After being on this site for several months now, I have come to enjoy the provocative photos and profiles.   They do get your attention and make me think.  The flip side to that thought is how much is reality and how much is fantasy.  Of course I would love to say I have no limits, I have no pain threshold or that I would walk down the street naked beside you if asked.  But then what is left...  if all our fantasies are reality where do the fantasies go?  Isn't the real test of the relationship to share the fantasy, to be open and trusting of your partner, M/s, Dom etc to share with each other these things.  My submission is one of my most cherished possessions, not something to give away on a whim.  Yes I can "submit" to someone but to me that is not the same.