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Don't write to me with inane questions that could be answered by using a search engine. |
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It continues to astonish me the amount of people who completely ignore the headline on my profile that says
Professional Dominatrix
and the section in my profile that says:
Please note: I not looking for a love relationship, kinky sex or
personal slaves. If this is what you are seeking, then I am not the Mistress for you.
Honestly, who are these people and what are they thinking?
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They said it wouldn't last... and it didn't. Five years after retiring I'm back working as a professional at a great dungeon in my home town. I'm a very happy Mistress indeed!
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Melbourne is a good place to be a pervert at the moment... four clubs are now running and the punters have heaps of choice. Brilliant!
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If you're going send me a generic message, at least have the foresight to change the name at the top of it!
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I need to get a new hobby... being trolled is so passé!
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I've been around too long to be impressed by name-dropping. In fact, I find it a rather common past-time!
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Dear gods, I'm turning 40 in a month! I must remember to change my age on here, can't have people thinking I'm younger than I am (being accused of lying about my age? I don't think so!). Going to have a bang-up party at Casa Dostova in late Feb and my dear friends are threatening to hire a 16 seater stretch Hummer for the occassion. The west will never be the same again...
Oh and could the kilt wearers please put in an appearance, bring yer wee fiesty sporrans. Thankee ;)
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I was asked what advice I would give to a newbie Mistress, so here it is:
- Read read read read, the more information she can absorb, the better. It will all seem confusing and contradictory, but this way she will be aware of the huge range that BDSM covers. It will make sense later when she's settled into her role.
- Get out there and meet people, all them. The good, the bad and the nutters. Tell her to take on board what people say, but don't take it as gospel. One persons 'dangerous player' is another persons God/dess.
- Support group. Join groups for dominant women, so she can ask questions of people more experienced than her. She'll need other women to bounce things off. there will be a lot going on in her head and support is very important, much more so for women than men.
- practise, practise practise. Go to workshops, learn skills, tell to politely ask dominants who are good at what they do to show her how to do it.
- Balance. She should not dump the other side of her life, because she's found this new shiny lifestyle. She should also not bore or scare her vanilla friends by being 'evanglical' about what she's discovered. It's not dirty or bad, but neither is religion and no-one likes that shoved down their throat. It's like being gay... it's a transition and a process. Other perverts have been through it, this is why the support group is important.
- Consent. Consent works both ways. Not only is it the cornerstone of our lifestyle, the control mechanism that protects the submissive, it's also a dominants right too. Unless she consents to play or engage in activities, either social or private, she doesn't have to. In fact, she doesn't have to do anything she's not comfortable with!
- Sense of humour. Tell her to remember we're all human beings first and foremost, and human beings are fallible, stupid and prone to selfishness. the way to deal with it is with a good sense of humour.
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Isn't it amazing how petulant sub/switch men get when you don't want to play the game of "what will you do with my testicles if you remove them?". Boo hooo, you'll just have to get your cyber jolly's elsewhere. Feel free to bitch about me as much you like, all publicity is good publicity :)
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The great thing about having everything I want is that I don't need anything :)
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A little note to a friend whom I know reads this. I'm having fun, I promise! and you look good in a kilt ;)
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I'm probably going to raise a storm of controversy here, but I really don't like cross-dressers or the variations thereof. It's not a kink that interests me or turns me on these days. It was fine when I was a fiesty sixteen year old hanging out with all the drag queens, loved helping them dress up and do their fabulous shows, but these days... it's really not my thing. Honestly there are far better Mistresses to go to who adore crossies and cater specifically for their kinks, surely it can't be too hard to read profiles and find them?
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There's some very silly men out there, who think that they can lie/cheat/troll/defame a woman and get away with it. Unfortunately for them, a lot of us are friends offline and we do compare notes. So if you do the wrong with by lying, cheating or writing nasty things in your journal about us, it will ruin the chance of you getting anywhere with the other women we know. Our network reaches across Australia and New Zealand, with branches in the UK, USA and Europe.
So dear readers, it would be best if you didn't troll, didn't lie, approached us with manners and treated us like people deserving of respect, not receptables who's sole purpose is to fulfill your tawdry little desires and fantasies, you might actually get somewhere!
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Decided to update my pictures today as it's been quite a while. The main picture was taken before going to the Masquerade Ball in October 07. I hate wearing masks so I did my mask-like makeup instead. The Ball was a very enjoyable evening. If you missed out in 2007, get tickets for next year when they go on presale www.masqueradeaus.com. The second picture was taken at a friends private party in July 07. I was in a reflective mood that evening and I think it shows in my face. The third picture was taken on an evening out with the girls for a friends birthday. We were on our way to a BDSM club in September 07. No quietness that night let me tell you, we had a rollicking good time! The fourth picture was taken in December 06 just before going to the first Hellfire Ressurection and I was mugging it up for the camera (yes I've lost a bit of weight since then, thanks for noticing).
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Remember this journal entry from years ago? 10/31/2004 1:51:49 PM Well well well... met one submissive off here and he seemed like a nice chap. Shame he blew his chance to serve me by not turning up at the specified time this week. Lesson for subbies: if you say you're going to do something for Mistress, do it. Don't make excuses, don't run late, don't muck around. If you really can't do what you said you'd do, ring Mistress and let her know straight away. Otherwise you could end up like this particular chap - nowhere. Disappointing but there you have it. Guess who turned up, expected me to remember who he was. When I did finally work out it, he got a very overdue serve and I got my long awaited apology. No reason other than "I dont know what happened". With all the wonders of modern technology I find that hard to believe. I'm guessing the lad's on the troll again...
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1. Anyone who doesn't use safe words is an idiot, especially if you claim to be a newbie. 2. Finding a Mistress you can trust and that trust you in return will necessitate you getting out from behind your computer and into the real world and meeting people. 3. Expecting to find the 'Mistress of your Dreams' in the scene is unrealistic, you should aim to meet like-minded people and make friends. If some of them happen to be Mistresses, well and good. 4. If you always focus on getting a Mistress, you won't get anywhere. Mistresses get hit on by a lot of submissives. Be a decent, polite, interesting person first and a submissive/slave second, it's far more attractive. 5. Do not expect everyone who meets you to play with you. 6. There is nothing wrong paying money to a good professional who will give you one or more comprehensive 'introduction to BDSM' sessions, so you have a better understanding of what you like, what you can take and what doesn't work for you. 7. Despite what many submissives believe, it's actually a lot of work to train a slave and we don't get turned on by doing it. It's work after all.
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Wow what an amazing few months! Work has been busy, life has been busier and things have never been so good... there was absolutely no time to read my online/forum messages so I turned all my profiles off. With Christmas approaching things are slowing down a bit so I thought I'd post a quick catch-up of my news.
The TRS went very well (especially the post-surgery meeting where the hypnotic suggestion that had been implanted was triggered and the patient then knew his testicles were intact.) But for a few weeks there he felt he had very chiming, heavy balls. It was an excellent head fuck - both for him and for other, somewhat gullible, people. I thoroughly enjoyed the reactions I got, it was very entertaining. Mr TRS, myself and my team all remain the best of friends, no-one else matters. The foot pampering workshop has been postponed to next year due to work commitments. I will be attending quite a few kinky parties over the Christmas break, so I might see some of you there :)
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First meeting with the TRS patient. What a delightful chap! Intelligent, sincere, extremely articulate and totally right for the session. A little note for those who are SO worried about him being a 'lamb for the slaughter' who's being taken in by 'predators', he's perfectly aware of what he's doing and delighted to have such a unique opportunity. It is his body to do with as he wishes, after all, as it is all for all of us living in the free world. Bring on the meditation balls I say!
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I've had some very interesting feedback from a number of submissives whose fetishes are feet and foot related. The way things are shaping up, it looks like we'll be having a workshop with a little party afterwards. (the venue is small so it will be a very intimate gathering, which is not a bad thing in my opinion).
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Goodness. Apparently I am the head of an organisation of Dominatrix's whose only aim in life is to make submissive men miserable... but someone forgot to tell me! I'd love to know when I was doing all these things attributed to me, as well as having a busy social life and running a company. It sounds like it's really a big bunch of terribly sour grapes. Back to far more important things - where are the foot slaves that want to learn pampering?
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It has been (very rightly) pointed out to me that the trampling enthusiasts of Melbourne are well catered for, as all public events allow trampling and they don't have to pay for anything other than their entry fee. Why service a section of the community that is already well looked after? I want to provide a mutually beneficial environment where submissives and foot enthusiasts can learn to pamper feet properly. If they do a good job (which they will be taught) then they will get the rewards, and this is the foot worship. It's a very civlised, service oriented style of D/s that I'm planning to open up to people with my party and trampling really doesn't fit in with that.
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I had such a hot foot worship session with CoolClassy last weekend I have been inspired to run a foot fetish party like the ones i used to work at in Sydney (run by that darling man Door Matt). I used to have such a good time at those parties! A dear friend has already offered me a venue, now I'm just researching what people want and are willing to pay for... once this is done, I'll start on the nitty gritty of putting together an event. I still have my TRS to look forward to early next month, and the Masquerade Ball on the 6th of October. The fun never stops in Melbourne!
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Finally a suitable candidate has been picked, a time has been set and the session will be going ahead next month. What a mammoth exercise in coordination it's been so far... and we're only at the beginning of this particular session. Now that we've got the right 'patient', everything else is falling into place.
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For those of you who are 'shocked' and 'repelled' by my SM predilictions, get over it. My kink is not your kink, but seeing as the session is RACK, I have a right to express myself however i see fit on my profile and journal. To the submissive who was 'so worried' about me he had to talk about it at the social club I attended this weekend, I appreciate your concern but really, it's none of your business. You'd be better served focussing on looking after your own life.
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Just when you think this site is full of rabid nutters, along comes someone who restores your faith in submissive men. D, you're a gem. I hope you find what you're looking for.
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It seems no-one can use google any more! This is for those of you who feel the need to write and ask what a testicular replacement is. Happy reading!
http://www.4-men.org/testicle/testicle-replacement.html
http://www.urology.coloplast.com/testicular-implants/testicular_implant_clinical_study.htm
http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Resourcessupport/Relationshipscommunication/Sexuality/Surgery
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In between the inane, the stupid and the
rampantly ignorant, there have been four intelligent, well thought out
and polite applications for the testicle replacement session. It gives
me great delight to know that amongst the wanna-be's and wankers on
this site, there are still some genuine SM enthusiasts who appreciate
creativity and want to push the boundaries. You gentlemen have made my
week, thank you :)
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What language am I speaking? Because I certainly don't seem to be speaking the same english as a lot of the 'men' on this site... In response to my advertisement for a SM/body modification bottom/submissive I have received queries about crossdressing, foot worship, castration and sexual submission.
Gentlemen let me make it very clear. I have a partner, a slave and a service submissive (yes, count it, three different men) who fulfill different areas of my life. There is no room for another one, certainly not one who wants me to fulfill his perverted little sexual fantasies because he's too cheap to pay for a good prostitute to sexually top him and get paid to care. Do not write to me pretending some form of interest in the session hoping I won't realise what your actual motivation is. I am not a 'Dial-A-Domme' service, nor am I a 'dating agency'... if I'm not interested I can 100% guarantee that my girlfriends won't be interested either. I have limited time and no patience with timewasters.
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One of my pet peeves are people who write to me from this site who lack manners. I'm not talking D/s forms of address, I'm talking about basic manners - such as introducing yourself when you start corresponding, signing off your email with your name/nick, reading the profile to find out what the other person is looking for not just messaging cause they have a cute picture. Just so it's clear - if you do not use your name and address me in a polite manner, I will not take you seriously.
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Oh my wounded ego! I was just accused of being a professional Dominatrix, because I didn't respond the way a wanna-be slave wanted. Of all the insults that get flung when you say "you know what... if you read my profile you'd see I wasn't available for someone like you" it's hardly an insult at all. It's such a nice change to "bitch/whore/slut" etc that usualy gets bandied about after you say "thanks but no thanks" (always after they've been incredibly complimentary in the first approach).
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Do yourself a favour, don't start a conversation with someone on this site without actually reading their profile. It's embarrassing to have to constantly point people to my profile and tell them to read it when they ask "can I be your slave?".
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If you plan to troll other Mistresses when you're already owned, it pays to start up a whole new profile with different pictures. A cheat is bad enough, but a stupid cheat is just insulting! Happy to say it wasn't one of mine who did this.
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Finally! I have found a fantastic service submissive (and he's been under my nose the whole time). Isn't that always the way? |
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What kind of loser writes to me asking to be a companion and footslave yet has a profile announcing that he is not looking and proudly owned by a Mistress?
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In my profile I outline how to apply for my position as a service submissive. It has been there for over six months. I have had one attempt at actually addressing the application criteria. That's depressing odds. Luckily my circle of friends has brought me not one, but two possible submissives... so I may not have to put up with lame "male, 35, fit, willing to travel, do you have webcam?" messages for much longer.
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My profile has bisexual on it, and I do play with both boys and girls alike but if you actually bothered to read my profile it states that I am a non-sexual player. Assuming that I am EASY or a SWINGER or will shag your GIRLFRIEND is a huge mistake and will just get you blocked.
Likewise having a profile listing yourself as a dominant with much experience, but emailing as a submissive and sending pictures of purported Mistress invalidates everything you have claimed in your profile.
Read and learn, submissives, about how to NOT go about finding a Mistress to serve.
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The supercilious newbie git that upset myself and my fellow hostesses with his thinly veiled attacks on our appearance, partners and personalities eventually apologised for his obnoxious behaviour - but only to the Master of the club, not to us. He still claims he wasn't describing actual people in his vicious journal posts. If he was honest about his actions and apologised to the actual people he attacked then he could possibly redeem himself and re-enter that group. But that takes guts and integrity. Does he have it? That remains to be seen... |
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Thanks CoolClassySub for making my night when you messaged me, people like you make putting up with the wankers worthwhile. See you next month! |
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I really dislike submissive men who interrupt a conversation you are having with a friend and ask you if you have any dominant girlfriends who want a subby boy. If I knew anyone who was looking for a submissive, I certainly wouldn't recommend someone who i don't know, who lacks basic manners, only has a conversation with women to try and get their own needs met and bitches when he gets knocked back by my friends. What a silly boy!
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For the Male Doms who appear unable to understand a) irony and b) the concept of having a slave given to another Dominant, I suggest you do some reading into the Traditional - Leather - Gorean lifestyles before sending clever or pithy comments. |
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Oh goodness I appear to have been given a slave. How terrible, how will I cope?
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SEEKING FEM SUBS FOR TRAINING:
I have a number of trainee Mistresses of varying levels of experience who need people to train with. If you are a female submissive and your Dom/me would be comfortable with you being involved in a workshop style training day, please contact myself or MissJezebelle to register your interest.
All enquiries will be in confidence. Transgender/intergender people are also welcome to apply. NO cross-dressers please, this is a female only training space.
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Well this is new one in the "Troll" journal. There's an absolute charmer going around asking for information on the Melbourne scene so he can go out while he's over here for the Commonwealth Games. He claims to be from Hawaii and says Aloha a lot. He also claims to be very sincere and a very experienced submissive looking for friendship only. My experience is that he is perfectly nice one day and a rude, abusive and nasty the next. He also seems to have a serious memory problem, he could not remember adding me to his yahoo list three days earlier during our conversation. Sounds like yet another looney with a more believable story than usual. Consider yourselves warned Mistresses of Melbourne!
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Tell me why, oh why, do people from overseas contact myself or my peers and want to serve or submit to us? and then why do they get offended when reject their advances as they are not in the same country and hence unable to have a real life/time relationship. Interstate is hard enough! Is there such a dearth of decent dominants in europe and the US that they have to troll the antipodes? It never ceases to amaze me that common sense seems to be lacking in so many of those who profess to be interested in this lifestyle. To use the vernacular GET REAL GUYS!!!
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What on earth makes the do-me submissives that seem to inhabit this web site think that if I'm not available to service them, I'll introduce them and their sad, desperate little needs to my friends? How many times do I have to write I AM NOT A DATING SERVICE before these fools realise that personal recommendation is NEVER going to happen! Don't they realise that if a dominant woman doesn't know you, she's certainly not going to ruin her reputation and friendships by landing YOU on her friends? Guys, get a grip - if the woman doesn't want you - her friends sure as heck don't!
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My goodness... it seems that stupidity and rudeness are not just the domain of submissive ignorant or uncaring of the protocol of the BDSM lifestyles. A woman is opportuning the dommes on this site to attend a party - unpaid of course - that she is organising. She doesn't introduce herself or say anything about herself. When asked for a proper introduction, and a background on who she is, where she was trained and who can vouch for her, she gets abusive.
This all screams NewbieDomme syndrome at the best and rip-off scam artist at the worst. Either way, I don't work for nothing for people I don't know!
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Why is it all about them? Male submissives seem to be incapable of grasping the concept that it's about serving the Mistress, not getting their needs and wants met. How many times do I have to hear "I'll do anything... but I won't do that"!
If you really REALLY want to serve a Mistress, don't write with all the things you want done to you - ask her what you can do for her. And don't ruin it by assuming that means you'll get play, because that may not be the case.
If you say you'll serve, then do the service because you love it and you can... not because it makes your dick hard. If you're in it because you love hot kinky latex sex, then say that, do not misrepresent yourself!
My advice to all male subs coming into the scene is that if you go in with the expection of finding a Mistress for play or a relationship, you have set yourself up for failure. If you go in looking for like-minded people and hopefully to make friends, you are more likely to succeed. Desperation is not attractive and male subs are thick on the ground.
Work on yourself, make your presentation and personality pleasing while retaining the core of your personality (we can sniff fakes a mile away). As you get to know people, you may meet a Mistress that takes a shine to you and may even play with you. Sitting online desperately trolling won't get you out there meeting real people who really live and breathe the BDSM and it's attendant lifestyles. Go on, be brave, take the plunge and go out and meet kinksters face to face. We're all human beings before and above anything else, so what are you waiting for? Get out and do it!
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Well well well... met one submissive off here and he seemed like a nice chap. Shame he blew his chance to serve me by not turning up at the specified time this week. Lesson for subbies: if you say you're going to do something for Mistress, do it. Don't make excuses, don't run late, don't muck around. If you really can't do what you said you'd do, ring Mistress and let her know straight away. Otherwise you could end up like this particular chap - nowhere.
Disappointing but there you have it.
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