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| Early retired professional, who has had many years experience but never on a regular basis due to career commitments.
Now spending the bulk of my time near Cromer, Norfolk, and wanting to get to grips with the lifestyle on a much more involved basis, in terms of friends and relationships in the BDSM community.
I don't like the multiplicity of labels that people use in the lifestyle, as it tends to pigeonhole people.
I've been a daddy to some, a master to others, etc. . Within these roles there is a wide spectrum of behaviours, depending on the interaction between the Dom and the Sub.
A dominant's responsibility is to nurture, protect and develop the sub; in return for this he/she receives their submission. That's the nutshell, but it encompasses so many variations, e.g. the difference between an independent and confident submissive, and someone only fulfilled by the total surrender of slavery.
I prefer the submissive to the slave.
"You love a kite
Becauuse it pulls
Weak enough to call you master....
Strong enough to call you fool"
Leonard Cohen
To give one illustration of my personal attitude:
I'm not a sadist - I get no sexual turn on from inflicting pain. But when it forms part of a submissive's needs I do it. The arousal comes from witnessing her reaction to that, and the utilisation of my skills to bring about a satisfactory conclusion.
I get intense satisfaction and pleasure from that.
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