom headspace. The name is given to them by their Mistress or Master, reinforcing the concept of ownership. When in play, taking on another name can be like taking on another persona. For a while, you are no longer you. At least, not the version of you who gets up every morning to greet the day and all its dramas and responsibilities.
 
No. You are a pet or toy, with an owner who has many good uses for you. Your responsibilities are few and simple, but your contributions are plentiful. You are used and enjoyed, while being ultimately cared for. The rest of the world can fall away with the name you were born with; it will all still be there when the night of tightly bound freedom is at an end.
 

4/19/2017 5:52:17 PM
The gift of a submissive's service means so much more than the typical housecleaning and oral tasks that you see people offering and demanding. The act of giving and receiving helps to bind and strengthen the D/s dynamic, and each slave or submissive offers a part of themselves with each act of service. No particular skills are required, so long as the Mistress is receiving an experience that she enjoys. Her pleasure in turn makes her all the happier with her sub, and all the more enthusiastic in creating a scene tailored just for that special pet.

With that in mind, here are some small, pain-free services that I particularly enjoy (The painful ones belong on a more intimate list):

Receiving massages (full body, partial, scalp, etc), manicures, having my hands pampered with cuticle cream and lotion, having my hair washed and/or brushed, gentle skin-brushing, applying body butter, holding and refilling my drink, preparing a meal, carrying my bags as I shop, cleaning and treating my leather (boots and toys), and I also enjoy watching a male or female sub get all sudsy washing my car. Financial and bought gifts are always wonderful, but I don't want to be confused with the women who are only looking to be paid. I want a pet.

Other skill-based services could be of potential value, but everyone with the heart to serve a kind but firm Domme has something to offer.

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erin234
 
 Age: 53
 Manchester, Ohio